{"id":68896,"date":"2021-08-17T09:51:59","date_gmt":"2021-08-17T09:51:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=68896"},"modified":"2025-07-07T04:22:07","modified_gmt":"2025-07-07T04:22:07","slug":"ways-to-help-a-friend-in-a-bad-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-help-a-friend-in-a-bad-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Ways to Help a Friend in a Bad Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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It’s not uncommon for us to be our friend’s shoulder to cry on. How many times have you seen your BFF call you in the middle of the night to talk about <\/span>relationship problems<\/span><\/a>?<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s just normal for us to be concerned and do the best we can to help a friend in a bad relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t just sit back and allow your friend to stay in a <\/span>toxic relationship<\/span><\/a>, and once that friend confides in you, it becomes your obligation to be there and help your friend go through this tough battle.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>9 Signs that your friend is in an unhealthy relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n

Sometimes, a couple may look perfectly happy when they are in public or when they’re with their friends, but when they are alone, the signs that they are already suffering from a toxic relationship start showing when no one is looking.<\/span><\/p>\n

Some <\/span>bad relationships<\/span><\/a> can be pretty obvious too. However, you wouldn’t really know what is happening unless your friend opens up.<\/span> <\/b><\/p>\n

Some of the most common signs of unhealthy relationships are often subtle but if you pay close attention, you’ll see them too.<\/span><\/p>\n

For you to help a friend in a bad relationship, you should first know the different signs to watch out for. <\/span><\/p>\n

  1. They have changed for the worse. <\/span><\/li>\n
  2. They have lost their spark when they’re together.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. They no longer enjoy doing the things that they used to do. <\/span><\/li>\n
  4. They started becoming irritable and moody towards each other.<\/span><\/li>\n
  5. The partner has started becoming controlling and <\/span>manipulative<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/li>\n
  6. You can already see patterns of disrespect and dishonesty.<\/span><\/li>\n
  7. They begin to disagree with everything.<\/span><\/li>\n
  8. They started disconnecting from their family and friends.<\/span><\/li>\n
  9. Lack of communication.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>
    Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>7 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
    <\/span>Is it possible to help a friend in a bad relationship without sacrificing your friendship?<\/span><\/h2>\n
    “My friend is in a toxic relationship, now what?”<\/span><\/p>\n
    Being there to listen to a friend who’s experiencing relationship problems is the first and the most common action that we would do as a friend. But what happens after that?<\/span><\/p>\n
    Fact is, it’s hard to know what type of approach you can take when a friend goes to you for <\/span>unhappy relationship<\/span><\/a> advice.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Your friend’s situation is sensitive, and we need to approach this subject with caution to avoid misunderstandings.<\/span><\/p>\n
    There are times where your friend’s partner can twist the situation and make it look like you are the one who is trying to tear them apart. This can cost you your friend.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Here’s how to help a friend with relationship problems.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> 3 Relationship Advice for Friends<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
    <\/span>10 Ways on how you can help your friend in a bad relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n
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    Now that you have an idea that your friend is in a bad relationship, you want to start helping your friend.<\/span><\/p>\n
    But the common question here is that how do you start helping your friend? What is the best way to assist a friend that is sensitive, sad, and vulnerable?<\/span><\/p>\n
    Here are just 10 ways on how you can start helping your friend in need.<\/b><\/p>\n
    1. Listen to your friend<\/b><\/h3>\n
    Be there for your friend and listen.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
    According to <\/span>Maggie Martinez<\/span><\/a>, LCSW:<\/span><\/p>\n
    Helping a friend in a bad relationship starts with listening, not fixing. Your presence and non-judgment can create the safety <\/span>they<\/span> may not feel at home.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
    Allow them to talk to you at their own pace. Don’t pressure them to tell you the whole story if they are not ready. <\/span>Being too aggressive<\/span><\/a> to know about the “issue” can be uncomfortable for your friend.<\/span><\/p>\n
    The truth is, it’s hard to talk to someone about your problems, especially when it’s about bad relationships and hurt. So allow your friend to feel comfortable and okay to tell you about what’s going on.<\/span><\/p>\n
    2. If you have your own experience- don’t be afraid to share it<\/b><\/h3>\n
    Have you been in the same situation before? Don’t be afraid to share it with your friend.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
    Sometimes, your friend in a bad relationship may feel like they are alone in this battle. Don’t let this happen. If your friend asks you if you’ve been there, tell them about your experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n
    This will make them feel that you truly understand where they are coming from. You can also share the steps that you took to get over the bad relationship or even the lessons that you have learned.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>5 Essential Tips on How to Get out of a Toxic Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
    3. Gently bring up the subject<\/b><\/h3>\n
    Do you want to talk to your friend about their bad relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
    Instead of calling them and asking them about their relationship status or asking them about their <\/span>toxic partner<\/span><\/a>, try to bring it up gently.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Talk about movies, poems, books, or even songs about self-worth. Then start asking questions about the topic where your friend might also relate.<\/span><\/p>\n
    This allows your friend to open up (if they want to), and from there, you can start with your conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n
    4. Hug your friend<\/b><\/h3>\n
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    Sometimes, all your friend needs is a tight hug from you.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
    This may sound very basic, but it does work. Before you start to give advice to a friend with relationship problems, just be there for them.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Even science agrees that a simple<\/span> hug<\/span><\/a> can do so much.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Maybe, your friend just needed a warm hug from you today. No judgment, no criticisms, <\/span>no expectations<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>Different Types of Hugs and What They Mean<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
    5. Don’t criticize and judge your friend with her decisions<\/b><\/h3>\n
    Talking about relationship problems with friends can help a lot. But of course, being judged for your choices is never fun.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Maggie Martinez Reid highlights that:<\/p>\n
    Be patient. Leaving a toxic relationship is a process and your steady support might be exactly what they need.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
    When your friend approaches you and confides in you, it’s normal for us to feel strong emotions. Sometimes, we tend to judge too quickly, which may cause our friend to feel sad instead of relieved.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Let’s say you never liked your friend’s partner, and now, this happened.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Instead of criticizing your friend and judging him or her about always choosing the wrong person instead, pause and just listen to your friend.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Judging your friend won’t help.<\/span><\/p>\n
    6. Help rebuild your friend’s self-esteem<\/b><\/h3>\n
    One of the best relationship advice for friends having relationship problems is to work on their self-esteem.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
    Start by sharing things or words that will help your friend build up their <\/span>self-esteem<\/span><\/a>.  Your friend has gone through so much, and it’s just right that they would get the best support system, and that’s you.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>How Low Self Esteem Affects a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
    Check out this video by Kirk Duncan, who explains how to build someone’s self-esteem:<\/i><\/b>