{"id":68598,"date":"2021-08-06T06:56:10","date_gmt":"2021-08-06T06:56:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=68598"},"modified":"2024-10-23T07:12:03","modified_gmt":"2024-10-23T07:12:03","slug":"how-to-stop-being-toxic-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stop-being-toxic-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Being Toxic in a Relationship: 17 Healthy Ways"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68602\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/how-to-stop-being-toxic-in-a-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Young Beauty Woman Splitting Up With Husband\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In any relationship, toxic behavior can cause immense harm and strain. Recognizing and addressing these toxic patterns is crucial for the health and happiness of both partners involved. This article aims to provide some healthy ways to stop being toxic in a relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From improving communication skills and setting boundaries to practicing self-care and seeking professional help when needed, implementing these strategies can foster a nurturing and supportive partnership. By embracing these solutions, individuals can cultivate a more positive and fulfilling relationship based on love, respect, and mutual growth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perhaps you have noticed a harmful, repetitive pattern in your relationships, a pattern that got you wondering, &ldquo;Am I toxic to others?&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Introspecting about &ldquo;How do you know if you are toxic in a relationship?&rdquo; is an exercise in self-awareness that will ask you for complete honesty. It is only by becoming aware that you can change. If you are wondering how to stop being toxic in a relationship, read on!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-makes-you-toxic-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What makes you toxic in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-ELP8mZilY8?si=1fci1HoO7AK6x64b\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic behavior in a relationship can manifest in various ways, including manipulation, abuse, jealousy, lack of respect, and poor communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what makes you toxic in a relationship? And what does toxic mean in a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is often believed that a toxic personality can have several causes. If you ever wonder, &ldquo;How did I become this way,&rdquo; here are some causes that could lead you to being toxic in the relationship:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Unresolved issues<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There could be some unresolved issues of the past that are addressed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alternatively, you could also have faced some traumatic experiences in your life that led to you being a negative person. This is reflected in your relationships as well, and you ended up being the toxic one in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Messed-up communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The chances are that there is a communication gap between you and your partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a consequence, this ensued into a fight, and you started to become negative about it and handled the situation rather impatiently. This caused you to become a toxic person.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Commitment phobia<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More often than not, when people get into a relationship, it usually happens with an adrenaline rush, and partners don&rsquo;t clarify their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/realistic-relationship-goals\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship goals<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They do not land on the same page. This means while your partner is seeking a long-term commitment, you are still not ready or have thought it through.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>You could be a manipulator<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check for your signs of manipulation. Are you a dominant manipulator in the relationship? If your partner crawls into guilt because of your constant blame and gaslighting, this could be one of the causes of your relationship being toxic.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Lack of compatibility<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Simply put, you both might not be suited for each other. If the personalities of both partners are completely different and there&rsquo;s no match, it is likely that one partner will turn toxic. In this case, unfortunately, you are the tone.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/warning-signs-of-a-toxic-relationship\/\" title=\"45 Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship\">45 Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Signs-you-are-the-toxic-one-in-the-relationship\"><\/span><b>Signs you are the toxic one in the relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Other people might not be willing to be frank with you, fearing that you may become angry. Being quick to anger is just one out of many toxic personality traits.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We have put together a list of some typical toxic person characteristics. Start with an honest self-inventory here. You can then move on to how to stop being toxic in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can come across changes that are not positive or doing you good. Some of these signs you&rsquo;re a toxic person:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Critical of others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Confrontational<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Negative<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Judgmental<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unsupportive<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jealous<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abusive<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Energy-draining<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hostile and angry<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not open to heavy discussions; shuts down or walks out<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refuses to admit they are wrong, will never apologize, shifts blame onto others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Uses guilt to manipulate others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Accuses others of &ldquo;misunderstanding&rdquo; your meaning<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissistic<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Control freak<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dishonest<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Display attention-seeking behavior<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/am-i-the-toxic-one-in-the-relationship\/\" title=\"15 Signs of Gaslighting in Relationships &#038; How to Deal\">15 Signs of Gaslighting in Relationships &#038; How to Deal<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-effects-can-this-have-on-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What effects can this have on a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic traits in a relationship can definitely impact the quality of your romance, so it is in your interest to learn how to stop being toxic. Being a toxic partner puts the relationship off balance. Instead of two healthy people interacting, the power dynamic is unequal in a toxic relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic relationships are often short-lived because the non-toxic partner becomes tired of being the object of criticism, abuse, jealousy, and disapproval. They eventually leave.