

{"id":71752,"date":"2021-11-24T07:58:40","date_gmt":"2021-11-24T07:58:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=71752"},"modified":"2022-12-07T08:06:12","modified_gmt":"2022-12-07T08:06:12","slug":"signs-she-isnt-into-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-she-isnt-into-you\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Signs She Isn&#8217;t Into You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71757\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/signs-she-isnt-into-you.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Having an Argument on the Sofa\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you catch <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-does-it-mean-to-have-feelings-for-someone\/\">feelings for someone<\/a>, it&rsquo;s quite a journey to determine whether that person feels that way about you. It&rsquo;s like a constant guessing game of whether she likes you in that way or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Signs she is not into you? Is it effortless to figure out whether the girl you&rsquo;re pining after has feelings for you? Well, there are sure signs she is not into you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A few of these signs are pretty subtle, whereas some are quite direct. Although<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/full\/10.1177\/2158244013492160\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> unrequited love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a harsh reality that you may have to deal with, it&rsquo;s better to hurt a little now than <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-have-a-quality-time-with-your-partner\/\">spend a lot of time<\/a> drowning in confusion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/1993-97179-000\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> pain of one-sided love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and identifying the signs she is not into you is difficult undoubtedly, but what&rsquo;s more confusing is if you&rsquo;re in a situation where the person you&rsquo;re interested in has shown some interest in you. Still, the signals (from the girl) are hot and cold.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another equally challenging and confusing situation is if you&rsquo;re already with someone and the question &ldquo;is she still into me?&rdquo; bothers you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><i>The decision to express your feelings, propose a relationship, and potentially invest time and effort into being with someone needs to be well thought out.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, if you&rsquo;re in a situation where you&rsquo;re getting mixed signals from a girl you have feelings for, continue reading.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>15 Signs that she isn&rsquo;t into you<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned earlier, if you&rsquo;re already with someone and feel like they&rsquo;ve lost feelings for you or you&rsquo;ve had a hunch that a lady you&rsquo;re interested in doesn&rsquo;t reciprocate those feelings for you, verify with the following 15 signs she is not into you:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Flaking on plans is a common thing for her<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is she always swamped, or is she not interested in hanging out with you? Ask yourself this hard-hitting question.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about the times when you&rsquo;ve made plans, and then you find her flaking in the last moment? Is she busy? Or is it one of the signs she is not into you?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understandably, sometimes urgent situations come up, but how often does it happen with the women you&rsquo;re like? And do these emergencies happen precisely when you two decide to meet?<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/maintain-love-in-married-life\/\">7 Ways to Maintain Love in Married Life<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. She doesn&rsquo;t maintain any communication with you for days at a time<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71759\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/she-doesnt-maintain-any-communication-with-you-for-days-at-a-time.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Having an Argument Over White Background\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned earlier, as people grow up, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/accepting-responsibility-in-relationships\/\">with the increasing responsibilities<\/a>, life gets busy. So, maintaining constant communication with someone you have feelings for isn&rsquo;t possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/taking-a-break-in-a-relationship\/\">taking some time out every day<\/a> or often to talk to that special person is manageable. One of the main signs a woman is not interested<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is when she doesn&rsquo;t want <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-put-effort-in-a-relationship\/\">to put in the effort to do this<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. She only communicates with you whenever it&rsquo;s convenient for her<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the rare occasion that you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-to-communicate-your-needs-in-a-relationship\/\">get to communicate with<\/a> the woman you like, does it always happen when convenient for her?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If so, it may indicate that she doesn&rsquo;t feel any excitement or urgency to meet you or talk to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is another one of the signs she&rsquo;s not interested in.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-to-communicate-in-a-relationship-with-a-man\/\">15 Ways on How to Communicate in a Relationship With a Man<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4.<\/b> <b>She leaves you behind in group settings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re hanging out with your crush in group settings with your friends or acquaintances, how does she behave? To be precise, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/treat-each-other-as-you-want-to-be-treated\/\">how does she treat you<\/a>?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does she give you extra attention in group settings, or does she ignore you? Do you find her chatting a lot with your friends or acquaintances and completely ignoring you? It may be another of the signs she is not into you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. You haven&rsquo;t met anyone in her circle<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is probably one of the more direct indications of her lack of interest in you romantically. The thing is that if she considered you to be special to her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/the-role-of-romance-in-a-relationship-and-its-importance\/\">in a romantic sense<\/a>, she would probably make her close friends or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/8-ways-to-show-appreciation-to-the-love-of-your-life\/\">loved ones meet you<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/when-will-i-meet-my-soulmate-quiz\">When Will I Meet My Soulmate Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. She never takes the initiative to hang out with you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you the only one making all these elaborate <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/making-time-for-you-and-your-spouse\/\">plans to spend time with her<\/a> (which she probably flakes on)? How many times has your crush taken the initiative to make any plans to hang out with you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your crush hasn&rsquo;t taken any initiative, it may be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/is-it-natural-for-men-to-lose-interest-in-a-marriage\/\">due to the lack of interest<\/a> on her end.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7.<\/b> <b>She emphasizes the fact that you two are just friends&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to know if a girl is not interested? She&rsquo;ll keep on emphasizing the fact that she and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationship-feels-like-friendship\/\">you are just friends<\/a>. And she may probably be saying this to you and others who ask.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using this term too loosely may be a prominent sign of her lack of interest (romantically) in you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Watch this video to know if you have been friendzoned and how to get out of it:<br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uoI11Ih13Zs\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. She avoids physical contact with you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/stages-of-physical-intimacy-in-a-new-relationship\/\">Physical intimacy acts are a part of budding relationships<\/a>. That shy kiss or that hug that lasted too long or small physical touches like brushing the shoulder, etc., are important.