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Every relationship has its <\/span>ups and downs<\/span><\/a>. When things are not going well, it’s natural to feel anxious and insecure. This can lead to behaviors that make matters worse. <\/span><\/p>\n If you’re wondering how to fight for your relationship, you may find you need a different strategy, one that is without confrontation.<\/span><\/p>\n Fighting for your relationship means putting your traditional thoughts and beliefs aside and determining what could be done to make the <\/span>relationship successful<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n When considering how to fight for your relationship, first recognize that you have the power to improve things. There are lots of ways you can bring a flagging relationship back to life without talking everything through with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n When you decide to fight for the man you love or fight for the woman you love, you might wonder, is it all worth it? Is it worth mustering up so much courage? Will it be reciprocated?<\/span><\/p>\n Once you are sure that your partner has shown equal eagerness to <\/span>stand up for the relationship<\/span><\/a>, you should realize that it is worth sticking by their side through thick and thin.<\/span><\/p>\n There are various reasons why fighting for your relationship matters:<\/b><\/p>\n When you have to fight for what you want, these are the steps you need to take:<\/span><\/p>\n If you are considering <\/span>when <\/b>to fight for a relationship, it’s a good idea first to take some time out to <\/span>reflect <\/b>on where you are and what you want. You may desire to be more attuned to each other. You want to<\/span> feel secure<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n As you fight for the one you love, you’ll need to <\/span>ditch the <\/b>blame game<\/b><\/a> and own the choices you have been making.<\/span><\/p>\n According to a Licensed Professional Counselor, Relationship Coach, and Marriage Mentor <\/span>Christiana Njoku, <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n The moment you decide to take responsibility for your actions, then you are ready to make it work again.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n If you nag or <\/span>criticize<\/span><\/a>, it’s unlikely to result in your partner being kind and loving towards you. <\/span><\/p>\n If your lover has been critical towards you, you can choose how you respond — lash out, or talk calmly about the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n Relationships that are stale or rocky are heading for <\/span>real danger<\/b> when someone starts to connect, physically or emotionally, with a third party. When fighting for your relationship, you need to deal with emotional and physical <\/span>needs inside the relationship<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n If you have found someone else who “really understands you”, you can’t properly address the issues you are facing.<\/span><\/p>\n You can’t tend to your own garden if you keep jumping over the fence into someone else’s.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Understanding past influences<\/b> can be key to improving current relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n You may be asking yourself, “Should I fight for my relationship?” You find your partner irritating and annoying. <\/span><\/p>\n It might help to list the qualities that initially drew you to your partner. Typically, we’re attracted by traits that we see in the other — “the other half”. What we don’t realize is that <\/span>every characteristic has its negative side.<\/b><\/p>\n The things that originally attracted us can become the most irritating.<\/span><\/p>\n Spend some time listing the things you first liked in your partner, and try to identify the other side of the coin.<\/span><\/p>\n When we are “in love,” we conveniently ignore the fact that our partner is <\/span>not perfect<\/b>. We expect they will know what we want, never embarrass us or let us down, and always be thoughtful and considerate. The truth is that every loving relationship contains hurt and let-downs. <\/span><\/p>\n When you fight for the one you love, you should remember that neither of you began the relationship intending to be nasty and hurtful. When you feel hurt, try to understand what needs the other person is trying to meet.<\/span><\/p>\n Being in a close relationship can be risky. What if I’m rejected — again? It’s sometimes easier to escalate an argument or to focus on work or hobbies rather than spend time together.<\/span><\/p>\n You may decide to <\/span>be vulnerable<\/span><\/a> and admit to yourself and your partner that you are fearful of getting too close. <\/span>Being real<\/b> can help you connect with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n If you think you need assistance to explore any of the above points, then it might help to speak to a<\/i><\/b> trained professional<\/i><\/b><\/a>.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n A great strategy when you are fighting for your relationship is to start to <\/span>notice what is good<\/b>. Instead of focusing on all that is wrong, choose to praise something you like about your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n Notice kindness and thoughtfulness. Find aspects of your life together that you can be grateful for. Make a list of positive statements about your relationship and speak them out daily. As you do this, negatives lose their power, and you’ll have a greater incentive to fight for what you love.<\/span><\/p>\n This is one of the most powerful things to do in a <\/span>struggling relationship<\/span><\/a>. The aim in any contentious issue is to have a team win. If the other loses, then you both lose.<\/span><\/p>\n These 5 simple words can defuse things immediately:<\/span><\/p>\n “We’re on the same side.”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n When you are fighting for your relationship, take the “fight” out of the relationship<\/i><\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n Familiarity breeds contempt. Decide to make your home a place where, whatever is going on, you will <\/span>respect <\/b>each other<\/span><\/a>. Refuse to engage in put-downs or belittling behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n “Powerful people deliberately set a standard for how they expect to be treated by the way that they treat others. They don’t demand respect. They create respectful environments by showing respect.” <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n -Danny Silk, author of <\/span>Keep Your Love On<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Adjust your communication style<\/b><\/p>\n According to a Licensed Professional Counselor, Relationship Coach, and Marriage Mentor <\/span>Christiana Njoku, <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n In making the relationship work, understanding of how your partner wants to be treated in that relationship should matter to you.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/span>What does it mean to fight for what you love?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Why should you fight for your relationship?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>15 Ways to fight for your relationship<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
Assess your relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n
1. Take time out<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Take responsibility<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>Why Is Accepting Responsibilities in a Relationship Important?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
3. Walk away from emotional or physical props<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Is the past influencing the present?<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>Negative Experiences of the Past can Affect Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
5. What was the original attraction?<\/b><\/h3>\n
6. Redefine hurt and let-downs<\/b><\/h3>\n
7. Are you using distance or fights to protect yourself?<\/b><\/h3>\n
Change the Atmosphere<\/b><\/h3>\n
8. Affirm what is working<\/b><\/h3>\n
9. Recognize you’re on the same team<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>Being on the Same Team Creates Better Intimacy<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
10. Build a culture of honor and respect<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n11. Understand your partner’s love language<\/b><\/h3>\n