

{"id":68836,"date":"2021-08-13T08:57:13","date_gmt":"2021-08-13T08:57:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=68836"},"modified":"2025-12-29T12:18:34","modified_gmt":"2025-12-29T12:18:34","slug":"signs-of-mind-games-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-mind-games-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Clear Signs of Mind Games in a Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-115163\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Emotional-distance-couple.png\" alt=\"Emotional distance couple\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships are meant to feel safe, supportive, and emotionally steady&hellip; but sometimes, something just feels off. Conversations leave you confused, emotions swing without warning, and you&rsquo;re left questioning your own reactions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s subtle at first&mdash;small comments, mixed signals, moments that don&rsquo;t quite add up. Over time, these patterns can quietly drain trust and emotional balance. Mind games in a relationship often hide behind charm, silence, or emotional unpredictability, making them hard to recognize right away.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Noticing these behaviors isn&rsquo;t about blame or labels; it&rsquo;s about clarity, self-respect, and understanding what a healthy emotional connection should feel like&mdash;calm, honest, and grounded.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-mind-games-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What are mind games in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Mind games are psychological tactics used by someone to manipulate or intimidate another person.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> People play mind games because it makes them feel powerful and in control.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A research article published in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.simplypsychology.org\/mind-games-dating.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2024<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> explains that mind games are subtle, psychological manipulation tactics people sometimes use in dating or early relationships to influence feelings and control reactions rather than communicate honestly.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, it allows people to avoid<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/accepting-responsibility-in-relationships\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">taking responsibility<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for their actions and feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Common signs of mind games in a relationship<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Playing hard to get,&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being mean for no reason<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Leading someone on<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Controlling attitudes<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Withholding affection or communication<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If these signs sound familiar to you and you want to know how to tell if someone is playing mind games with you, continue reading this article.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>Please note:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this feels familiar, take a breath&mdash;you&rsquo;re not &ldquo;too sensitive&rdquo; or imagining things. Recognizing these patterns is a healthy step toward emotional clarity, boundaries, and relationships that feel steady, respectful, and safe.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-reasons-why-people-play-mind-games\"><\/span><b>5 reasons why people play mind games<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People play mind games for many reasons, often rooted in insecurity, fear of vulnerability, or past emotional hurt. Understanding these motives helps bring clarity, empathy, and awareness to unhealthy relationship patterns without justifying the behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. They want something<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who play mind games<\/span><b> want a specific response from their partner or people around them. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, instead of requesting politely or telling others what they wish, they achieve their aim through mischievous and manipulative acts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They relish playing games with emotions rather than speaking out.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A partner may crave attention but act distant or irritated when you show concern, then become jealous or resentful if that same care is given to someone else.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>2. They want to manipulate you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who play mind games do so to <\/span><b>manipulate you into doing something for them<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Their needs may range from money, love, care, sex, to partnership, friendship, and their self-esteem<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> They guilt-trip you into lending money or emotional support, then withdraw affection if you hesitate.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/recognize-and-handle-manipulation-in-relationships\/\" title=\"How to Recognize and Handle Manipulation in Relationships\">How to Recognize and Handle Manipulation in Relationships<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>3. They like to be in control<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-115164\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Controlling-partner-dynamic.png\" alt=\"Controlling partner dynamic\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The whole essence of playing mind games is to be in charge of others. People who play mind game<\/span><b>s desire to have someone they can control and command around<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A research paper published on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/338735293_Controlling_Behaviors_in_Couple_Relationships_in_the_Digital_Age_Acceptability_of_Gender_Violence_Sexism_and_Myths_about_Romantic_Love\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>Research Gate<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> states that controlling behavior in modern relationships is often seen as normal due to sexist beliefs and romantic myths, which makes unhealthy and harmful actions easier to accept.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The alpha position gives them some adrenaline, reassuring them they have power. It gives them confidence and self-esteem. Thus, they consistently show signs of mind control to seal their position.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED QUIZ : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"\" title=\"\"><\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. They like to make you feel weak<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One may want to ask, &ldquo;Why do people play mind games exactly?&rdquo; There is no other reason for people who play mind games <\/span><b>than to make others weak<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. In their subconscious mind, if you are weak, then they are strong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meanwhile, the signs of mind control in a relationship come from<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">low self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and cowardice. Instead of solving these problems, they would project them onto others. Bringing others down to bolster themselves up.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> They mock your opinions or dismiss your feelings, then claim you&rsquo;re &ldquo;too sensitive&rdquo; for reacting.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>5. They need to feel important<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Closely related to one of the signs of mind games in relationships <\/span><b>is playing hard to get<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. That usually happens in the early stages of developing<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-in-an-intimate-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimate relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. People with signs of mind games often want to feel unique and needed or desired by you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As such, they send you mixed signals to confuse you. This is to create a false sense of mystery. Some people like the rush it gives them when others beg for their<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/attention-seeking-partner\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">attention<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> They act interested one day and distant the next, enjoying the chase when you seek reassurance.