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are a toxic partner, it is likely you do not show respect to the person you love, which makes them feel devalued and belittled. Because toxic person traits include narcissism, you may not make any effort toward your partner; you are centered on yourself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are a liar, that undermines the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/30496211_Trust_in_Intimate_Relationships_The_Increased_Importance_of_Embeddedness_for_Marriage_in_the_United_States\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> trust<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> between the two of you, which is essential to a healthy relationship. Your<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/ifas.ufl.edu\/media\/smartcouplesifasufledu\/docs\/pdfs\/9-Important-Communication-Skills-for-Every-Relationship.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> communication skills<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> may be poor, as you have not learned how to actively listen to your partner. Your emotional outbursts may be frequent and easily triggered, which does not make for a calm and peaceful household.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All of these behaviors impact the mental and emotional health of you and your partner. It is, therefore, vital to learn how to stop being toxic in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/jenni-jacobsen\">Dr. Jennifer Jacobsen<\/a>, who has a PhD in Psychology, <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you do not correct unhealthy behavioral patterns, they will continue to show up in your relationships. If you want healthy, happy relationships in the future, you need to do the work to correct unhealthy behavior. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Individuals who have toxic behavioral patterns may blame their partners for their bad behavior, which means they never end up making changes. If you&rsquo;re repeatedly in hostile, chaotic relationships, you need to do the work to grow and change, or you will repeat the same patterns.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-a-toxic-relationship-and-its-common-types\/\" title=\"What Is a Toxic Relationship and Major Types of Toxic Partners\">What Is a Toxic Relationship and Major Types of Toxic Partners<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Can-a-toxic-person-change\"><\/span><b>Can a toxic person change?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Indeed, a toxic person can change. If you are a toxic person, for your own well-being, you should make an effort to work deeply on not only the toxic traits in yourself but also the &ldquo;why&rdquo; behind these traits. In other words, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">did not become toxic randomly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are reasons at the root of these behaviors, reasons that may be worth working with a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or coach to uncover and examine. As you become more self-aware, you gain the tools to know how to stop being toxic in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what to do when you realize you&rsquo;re the toxic one in the relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is likely you learned these behaviors in childhood. Perhaps you were raised in a household where<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> parenting was toxic<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Perhaps you were not taught empathy and compassion at an early age.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rest assured: Toxic people can be healed with conscious effort and self-awareness. But you need to be willing to change and accept responsibility to move forward and let go of the toxic traits in yourself. You can learn how to undo your past and how to stop being toxic in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68603\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/signs-you-are-the-toxic-one-in-the-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Upset Asian Couple Wife Sit on Couch Listen to Furious Husband Yelling Feel Unhappy Talk Negative to Her.\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&rsquo;m a toxic person. How do I change?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you ready to work on yourself? Are you ready to learn how to stop being toxic in a relationship?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17-ways-to-stop-being-toxic-in-your-relationships\"><\/span><b>17 ways to stop being toxic in your relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxicity in the relationship should be avoided at all costs, as this could be detrimental to the relationship. Here are some ways to stop being toxic in the relationship. Check them out:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Understand and realize what being toxic means in a relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being toxic spreads negativity and hurts those around you, especially the person you love. When you take a deep look at the harmful impact toxicity is having on your loved one, you are at a place where change can begin, and you can work on how to stop being toxic in a relationship. Look inward.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It all starts with the admission: I&rsquo;m a toxic person. How do I change?<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Consider therapy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to not be a toxic person is difficult without the help and support of mental health professionals. Toxicity cannot be reasoned with nor wished away. Toxic person traits are deeply ingrained.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Their mode of functioning is a pattern that can be undone with the help of outside expertise. A therapist can show you the path away from toxicity and towards a new, healthier way of interacting with others, one that doesn&rsquo;t drive them away from you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A therapist can help uncover the link between what you learned in childhood and how to stop being toxic in a relationship now as an adult.