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The demographics of relationships and family structures are changing rapidly. The values of couples and views on the underpinnings of a healthy relationship are also changing. Age-old gender roles and antiquated stereotypes are falling by the wayside. <\/span><\/p>\n However, with this newfound relational consciousness comes the increasing need for both partners or spouses to make sure they are living up to each other’s expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n The divorce rate <\/span>statistics <\/span><\/a>in this country have been somewhat skewed by the Covid Pandemic, and now it’s at a fifty-year low. However, these numbers can be misleading since forced cohabitation due to quarantines and lower rates in housing availability have made it even more important for partners to be on the same page. <\/span><\/p>\n John Gottman<\/span><\/a> wrote about four horsemen of the marriage apocalypse.<\/span><\/p>\n Gary Chapman<\/span><\/a> wrote about the five love languages to understand each other’s ways of showing and receiving affection. <\/span><\/p>\n Masters and Johnson<\/span><\/a> wrote about four stages of sexual response in partners. <\/span><\/p>\n Baumrind <\/span><\/a>wrote about the three types of parenting styles, and every couple should be recommended to read about all of them. <\/span><\/p>\n In short, there are four categories for grading your partner in the relationship that stand out as crucial factors in determining the success of any relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n It is important to familiarize ourselves with these factors of grading your partner in the relationship, thus identifying where these problems may lie and opening ourselves up to our partner’s perspective. <\/span><\/p>\n So, how do we do this?<\/span><\/p>\n The first thing I have couples do when they begin the counseling process is to grade each other on a five-point (A-F) scale, with 5 being the highest\/best mark they can give their partner through four distinct categories. <\/span><\/p>\n The four categories I ask couples for grading the partner in the relationship are:<\/span><\/p>\n Is there romance, intimacy, and closeness in this relationship? <\/span><\/p>\n This is an important category for grading your partner in the relationship, as intimacy is the only factor that distinguishes a personal relationship from a plutonic one, and sex is not the only variable within this category. <\/span><\/p>\n Romance or intimacy can take on many forms, from the simplest endearing touch to the most outrageous role play. However, it is necessary for a personal relationship to thrive. <\/span><\/p>\n Check out this video to understand how to create conscious intimacy in the relationship:<\/span>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>20 Keys to a Successful Long Term Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
4 elements for grading your partner in the relationship<\/b><\/h2>\n
1. Intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>How Important Is Intimacy in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n