

{"id":71910,"date":"2021-11-29T08:02:51","date_gmt":"2021-11-29T08:02:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=71910"},"modified":"2023-12-03T15:53:38","modified_gmt":"2023-12-03T15:53:38","slug":"giving-a-man-space-to-pursue-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/giving-a-man-space-to-pursue-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Give Space to a Man So He Pursues You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71915\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/how-to-give-space-to-a-man-so-he-pursues-you.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Couple Smiling Communicating Enjoying Outdoor\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men love the thrill of the chase, but how do you get him to settle down with you without getting bored?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re looking up &ldquo;How to give a man space to chase you,&rdquo; then you&rsquo;re probably hitting a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/how-to-improve-your-love-life-in-6-easy-steps\/\">wall in your love life<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your boyfriend may have told you that he needs space, and you&rsquo;re wondering why. You may feel like you&rsquo;re always the one chasing the guy you like, and you want to turn the table.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many reasons why you should let him pursue you for a change. Whether you are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-talk-to-your-crush\/\">trying to get your crush<\/a> to notice you or getting your boyfriend to play this fun and flirty game of giving a man space to pursue, it may be the answer you were looking for.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the tricks for how to give a guy space? And how long should you give someone space so that they don&rsquo;t lose interest? Keep reading for all the tips and tricks.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Does-giving-a-man-space-work\"><\/span>Does giving a man space work?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does giving a man space work? Absolutely!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How long should I <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-give-him-space-in-relationship\/\">give him space<\/a>? This is a question you might be asking while you&rsquo;re deep in the throes of giving a man space to pursue you. After all, you want him to fall for you, not lose interest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give him just enough space to wish you were around and remember why he wants you in his life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;ll know it&rsquo;s working if your crush or boyfriend starts reaching out more often and seems excited and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/spending-time-together\/\">eager to spend time with you<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-have-a-quality-time-with-your-partner\/\">11 Ways to Have Quality Time With Your Partner<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-it-mean-to-give-him-space-so-he-pursues-you\"><\/span>What does it mean to give him space so he pursues you?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you first met your guy, there was probably an instant connection. You had a chemistry that was like fireworks! Then, just as you start developing something real together, your guy loses interest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is when it&rsquo;s time to give him space <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/when-a-guy-says-he-misses-you\/\">to think about what he&rsquo;s missing<\/a>. Giving a man space to pursue you is otherwise known as &lsquo;playing someone hot and cold.&rsquo; One minute you&rsquo;re flirting with him, and the next, you&rsquo;re acting like you&rsquo;re too busy to give him any time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;re making him think you like him and then doing something that shows the opposite, like taking days to respond to his texts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How long should I give him space? That depends on what kind of guy he is and how big of a wake-up call he needs. Some women only need to play the game for a week before he comes around, while others spend up to a month to give him space to fall in love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Signs-a-man-is-pursuing-you\"><\/span>Signs a man is pursuing you<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing if a man is pursuing you will help you learn how and when to give a guy space to make sure his flame is still burning hot for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some of the telltale signs that he&rsquo;s into you:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><b>He maintains eye contact<\/b><\/li>\n<li><strong>He looks for reasons to make contact, such as brushing his hand against yours as you walk or moving hair out of your face<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He smiles when you smile<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He makes plans with you regularly<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>You connect on an emotional level<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He checks you out<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He has a sweet nickname for you<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He&rsquo;s invited you to meet his family\/closest friends<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He compliments you<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He dresses up for you<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>He&rsquo;s active on your social media<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are all pretty good indications that a guy is trying to pursue a relationship with you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, once the thrill of the chase has ended, men can sometimes lose interest. That&rsquo;s why giving him space to figure out what he wants is such a genius idea.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/signs-of-a-married-man-in-love-with-another-woman\/\">20 Signs of a Married Man in Love With Another Woman<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-Do%E2%80%99s-and-don%E2%80%99ts-to-give-a-man-space-so-he-pursues-you\"><\/span>10 Do&rsquo;s and don&rsquo;ts to give a man space, so he pursues you<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71917\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/dos-and-donts-to-give-a-man-space-so-he-pursues-you.jpg\" alt=\"African American Couple Dating in Restaurant. Romantic Couple in Love Dating\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let him pursue you, you&rsquo;re building the man of your dreams. One who reaches out first reassures you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-signs-you-are-insecure-in-your-relationship\/\">when you&rsquo;re feeling insecure<\/a> and is wild about spending time with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But how long should you give someone space? How do you give a guy space when all you want to do is tell him <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-show-someone-you-care\/\">how much you care<\/a>?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep reading for the do&rsquo;s and don&rsquo;ts about how to give a man space to chase you<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Do: Understand why you&rsquo;re doing this<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How long should I give him space before I let him know I&rsquo;m still crazy about him?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s understandable that you may worry that when you give him space to figure things out, you open yourself to the possibility of realizing he doesn&rsquo;t want to be with you anymore. This is a valid concern, so i important to understand why you&rsquo;re doing this and how to give a man space to chase you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whenever you feel tempted to overwhelm him with love and affection when he&rsquo;s asked for space, remind yourself that this will either:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remind him how crazy he is for you, or<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Weed out somebody who isn&rsquo;t worth your time<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Viewing things with this mindset can make you feel more comfortable with the possibility that space will end the connection for good.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Don&rsquo;t: Text him all the time<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We live for texting in relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you&rsquo;re pouring your heart out through text or giving a casual but sweet three-heart-emoji response, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/233096873_Text_Messaging_and_Connectedness_Within_Close_Interpersonal_Relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">texting can help you convey how much you care.