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Shift from blaming to understanding<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a toxic person, your default is to blame the other for whatever is wrong. As you learn how to stop being toxic in a relationship, take a step back from<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.relate.org.uk\/relationship-help\/help-relationships\/communication\/my-partner-blames-me-everything\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> blame<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Try to understand the situation from a different perspective.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understand that assigning blame is unproductive and will not lead to resolution. Ask yourself what you might do to find a solution rather than playing the blame game.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Establish mental challenges and goals<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your mental goal is to eliminate toxicity and practice more positivity in your life. No matter what you do, do not lose sight of your why.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic behavior creates stress and unhappiness. It puts a strain on all relationships. Those are places you do not deserve to be. So, keep your eye on the goal as you begin to address the toxicity in your life. You deserve to be surrounded by positivity and joy, not<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/resolve-conflict-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> live in conflict<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and negativity.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Recognize signs you exhibit toxic behavior&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First of all, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are not toxic. You have certain toxic behaviors. It is unlikely you have all the toxic behaviors listed above, but identify those that sound familiar to you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, to better see your behavioral patterns, start keeping a journal. Note when you sense you have reacted in a toxic way. Note what preceded that reaction. Write out the consequences of reacting from an extreme rather than a calm mind.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can help you better identify circumstances that trigger toxic behavior and enable you to stop being toxic in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Learn and get comfortable with the art of the apology<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic people never assume blame for anything they are responsible for, so they never apologize.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/make-him-realize-he-made-a-mistake\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Owning up to your mistakes<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a fundamental part of learning how to stop being toxic in a relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apologizing months or even years after your friendships and relationships ended is difficult but so rewarding. You will be surprised by how forgiving and kind people are.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Make and keep boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is likely that you are toxic because this behavior has worked for you in the past. But by establishing boundaries, you can say no to the toxic people you have brought into your life. Boundaries are healthy in relationships.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are drawn to toxic personality relationships, get working on letting these go. It can be especially difficult when you are dealing with a member of your family, like a parent or sibling. That applies especially to the ones who perpetuate your own toxic behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68604\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/ways-to-stop-being-toxic-in-your-relationships.jpg\" alt=\"Warm Toned Portrait of Modern Young Couple Talking to Each Other Sincerely While Sitting on Floor in Cozy Home Interior, Copy Space\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Be physically active<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exercise produces endorphins, the feel-good hormone. It is impossible to practice negativity, criticism, and hostility when you&rsquo;ve just worked up a great sweat and are feeling happy and powerful.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Commit to a daily exercise routine&mdash;it can be as low-impact as walking&mdash;and watch what happens to your toxic traits. Preventing toxicity in a relationship is often just one good workout away!<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Own your actions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Part of how to be less toxic is to take responsibility for your own acts as well as their consequences on those around you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If something you have said or done has touched someone negatively, apologize quickly and ask how you can make amends. You will be amazed at how good it feels to own your mistakes and live with integrity.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Make a resolution to always act with integrity<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When learning how to stop being toxic in a relationship, it is helpful to ask yourself, &ldquo;Is what I am saying or doing causing harm to another person?&rdquo; By posing the question, you can consider your actions and move forward with integrity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like the doctor&rsquo;s oath: Do No Harm.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Learn to be alone (and love it!)<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to be less toxic starts with self-love. Most toxic people have <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">low self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They spread their toxicity towards others as a way to boost their low image of themselves (although they won&rsquo;t ever admit this).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A key way to stop being toxic in a relationship is to take time to be on your own. Learn how to feel complete, whole, and lovable all by yourself. Take time to build your own reserves of self-worth, which you can then reflect back onto others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to learn how to enjoy being alone:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/zVqmLE_yttM?si=yAaSKSHr9O79ctZQ\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Start small<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Identify one toxic habit you have and commit to working on this for one week. If, for example, you avoid discussions with your partner because you blow up immediately, schedule a time to talk with your partner so you can engage in a meaningful, kind, and respectful conversation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep good communication techniques at the forefront of your mind, and be mindful of keeping toxic reactions far away.