

{"id":71163,"date":"2021-11-01T11:05:57","date_gmt":"2021-11-01T11:05:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=71163"},"modified":"2026-01-06T10:21:25","modified_gmt":"2026-01-06T10:21:25","slug":"risk-of-cheating-in-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/risk-of-cheating-in-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"16 Risk Factors for Infidelity in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71172\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/risk-factors-that-raise-the-risk-of-cheating-in-relationships.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Cheating on Each Other at Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Betrayal of any kind in romantic relationships and marriages can have a major impact on the relationship. It can challenge the integrity of the relationship. It doesn&rsquo;t matter whether it&rsquo;s a minor act of betrayal or something very significant.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most notable acts of betrayal in marriages and romantic relationships is infidelity. If the risk of cheating is very high in an intimate relationship, it can inflict significant damage to one or both partners and negatively impact the relationship. Hence, it is essential to know the risk factors for cheating.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Define-Infidelity-or-cheating-in-marriage\"><\/span><b>Define Infidelity or cheating in marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/types-of-cheating-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is cheating in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Here&rsquo;s the thing about cheating in a relationship: every couple and every individual has their perception and understanding of infidelity. Infidelity is of many types. Infidelity in a marriage can manifest in different ways.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be an emotional, financial, romantic, or sexual relationship of one or both partners with other people.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Traditionally there are two types of cheating in a relationship &ndash; emotional and physical. It can be a one-time occurrence or habitual.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to understand online love and cheating.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gQGjAp4GXU4\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-causes-infidelity-in-relationships\"><\/span><b>What causes infidelity in relationships?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to cheating in marriages and relationships, several factors affect the risk of cheating. Yes, it&rsquo;s true. These factors are the risk factors for cheating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These risk factors include excessive use of the internet, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/3-reasons-why-a-lack-of-communication-in-marriage-can-be-detrimental\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lack of communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, porn addiction, alcohol or drug abuse, boredom, lack of strong bond between partners, feeling alone and unwanted, etc.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are so many causes for cheating in a relationship. So, if you wish to learn more about the causes of cheating in a relationship or whether you or your partner are at risk of cheating, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/causes-of-infidelity-in-relationships\/#15_causes_of_infidelity_in_relationships\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">read this article.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/causes-of-infidelity-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Most Common Causes of Infidelity in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"16-risk-factors-for-cheating-in-romantic-relationships\"><\/span><b>16 risk factors for cheating in romantic relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infidelity is, unfortunately, a common occurrence. It is not something that is specifically restricted to heterosexual relationships. It&rsquo;s been reported to occur in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/same-sex-marriage\/gay-relationship-advice\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">homosexual relationships <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, people of different age groups, gender identities, and sexual orientations engage in cheating. Whether the couple is married, just dating, engaged, or in an unmarried romantic relationship doesn&rsquo;t matter. Infidelity is, unfortunately, very common and frequent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The risk of cheating can be understood by analyzing the different factors related to infidelity. The factors contributing to marriage infidelity may be subtle, or they may be quite direct. It&rsquo;s important to have the eye to identify these factors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A big part of understanding infidelity is to have an open stream of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/tips-for-effective-communication-between-couples\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication between both partners<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of the relationship about the risk of cheating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most couples avoid openly discussing infidelity because they probably don&rsquo;t feel safe enough. It&rsquo;s not just that. There may be a host of personal or individual factors that may increase the risk of cheating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, in understanding the risk factors that impact infidelity, it is essential to understand that these factors may be divided into two major categories: risk factors related to the romantic relationship and individual risk factors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These two types of risk factors have been discussed in the following section.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Individual risk factors<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Risk factors related to the relationship<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71174\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/the-risk-factors-that-impact-the-risk-of-cheating-in-romantic-relationships-and-marriages.jpg\" alt=\"Side View of Unfaithful Man and Woman Are Cheating on the Phone While Hugging Each Other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%97%8F-Individual-risk-factors-for-cheating\"><\/span><b>&#9679; Individual risk factors for cheating<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These risk factors are specific to one or both individuals involved in a romantic relationship or marriage. These factors are not related to the relationship but depend on those in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The individual risk factors have been listed as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. The younger the age, the higher the risk of infidelity<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Age is a big factor, especially in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencegate.app\/keyword\/452102\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">heterosexual relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If people commit to long-term relationships from a very young age, there is a major risk of cheating. Why so? This is because there is a gap when it comes to adequate experience as well as wisdom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you or your partner are quite young, it may be common to have feelings or thoughts of attraction related to people who aren&rsquo;t your significant other. This is where the importance of healthy mentoring relationships comes into the picture.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Certain personality types&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A certain personality type tends to be more susceptible to the desire to cheat. The risk of cheating is quite high for individuals with a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">narcissistic personality<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> type. How? It&rsquo;s because narcissists experience a strong attraction towards those who flatter them. They may also love the thrill of the chase.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Other than that, individuals who generally have a loose moral compass are also at a higher risk for engaging in infidelity. If you notice that your partner has a seductive way of carrying themselves, it&rsquo;s another risk.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Genetic factors or a history of infidelity in the family<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although this does seem quite uncommon, it isn&rsquo;t. If you or your partner have a family history of cheating, you or your partner may be more prone to cheating. Growing up in a family environment where a child witnesses infidelity impacts the child.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For this child, infidelity may be normalized, to a certain extent, at an unconscious level.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/what-constitutes-infidelity-in-a-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Constitutes Infidelity in Marriage?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Unhealthy attachment styles increase the risk of infidelity<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The type of attachment style an individual has plays a big role in determining their risk of cheating. People who have <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/avoidant-attachment\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">avoidant attachment styles<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or dismissive attachment styles are at quite a high risk for engaging in infidelity.