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-signs-of-mind-games-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>15 signs of mind games in a relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mind games can be confusing, emotionally draining, and hard to spot at first. Examples of mind games in relationships include control or subtle manipulation that slowly affects trust and self-worth. Recognizing these signs helps you understand what&rsquo;s really happening beneath the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. They confuse you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Confusion is one of the common signs of mind games in a relationship. <\/span><b>People who play mind games in a relationship leave you<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-identify-and-overcome-relationship-doubts\/\"> <b>doubting the relationship<\/b><\/a><b> and their feelings<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You are unsure of how they feel and where you stand with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, they might be cheerful today with you but suddenly become mean the next day. They might be very hot and cold or sometimes suddenly turn on you for no apparent reason.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you question your position and feelings all the time in a relationship, it is a sign that your partner is playing mind games.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>2. You doubt yourself around them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the signs of mind control in a relationship is <\/span><b>when you doubt and question yourself whenever you are with your partner. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who play mind games in a relationship make you question your ability to make certain decisions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s because you don&rsquo;t know how they will react. For instance, you find it hard to tell them about something you did days earlier because you are unsure if they will condemn it or encourage it.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Healthy partners don&rsquo;t make you afraid of being yourself or sharing honestly.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>3. They blame you all the time<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another tactic of people who play mind games in a relationship i<\/span><b>s to blame<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/266394032_A_Theory_of_Blame\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> blame <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you on every occasion possible, including those that are not your fault. For example, your intention may be to tell your partner of an incident just for fun.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, they will still blame you for acting in a particular way.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/consequences-of-perfectionism-on-relationships\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being perfect<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and knowledgeable is a crucial trait of people who show signs of mind games in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Constant blame is manipulation, not accountability.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-deal-with-someone-who-blames-you-for-everything\/\" title=\"15 Ways for Dealing With Someone Who Blames You for Everything\">15 Ways for Dealing With Someone Who Blames You for Everything<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. They put you down&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the signs of mind games in a relationship is<\/span><b> when your partner puts you down to make you feel bad.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> What happens out of envy for what you have or because you are better than they are at something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, instead of encouraging you in some unpleasant situation, they put you down to make you feel better. Your present awful feeling is a win for them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may also make nasty remarks about you or your dress in front of others.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s all about power play and the need to feel better than others. So, you can see that the problem lies with them, not with you.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>5. They intentionally hurt your feelings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As strange as it may sound,<\/span><b> some people relish making others feel bad about themselves<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They might shout at you for helping them, even when they didn&rsquo;t ask for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, they enjoy playing mind games by making rude comments about you and your friends. These signs of mind games in a relationship leave you<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/losing-yourself\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feeling bad about yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. They use others against you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You think your partner should have your back, but you will be surprised by people who play mind games in a relationship. After several unsuccessful attempts to make you feel bad,<\/span><b> they turn others against you.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They do this by engaging in conversations they know you hate with others. Also, they make rude and nasty comments about you in front of others. They intend to make everyone desert you, so they can appear like the only ones who stay.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A supportive partner protects your dignity, especially around others.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>7. They tell people you are a liar<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In psychological mind games relationships, <\/span><b>people who play mind games call you a liar.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They start by falsely accusing you of making things up or exaggerating when you talk. Then, they might begin to tell other people that you&rsquo;re a liar or that you are not pleasant. Such a situation may force you to defend yourself endlessly and explain what&rsquo;s going on to them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Being constantly forced to defend yourself is a red flag, not a misunderstanding.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>8. They envy you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to know how to tell if someone is playing mind games with you, study their reaction when you own something new. Often, they can&rsquo;t hide their emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deep down, people who show <\/span><b>signs of mind games in a relationship want the things you hav<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">e, including a college degree, a stable career, a family, and material items. Thus, they make you feel bad or transfer aggression when you buy something new.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Someone who loves you celebrates your growth, not resents it.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>9. They compare you with others<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another way of playing mind games in a relationship is to <\/span><b>make baseless comparisons.<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/building-confidence-in-your-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comparison<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a fundamental commandment of people who show signs of mind control in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner might tell you that your friends are more beautiful than you are. Also, they always find a way to compare you with their exes in a conversation or an argument.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You are not in competition with anyone in a healthy relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>10. They make themselves the center of attention<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-115165\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Attention-seeking-partner.png\" alt=\"Attention-seeking partner\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever gone out to an occasion where you invite your partner to, and they make themselves the focus? For instance<\/span><b>, they take your chance by introducing themselves when you should be the one.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even when you leave them to enjoy the party, they need to take your glory when speaking with your friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Mutual respect includes sharing space, not stealing it.