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These gestures <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/common-interests-in-a-relationship\/\">show mutual interest<\/a>. But if your crush avoids most forms of physical contact (excluding that enthusiastic high-five from time to time), she might not be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-attraction\/\">romantically attracted to you<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re in a relationship and you see your significant other avoiding physical contact with you, it may be one of the signs she doesn&rsquo;t like you anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/sex-and-intimacy-quiz\">Intimacy Quiz- How Sexually Intimate Is Your Relationship<\/a>?<\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>9.<\/b> <b>Terse and blunt replies to your texts<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one of the direct signs she is not into you.<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Monosyllabic replies to your texts (irrespective of the text content) are a tell-tale sign that she <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-is-confused-about-his-feelings-for-you\/\">doesn&rsquo;t have feelings for you<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10.<\/b> <b>You often find her telling silly lies to you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A big reason she may not <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/reciprocal-relationship\/\">reciprocate your feelings<\/a> for your crush is that she&rsquo;s very busy with work or not ready to date yet. And that&rsquo;s alright. But if she isn&rsquo;t honest about these things, it shows a complete lack of interest on her end.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/is-my-boyfriend-lying-to-me-quiz\">Is My Boyfriend Lying to Me Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>11. She isn&rsquo;t at all concerned about her physical appearance in your presence<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-getting-too-comfortable-in-a-relationship\/\">good to slowly feel comfortable<\/a> around one&rsquo;s significant other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, in the beginning <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-survive-the-different-stages-of-a-relationship\/\">stages of romantic relationships<\/a>, women usually put some effort into looking together for people they&rsquo;re romantically interested in.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Prefers to primarily spend time with you with other familiar friends<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71758\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/prefers-to-primarily-spend-time-with-you-with-other-familiar-friends.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Having a Disagreement Sitting on the Bench With White Studio Background Wall\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another one of the direct signs she is not into you is that she doesn&rsquo;t reciprocate your feelings for her if she only agrees to hang out with you in group settings. She probably only sees as a friend.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a woman has <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/the-role-of-romance-in-a-relationship-and-its-importance\/\">romantic feelings for a person<\/a>, she will try to make plans to spend time with that person alone. Although group settings are great, some privacy is also important.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/should-we-stay-together-quiz\">Should We Stay Together Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>13. She does not commit to any plans with you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you tried <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationship-building-activities\/\">to suggest fun plans<\/a> to hang out with your crush, which involves going to concerts or amusement parks or a road trip or a getaway? What was her response?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did she seem very unsure about any plans related to the future? Well, it&rsquo;s one of the signs she is denying her feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is also relevant if you&rsquo;re already <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/reasons-to-be-in-a-relationship\/\">in a relationship<\/a>. If your beloved isn&rsquo;t quite willing to commit to any plans at all, she may have lost that romantic interest in you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Her behavior towards you changes according to the setting or situation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your crush has expressed some degree of interest in you, but it&rsquo;s a hot and cold situation with her, observe how your crush behaves in group settings and when she&rsquo;s alone with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Suppose you see her being rude or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/reasons-why-is-she-ignoring-you\/\">completely ignoring you<\/a> or treating you just as a friend in group settings. She probably isn&rsquo;t quite interested. This is applicable even if she&rsquo;s nice to you when you two are alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/how-does-he-feel-about-me-quiz\">How Does He Feel About Me Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>15. She&rsquo;s indirectly mentioned to you that she isn&rsquo;t interested in you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consent is important. If you&rsquo;ve heard her say stuff like &ldquo;relationships aren&rsquo;t my thing&rdquo; or &ldquo;we&rsquo;re just friends&rdquo; or other indirect phrases that express her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/what-to-do-when-there-is-no-romance-in-a-relationship\/\">lack of interest in a relationship<\/a>, take it as a sign.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>She isn&rsquo;t interested in you: What to do next?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If quite a few of the signs she is not into you have matched for you, don&rsquo;t worry. Maybe you want to know what to do if your girlfriend doesn&rsquo;t love you anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Try following these tips to cope:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Limiting the amount of time you spend with your crush is important.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to engage in minimal texting with your crush.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b><i>Try not to stalk your crush on various social media platforms.<\/i><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Consider temporarily muting their notifications on social media (if feasible).<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b><i>Consider taking a clean break from your crush if your feelings for her are very intense.<\/i><\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>Conclusion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heartbreak and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/232549899_Unrequited_Love_On_Heartbreak_Anger_Guilt_Scriptlessness_and_Humiliation\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">unrequited love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be arduous to deal with. You may be feeling down right now. But remember to stay open to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/how-to-find-true-love\/\">possibility of finding love<\/a> from someone else! Someone exceptional!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you catch feelings for someone, it&rsquo;s quite a journey to determine whether that person feels that way about you. It&rsquo;s like a constant guessing game of whether she likes you in that way or not. Signs she is not into you? Is it effortless to figure out whether the girl you&rsquo;re pining after has feelings for you? Well, there are sure signs she is not into you. A few of these signs are pretty subtle, whereas some are quite direct. Although unrequited love is a harsh reality that you may have to deal with, it&rsquo;s better to hurt a <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":71757,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2498],"tags":[2581],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/71752"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=71752"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/71752\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":72162,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/71752\/revisions\/72162"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/71757"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=71752"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=71752"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=71752"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}