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> That&rsquo;s why you must cut back on texting if you&rsquo;re giving a man space to pursue you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Texting is <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/flirting-for-fun-vs-flirting-with-intent\/\">fun and flirty<\/a>, but it&rsquo;s also way too easy to brush someone off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever sent a heartfelt message only to get a smiley face back from your guy?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Backing off from texting and making your guy work for that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\">emotional intimacy<\/a> means you give a man space to fall in love.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/should-i-text-him-quiz\">Should I Text Him Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>3. Do: Continue being your awesome self<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By which we mean, you don&rsquo;t want him to think you don&rsquo;t like him, so when he does finally reach out, be likable and charming. Flirt a little and let him know you&rsquo;re still excited to talk to him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving someone space <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-make-him-miss-you\/\">to miss you<\/a> is magic, but you never want to go so far that he starts to think you&rsquo;re angry with him or that you&rsquo;re a cruel person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em>Watch this video to learn how to be happy all the time:<\/em><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/78nsxRxbf4w\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Don&rsquo;t: Chase after him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving a man space to pursue you means you need to leave him alone for a while. You should be the one being chased, not the one chasing him around. Let him pursue you!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By letting him know you won&rsquo;t come running, you&rsquo;re giving him space <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-tell-what-a-guy-wants-from-you\/\">to figure out what he wants from you<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Do: Ghost for a Day<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re stressing out over wondering, &ldquo;How long should I give him space?&rdquo; or &ldquo;How much space should I give him?&rdquo; It may be best to start small.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/322442819_Ghosting_and_destiny_Implicit_theories_of_relationships_predict_beliefs_about_ghosting\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ghost<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> your man for one day or give it the weekend and see how it goes. Don&rsquo;t prioritize his texts or calls as this is an excellent tip for giving a man space to pursue you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can take it a step further by posting a fun photo on Instagram to let him see that you&rsquo;re cool being on your own (or with your friends) when he asks for space.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-ghosting\/\">What Is Ghosting<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. Don&rsquo;t: Be mean about it<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving someone space to miss you is not an excuse to be mean or cruel.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is a difference between playing a flirty game and completely disrespecting someone&rsquo;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/\">mental health<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s so important to learn how to give him space\/how long you should give someone space.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If things aren&rsquo;t working after a week of trying, it may be time to cut your losses and prevent yourself from developing a reputation as a manipulator.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Do: Keep him wanting more<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71916\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/do-keep-him-wanting-more.jpg\" alt=\"Man and Women Cuddling Indoors\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How long should I give him space? <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/5407182_Maintaining_Sexual_Desire_in_Intimate_Relationships_The_Importance_of_Approach_Goals\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As long as it takes for him to want more and more.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever watched a great television show that proceeded to drag on for 10 more seasons and lose its magic? This is the exact opposite of what you want to happen <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/having-a-crush-on-someone-who-is-in-a-relationship\/\">with your crush<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give him some space to let him pursue you, and you won&rsquo;t have to worry about that spark burning out.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-does-ignoring-a-guy-make-him-want-you-more\/\">Why Does Ignoring a Guy Make Him Want You More<\/a>?<\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. Don&rsquo;t: Become obsessive<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One tip for giving a man space to pursue you is not to become obsessive about your mission.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You want him to like you and want to be giving him space to figure out what he wants. It&rsquo;s important to you &ndash; but try not to think about it 24\/7.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The biggest tip for how to give a guy space is to be genuine about it. Instead of viewing it as a game, go out and live your life. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationship-feels-like-friendship\/\">Connect with friends<\/a>, be independent, show him that you love spending time with him, but you&rsquo;re just as happy to be on your own if he isn&rsquo;t interested.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/do-you-have-an-obsessive-love-disorder\">Do You Have an Obsessive Love Disorder<\/a>?<\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>9. Do: Find ways to connect with him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is there a tip for how to give a man space but still <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/ways-to-show-love-to-the-people-you-care-about\/\">show you care<\/a>? Of course, there is!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving him space to figure out what he wants doesn&rsquo;t mean you cannot talk to him.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Don&rsquo;t: Be disappointed if it doesn&rsquo;t work<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving a man space to pursue you isn&rsquo;t a sure-fire thing. You plan to give a man space <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/fall-in-love\/\">to fall in love<\/a>, but he may end up deciding he isn&rsquo;t interested in waiting around for you to show him you care.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be careful when giving someone space to miss you. It doesn&rsquo;t always work and may result in a lost boyfriend and a bad reputation as a ghost.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/is-he-losing-interest-in-you-quiz\">Is He Losing Interest In You Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Conclusion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to give someone space is an art.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you&rsquo;re giving a man space to pursue you or giving him space to figure out what he wants, learning &ldquo;how much space should I give him?&rdquo; is key.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving someone space to miss you will help them develop an appreciation for you. They&rsquo;ll realize what they have and work hard <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\">to keep the relationship healthy<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How long should I give him space? Do what feels right, but don&rsquo;t drag it out for months and months. Give a man space to fall in love by playing him hot and cold, but don&rsquo;t get cocky and toy with his feelings, or he may lose interest altogether.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Men love the thrill of the chase, but how do you get him to settle down with you without getting bored? If you&rsquo;re looking up &ldquo;How to give a man space to chase you,&rdquo; then you&rsquo;re probably hitting a wall in your love life.&nbsp; Your boyfriend may have told you that he needs space, and you&rsquo;re wondering why. You may feel like you&rsquo;re always the one chasing the guy you like, and you want to turn the table. There are many reasons why you should let him pursue you for a change. 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