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Every day comes with a long list of things to get done. Laundry, dishes, cleaning the yard, walking the dog (if you have one), cooking. It can get exhausting, especially if only one person has to do the bulk of the house chores.<\/span><\/p>\n This brings us to a fundamental question in marriages – How to divide household chores fairly?<\/span><\/p>\n Having to deal with all these chores can bring up many questions in your mind. “Isn’t it too much for me? My spouse should do more of these house chores,” and many other thoughts may come visiting as time proceeds.<\/span><\/p>\n Well, if you have ever found yourself in that position where you’re confused about it, you will learn how to divide household chores fairly with your spouse by the time you are done reading this article. <\/span><\/p>\n As a child, there’s every possibility that you may have seen something like this. The men wake up in the mornings and rush off to work, leaving the women back home to do the house chores and take care of the children. If you were raised in this kind of environment, don’t worry because you aren’t alone.<\/span><\/p>\n A <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> documented by the Frontiers in Psychology revealed that men between ages 18 and 34 in opposite-sex relationships are no more likely than older couples to divide household chores equitably.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n This study went on to reveal that the average American woman spends almost double the amount of time on unpaid work as men (this unpaid work mostly includes household duties), with an average of 38-40 hours\/week being spent on caring for children and 20 hours\/week on household chores.<\/span><\/p>\n What do these numbers mean at first glance?<\/span><\/p>\n Domestic chores tend to fall to the women in opposite-sex relationships. Here are some reasons why this tends to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n Going by the findings from the research stated above, many youngsters would be more likely to embrace gender equality in terms of how household responsibilities are split between couples only if they saw this happen when they were much younger.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the main reasons why many people believe that women should do the housework is simply because they’ve been subconsciously trained to do so.<\/span><\/p>\n Dr. Jennifer Schulz<\/a>, PhD in Psychology, explains, <\/span><\/p>\n Whether we’re aware of it or not, we tend to repeat what we witnessed in our families of origin in childhood.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n <\/span>Research<\/span><\/a> has shown that women tend to be more nurturing and attentive than men. They tend to be more in touch with their emotions, exhibit higher levels of empathy, and are more attentive than men.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n One of the results of this has manifested in the assumption that because women possess all of these characteristics, they are most suited for managing the home front and carrying out the bulk of household responsibilities.<\/span><\/p>\n While it may be scientifically true that women tend to be more nurturing and attentive than their spouses in heterosexual relationships, this doesn’t automatically mean that the men have to leave all the domestic chores to the women.<\/span><\/p>\n That said, one of the keys to having a happy family is to develop the art of effectively dividing household chores between the man and the woman. Don’t know how to do that? Don’t worry. Here’s how to get started.<\/span><\/p>\n There are several ways to divide household chores fairly.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Research<\/span><\/a> has proven that both men and women tend to overestimate the exact amount of work they do when it comes to running their household.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n With this in mind, the first step to attaining an effective division of household chores is to make a list of household chores for couples. It is impossible to equitably split what you do not know.<\/span><\/p>\n To achieve this, sit down with your spouse and make a list of all the household duties to be carried out and how frequently they need to be executed (every day, weekly, or once a month). When you have a comprehensive list, you can bounce ideas off and reach a consensus on how to split household chores. <\/span><\/p>\n Some people are wired to love doing some things, while others aren’t. One way to divide household chores fairly is to do your best to assign chores you love doing to yourselves. Does your spouse love cooking? You can let them do that while you do the cleaning (or whatever you like).<\/span><\/p>\nWhy does domestic work fall to women?<\/h2>\n
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There’s the general belief that women are more attuned to it<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>
10 ways to divide household chores fairly<\/h2>\n
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2. Take your personal preferences into consideration<\/b><\/h3>\n
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3. Determine if any of you feels more concerned about how visitors view your home <\/b> <\/span><\/h3>\n