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>11. They control your decisions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One leading sign of people who play mind games in a relationship is<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/270209776_Control_in_Dating_Relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">controlling their decision-making<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><b> They want to be the only competent person who knows all things.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Hence, they dissuade you from following your guts and replacing your ideas with theirs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They even cite how the situation might go wrong if you don&rsquo;t follow their advice. When their suggestion fails, they say it&rsquo;s your fault. These are signs of a mind game in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Guidance is supportive; control is restrictive.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>12. They make you come to them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Playing mind games in a relationship includes<\/span><b> forcing others to come to you without making any effort<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If your partner plays mind games a lot, they will never call or text you first. They don&rsquo;t set up dinner dates or movie nights.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, you&rsquo;re the one texting and begging them to make the relationship work.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Relationships require equal effort, not constant chasing.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>13. They never talk about themselves<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who show signs of mind games in a relationship rarely let their guard down in conversation. <\/span><b>While you talk about your<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-to-become-vulnerable-in-relationship\/\"> <b>vulnerabilities<\/b><\/a><b> and weak points, they listen attentively but rarely reveal anything about themselves<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your partner doesn&rsquo;t talk about themselves to you like you do, you will be left wondering if they value the relationship you both have.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional openness should go both ways.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>14. They shut you out of their lives<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>If you feel like your partner shuts you out of their lives often<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it is one of the signs of mind games in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, if someone regularly blocks you from their special events, they want to confuse you and keep you guessing about what&rsquo;s going on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, people who play mind games do this to know how much you care about them. They want to see how far you will go to get their attention. The chase gives them trills.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Remember:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Being kept in the dark is not the same as privacy.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this TED Talk by Katie Hood, a relationship educator, who shares how healthy love builds respect and safety, while unhealthy love creates control, fear, and confusion.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ON4iy8hq2hM?si=fYn6jd4YrINtXECD\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. They try to make you feel jealous<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the signs of mind games in a relationship include the need to make others feel jealous. People who play mind games like attention, <\/span><b>so they improvise to<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stop-being-jealous-in-your-relationship\/\"> <b>make you feel jealous<\/b><\/a><b> when you don&rsquo;t give them attention.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making others feel jealous is a classic manipulative act that many people use. It comes in different forms, including your partner posting pictures of others on social media or<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-flirting\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">flirting with other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> people or their ex. These behaviors will make you question their intention towards you.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stop-being-jealous-in-your-relationship\/\" title=\"How to Stop Being Jealous in Your Relationship: 15 Tips\">How to Stop Being Jealous in Your Relationship: 15 Tips<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-deal-with-a-partner-playing-mind-games\"><\/span><b>How to deal with a partner playing mind games<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be confusing and overwhelming to deal with people who play mind games. However, if you still<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/values-in-a-relationship-quiz\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">value your relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with them, you can use strategies to make them better people.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stand-up-for-yourself-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> clearly and precisely, explaining how their actions make you feel. Remember to back your case up with relevant examples of mind games.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ensure they apologize and promise to turn over a new leaf. Note that it may take some time and clear agreements for them to change, but it&rsquo;s worth the wait if they make some effort.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner refuses to accept responsibility for their action, it may be time to decide. Staying with them and hoping they will change may mean it will take time.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Set firm <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Clearly define what behavior you will and won&rsquo;t tolerate, and consistently follow through if those boundaries are crossed.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prioritize your emotional well-being<\/span><b>.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Take space when needed, seek support from trusted people, or consider professional help to regain clarity and confidence.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Similarly, if you choose to move on with your life, talk to friends and family to provide a robust support system around you. Also, you may speak to a coach or therapist to help you through the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Emotional-clarity-matters\"><\/span><b>Emotional clarity matters<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mind games in a relationship can slowly drain trust, confidence, and emotional safety. While understanding the reasons behind such behavior may offer insight, it should never come at the cost of your well-being.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healthy relationships are built on honesty, respect, and mutual effort&mdash;not confusion or control. Paying attention to patterns, setting clear boundaries, and valuing your emotional needs are essential steps toward clarity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You deserve a connection that feels calm, secure, and supportive, where communication is open and love doesn&rsquo;t leave you guessing or doubting yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Relationships are meant to feel safe, supportive, and emotionally steady&hellip; but sometimes, something just feels off. Conversations leave you confused, emotions swing without warning, and you&rsquo;re left questioning your own reactions.&nbsp; It&rsquo;s subtle at first&mdash;small comments, mixed signals, moments that don&rsquo;t quite add up. Over time, these patterns can quietly drain trust and emotional balance. Mind games in a relationship often hide behind charm, silence, or emotional unpredictability, making them hard to recognize right away.&nbsp; Noticing these behaviors isn&rsquo;t about blame or labels; it&rsquo;s about clarity, self-respect, and understanding what a healthy emotional connection should feel like&mdash;calm, honest, and grounded. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":630,"featured_media":115163,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2608],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68836"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/630"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=68836"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68836\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":115166,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68836\/revisions\/115166"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/115163"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=68836"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=68836"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=68836"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}