

{"id":68817,"date":"2021-08-13T07:18:34","date_gmt":"2021-08-13T07:18:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=68817"},"modified":"2023-06-29T07:49:29","modified_gmt":"2023-06-29T07:49:29","slug":"being-present-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/being-present-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Practical Tips on Being Present in a Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68821\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/ways-of-being-present-in-a-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Couple at the Restaurant Talking and Smiling\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In being present in a relationship, the anticipation is personal <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/practicing-self-awareness-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-awareness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and consciousness, albeit a sense of relaxation, free of thought, activity, or control.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are no requirements for those involved, yet some people find it challenging with the volume of thoughts running through busy minds, distractions, and a level of fidgetiness to take care of numerous agendas.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The participants crave undivided <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/showing-attention-to-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">attention in relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> away from the connectivity that drives everyone through the chaotic world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When in the present, a loved one can sense when they&rsquo;re the focus, whether they&rsquo;re receiving total energy and genuinely being heard.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To focus on relationships with the level of depth that presence requires, individuals need to develop a connection to self and a sense of awareness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can&rsquo;t expect a genuine conversation with full conscious attention from someone if you&rsquo;re not aware of your behavior. How do you then know if you&rsquo;re present in a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-it-mean-to-be-present-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What does it mean to be present in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning to be in a relationship healthily requires presence. Being present means you have an awareness of how you&rsquo;re connecting with another person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That translates to the level of attention you give that person. In essence, being present speaks to you being fully aware of providing a loved one with unconditional loving, undivided attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focusing on the present is free of passing judgments and displaying an<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ego-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ego<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. There are no distractions or agendas. The idea is to merely be with the other person in a &ldquo;soul-to-soul&rdquo; experience at the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s pretty simplistic and straightforward. You are &ldquo;presenting&rdquo; someone (and they, you) energy, a connection, attention, and time for anything that person wants to share, and you are fully tuned in.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-is-being-present-important-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>Why is being present important in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The importance of being present in relationships is significant for a healthy union.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A mutual, energetic effort made to enjoy spending time alone together without distractions or interruptions, or interference and without allowing moments from the past or something in the future to threaten what you currently have creates an authentic connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To have an enriching experience like that, you first need to be self-aware. It can be time-intensive to develop the ability to engage in the present with what is currently occurring, with authentic joy and genuine emotion free of doubt, regrets, worry, or even fear.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you take that to your relationships, it allows focusing on the ones important in your life, especially a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All the other chaos and day-to-day agendas go on hold while you&rsquo;re interacting with full undivided attention on this person. Plus, your loved one will be able to tell that your energy is with them and will return the same.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-benefits-of-being-present-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>5 benefits of being present in a relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building and nurturing healthy relationships requires the art of presence. In this fast-paced world, being fully engaged and present in our interactions holds immense benefits.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some advantages of being present in relationships that can help you discover the transformative power of being fully present in fostering fulfilling and meaningful connections with your loved ones.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Enhanced connection<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being present in relationships allows for a deeper and more meaningful connection with your partner. By being fully engaged in the present moment, you can truly listen, understand, and empathize with your partner&rsquo;s thoughts, feelings, and needs. This fosters a sense of emotional closeness and strengthens the bond between you.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/7-reasons-why-women-cheat\/\" title=\"Why Do Women Cheat in Relationships: 11 Possible Reasons\">Why Do Women Cheat in Relationships: 11 Possible Reasons<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>2. Improved communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are present in your relationships, you become a better communicator. You are able to express yourself more clearly and effectively while also being attentive to your partner&rsquo;s communication cues. This reduces misunderstandings and promotes open and honest dialogue, leading to healthier and more fulfilling interactions.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/8-tips-to-improve-communication-in-your-relationship\/\" title=\"20 Ways to Improve Communication in a Relationship\">20 Ways to Improve Communication in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>3. Increased intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Presence in relationships cultivates intimacy. By being fully present with your partner, you create a space of trust, vulnerability, and emotional safety. This allows for a deeper level of intimacy, both emotionally and physically, as you share genuine moments of connection and closeness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Greater emotional well-being<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being present in relationships has a positive impact on your emotional well-being. It helps reduce stress, anxiety, and worry about the past or future, allowing you to focus on the present moment and experience greater contentment and happiness. This state of mindfulness enhances your overall emotional resilience and promotes a healthier relationship dynamic.