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. The overall self-concept of an individual is important<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-concept is a broad term encompassing a person&rsquo;s belief system about themselves, their understanding of their potential and capabilities, and so on. In particular, if a person is highly insecure with low self-esteem, they&rsquo;re at a higher risk of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/signs-your-partner-isnt-loyal\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disloyalty in a marriage or relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. A history of childhood trauma<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;ve had a difficult childhood or your partner has had a difficult childhood, it may put either or both of you at a higher risk of cheating in your relationship. An upbringing ridden with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/263047278_Childhood_trauma_and_couple_relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">traumatic <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">events (which may or may not involve witnessing infidelity) may be one reason for extramarital affairs.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Addictive tendencies&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you or your partner find yourselves quite dependent on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/alcoholrehab.com\/drug-addiction\/effects\/substance-abuse-and-relationships\/#:~:text=Substance%20abuse%20has%20an%20impact%20on%20interpersonal%20relationships.,company%20of%20other%20heavy%20drinkers%20or%20drug%20users.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">substances like drugs or alcohol<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it&rsquo;s quite risky. This is especially relevant for alcohol. People who drink regularly may do so in social settings such as nightclubs, bars, or restaurants.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alcohol is infamous for lowering one&rsquo;s inhibitions. This can lead to situations of infidelity.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/when-is-it-time-to-leave-an-alcoholic-spouse\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When Is It Time to Leave an Alcoholic Spouse<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. A personal history of cheating in past relationships&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Has your partner confessed about one or more cheating incidents in their past relationships?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/christiana-njoku\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Christiana Njoku<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, LPC<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">You should watch out for signs of infidelity in a partner <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">that has<\/span> <span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">history<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> of cheating in past relationships.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> If so, then you should be on the lookout. A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/signs-partner-cheated-in-the-past\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">history of cheating<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in previous romantic relationships puts a person at a significantly higher risk of cheating in their current relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71173\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/risk-factors-related-to-the-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Angry Wife and Husband in Conflict Because of Cheating\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%97%8F-Risk-factors-for-cheating-related-to-the-relationship\"><\/span><b>&#9679; Risk factors for cheating related to the relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to cheating, many factors depend on the nature of the romantic relationship. These have been listed as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Lack of compatibility in the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Suppose you&rsquo;re with someone very different from you and not in a way that you complement and supplement each other. In that case, the degree of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-incompatibility\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">incompatibility in the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> may be quite high. This can make one or both partners dissatisfied with the relationship. This may lead to instances of cheating.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. A lack of emotional intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you do not feel emotionally fulfilled in your relationship, you will try to seek that intimacy, whether consciously or unconsciously, from someone outside the relationship or marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Differing sex drives<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you and your partner have completely different <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex drives<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it can cause issues in your marital life. If you wish to have sex 4 to 5 times a week, but your partner wants to have sex once a week, it may tempt one partner to cheat.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Polar opposite lifestyles<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the people involved in a relationship or marriage have completely different lifestyles, it may become a major problem. If both partners&rsquo; working schedules and hours differ significantly, they will hardly <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-have-a-quality-time-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">get to spend time together<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This can cause a lot of issues in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Instances of domestic violence<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships and marriages where <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is common will be at a very high risk of infidelity. One or both partners may actively seek intimacy and comfort outside the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Area of residence matters<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Where you live matters, couples who reside in metropolitans or other urban areas may be more likely to cheat because the people living in these areas are more open-minded about infidelity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. High conflict in the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if it&rsquo;s not domestic violence, frequent arguments and explosive quarrels in a relationship are not great signs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Christiana Njoku, LPC, highlights that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Conflict is inevitable in a relationship, but the way it is managed will determine if it will be resolved or not.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although it is okay to have <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalhelp.net\/blogs\/dealing-constructively-with-marital-conflict\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conflicts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it&rsquo;s not a good sign if it happens too often or is intense.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>16. Lack of communication in the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although it is difficult to talk about your temptations with your partner, it is important. Couples who do not <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/o.b5z.net\/i\/u\/6076626\/f\/EFFECTIVE_COMMUNICATION_IN_A_MARRIAG2.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate openly<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> about their desires, thoughts, and feelings may be more prone to cheating. This is possibly the primary predictor of infidelity in relationships, so, remember to communicate effectively and regularly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/can-lack-of-communication-be-fatal-to-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of Communication- Can It Be Fatal to a Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you know the risk factors for cheating in a relationship, be aware of the issues between you and your partner, and remember to communicate well with your partner!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you think your partner is already cheating on you, keep an eye out for signs of cheating, such as being overprotective of their phone, sudden detachment in physical intimacy, inconsistent behavior, hypercriticism, etc.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to resolve conflicts as soon as you identify them. If you encounter issues that can&rsquo;t be resolved between you and your partner, seek professional help.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Betrayal of any kind in romantic relationships and marriages can have a major impact on the relationship. It can challenge the integrity of the relationship. It doesn&rsquo;t matter whether it&rsquo;s a minor act of betrayal or something very significant. One of the most notable acts of betrayal in marriages and romantic relationships is infidelity. If the risk of cheating is very high in an intimate relationship, it can inflict significant damage to one or both partners and negatively impact the relationship. Hence, it is essential to know the risk factors for cheating. 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