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Stronger relationship satisfaction<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultimately, being present in relationships contributes to greater relationship satisfaction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When both partners are fully engaged and attentive to each other&rsquo;s needs, desires, and experiences, it creates a sense of fulfillment and mutual support. This cultivates a positive relationship environment where both individuals feel valued, understood, and cherished, leading to long-lasting happiness and satisfaction.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-tips-on-how-to-be-present-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>15 tips on how to be present in a relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before being present in a relationship, it&rsquo;s vital to develop a connection to one&rsquo;s self.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s challenging to be fully aware of a level of interaction with another person unless you&rsquo;re in tune with your behavior. Some things couples, in particular, can practice being more present:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Self-care regimen<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s crucial to ensure that you engage in regular self-care. In this way, you can consciously give attention to another person. Journaling is an ideal method for self-assessment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once through writing, read the previous day&rsquo;s entry back so you can ultimately develop an understanding of where you might be lacking and how you can improve being present in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-pillars-of-self-care\/\" title=\"The 5 Pillars of Self-Care\">The 5 Pillars of Self-Care<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68822\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/tips-on-how-to-be-present-in-a-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Couple in the Park on an Autumns Day\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Develop a space for meditation\/mindfulness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The practice of mindfulness or meditation can take on varied forms, but each means to put you in a space where you&rsquo;re present in the moment with no distractions, &ldquo;single-tasking,&rdquo; and no external stimuli.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you become consciously aware of this space, it will better prepare you to give full, undivided attention to another person.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/improve-your-relationship-with-mindfulness-and-meditation\/\" title=\"Improve Your Relationship with Mindfulness and Meditation\">Improve Your Relationship with Mindfulness and Meditation<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>3. Set boundaries within the partnership<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether in a marriage or dating, being present in a relationship is the basis for a healthy situation. One manner of achieving that is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">by setting boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and designating conscious time spent together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That means cutting off connectivity; no social media, internet, or business during specific times when there should be uninterrupted interaction between the two of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of those moments should include meal times or, at the end of the day, maybe<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/importance-of-date-night-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> date nights<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, plus time away on the weekends. These are ideal for focusing on each other without outside interference.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Texting isn&rsquo;t off-limits<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Texting can help with being present in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re apart from each other, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/233096873_Text_Messaging_and_Connectedness_Within_Close_Interpersonal_Relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sending messages<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> throughout the day with positive content plus open-ended questions or points that make the other person curious can lead to active listening and dialogue when you turn the phones off in the evening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a sense, this is an act of being present virtually because you need to be conscious about the content you send, so it prepares the other person for an evening of &ldquo;presence.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Dress for the occasion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t always have to be in your best clothes to spend time with the people you love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes a night spent in a t-shirt and sweats, just lounging on the couch with some hot cocoa, is comforting while you have an in-depth conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I did say hot cocoa. If you want to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/active-listening-to-improve-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">listen actively<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and give someone full, lucid attention, you don&rsquo;t want to impair your thought process with alcohol &ndash; even wine.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Often, if we&rsquo;re in a longer-term commitment, unfortunately, there might not always be enough thought that goes into dressing, styling the hair, or appearance in general.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is another attempt at being <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/how-to-be-mindful-in-love\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mindful of love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, making an effort to dress for those moments when you choose each other over the devices.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Tell each other secrets<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure that your partner is the first person you confide any information to, whether it be a reaction to something, an update on a life event, or divulging opinions and secrets you share with no one else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In doing this, you&rsquo;re taking a proactive step to be present with your partner by developing a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/secret-to-deeper-connection\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">deeper connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Schedule time to swap critiques<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you share common interests, whether it be books, art, movies, or music playlists, develop perhaps a couple&rsquo;s book club or exchange your playlists and then spend an evening comparing notes on what you each received from the experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That can not only give you an evening of enlightening conversation, but it has the potential for giving each of you new interests, possibly new hobbies, and the likelihood for some excursions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you can check out concerts, art galleries, and perhaps book signings for favorite authors.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Don&rsquo;t forget to listen<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many people are incessant overachievers leading to the cause for having to learn methods for being present in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One problem is some will try too hard to be mindful of the moment with someone by asking questions but fail to realize <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/active-listening-to-improve-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">active listening<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a skill that needs practice also.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The other person needs to feel energetically supported and paid attention to when they&rsquo;re expressing themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They don&rsquo;t want to look at a face with no expression, or that seems anxiously waiting just to ask another question.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Show up<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being present in a relationship means showing up when you say you&rsquo;ll be there. It&rsquo;s <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/12-signs-of-a-disrespectful-husband\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disrespectful to a partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to be late or, worst of all, not show up for any reason without giving a call.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re the type to appear frequently at the last minute, it can begin to feel to the other person as though they&rsquo;re not important or you don&rsquo;t want to be there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t want to give a wrong impression; pay attention to how you&rsquo;re presenting yourself to enhance your physical presence in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68823\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dress-for-the-occasion.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Romantic Couple Enjoying Candle Night Date Man Lifting Women in His Arm\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Show each other gratitude<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re in a relationship for any period, gratitude is often merely understood but not spoken. Those<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-put-effort-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> making a concerted effort<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to be present in a relationship find it essential to make gratitude a spoken priority and not a silent nod.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When each of you is consciously aware of the other&rsquo;s appreciation for even the slightest effort, being who each is as people, extraordinary attributes, you will start achieving presence.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Prioritize quality time<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Set aside dedicated quality time to spend with your partner. Engage in activities that promote connection and enjoyment, such as going for walks, cooking together, or having meaningful conversations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By intentionally carving out time for each other, you create opportunities to deepen your bond and be fully present in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Limit distractions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to be more present in a relationship that you are trying to improve?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Minimize distractions when spending quality time with your partner. Put away electronic devices, turn off the TV, and create a space free from external disturbances. This allows you to fully engage with your partner without the interference of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2021.711416\/full\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">outside distractions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Practice empathy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seek to understand your partner&rsquo;s emotions and perspectives. Put yourself in their shoes and listen with empathy to enhance your emotional presence in a relationship. Validate their feelings and show compassion, fostering a deeper emotional connection and mutual understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Practice self-care<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally if staying present in a relationship is a priority for you. Prioritize self-care to ensure you have the energy and emotional well-being to be present in your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> often tells us that when you feel balanced and fulfilled within yourself, it positively impacts your ability to be fully engaged and present with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Let go of past resentments<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Release past resentments and grudges that hinder your ability to be present. Focus on the present moment rather than dwelling on past conflicts. By letting go, you create space for healing, forgiveness, and growth in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to learn how to get over resentments:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/2emOd-I5uc0\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final-thoughts\"><\/span><b>Final thoughts<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Presence and availability in a relationship should become carefree and natural, given time and practice. It develops as each person grows to be self-aware and conscious in their behavior, able to monitor the quality of their interactions with loved ones.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not merely a matter of your being able to handle a conversation but actively listening as the other person speaks and hearing what it is they need to say. If done correctly, there is recognition and gratitude for the time, effort, and undivided attention you bring to your relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In being present in a relationship, the anticipation is personal self-awareness, and consciousness, albeit a sense of relaxation, free of thought, activity, or control. There are no requirements for those involved, yet some people find it challenging with the volume of thoughts running through busy minds, distractions, and a level of fidgetiness to take care of numerous agendas. The participants crave undivided attention in relationships away from the connectivity that drives everyone through the chaotic world. When in the present, a loved one can sense when they&rsquo;re the focus, whether they&rsquo;re receiving total energy and genuinely being heard. 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