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Catch yourself doing non-toxic behaviors<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pay attention to your toxic patterns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As you learn how to stop being toxic in a relationship, be sure to give yourself a pat on the back when you observe that you are engaging in healthy behaviors that have replaced your former toxic ones.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Concentrate on your own healing path<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have a tendency to want to point the finger at others and make them responsible for all your ills. Let that go. It does not serve you.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to stop being toxic in a relationship?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on your own healing path. What others do or don&rsquo;t do is not your business. As you move towards integrity, positivity, self-love, and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/practice-self-compassion\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> compassion<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for all, your healing will fall into place naturally.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Recognize other&rsquo;s self-change<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most amazing things you will witness as you learn how to stop being toxic in a relationship is that those close to you will change as well. Recognize these uplifting changes and voice your gratitude for them. Create a virtuous circle of positivity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68605\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/make-and-keep-boundaries.jpg\" alt=\"Focused African American Woman Talking With Man in Cafe, Girlfriend Discussing Relationships With Boyfriend\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>16. Cultivate empathy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Empathy is crucial in understanding and dismantling toxic behavior. Put yourself in your partner&rsquo;s shoes and try to feel what they are feeling. Consider the impact of your words and actions on their emotions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Developing empathy can help you connect with your partner on a deeper level and foster a more compassionate and supportive relationship. When faced with a challenging situation, pause and reflect on how your actions might affect your partner, and strive to approach conflicts with empathy and understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. Practice effective communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/healthy-communication-for-couples\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healthy communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is foundational for any successful relationship. Toxic behavior often stems from miscommunication or a lack of effective communication skills. Work on expressing your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly, and encourage your partner to do the same.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use &ldquo;I&rdquo; statements to express your needs and concerns without placing blame. Listen actively to your partner&rsquo;s perspective and avoid interrupting. By fostering clear and respectful communication, you create a foundation for trust and understanding, reducing the likelihood of toxic patterns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, personal growth and positive changes in a relationship take time and consistent effort. Combining these additional tips with the existing ones can contribute to building a healthier, more fulfilling connection with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/toxic-girlfriend\/\" title=\"13 Warning Signs of a Toxic Girlfriend &#038; How to Handle\">13 Warning Signs of a Toxic Girlfriend &#038; How to Handle<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a toxic relationship can be challenging, prompting questions about its repair and worthiness. Here are brief insights:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can a toxic relationship be fixed?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, but it demands commitment from both partners. Acknowledge the issues, seek professional help if needed, and cultivate <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">open communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Sustainable change requires effort, self-reflection, and a shared dedication to growth.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Is it worth staying in a toxic relationship?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Generally, no. Continual toxicity can harm mental and emotional well-being. Evaluate the relationship&rsquo;s impact, prioritize <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-pillars-of-self-care\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-care<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and consider whether staying aligns with your long-term happiness and personal development.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When-you-realize-you-are-the-toxic-one-in-the-relationship\"><\/span><b>When you realize you are the toxic one in the relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The above 15 points are key to moving from being the toxic person in a relationship to being a healthy, balanced partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may be beneficial to start by tackling one or two at a time, in no particular order. Evolution does not need to take place overnight, but if you want to enhance your<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/interpersonal-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> interpersonal relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you do need to let go of toxic behaviors. These can only hinder your ability to become close to others.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, you have the tools you need to begin to know how to stop being toxic in a relationship. Approach these new ways of thinking step by step, taking time to congratulate yourself when you observe that you are casting off old behaviors that were toxic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be open to the changes you will feel and to the changes you will observe in your close circle. You will see that your mental outlook is much more upbeat and less critical. The world will seem to be a much friendlier place. It may take some time, but adapting small, positive habits will benefit not only you but those around you as well.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In any relationship, toxic behavior can cause immense harm and strain. Recognizing and addressing these toxic patterns is crucial for the health and happiness of both partners involved. This article aims to provide some healthy ways to stop being toxic in a relationship.&nbsp; From improving communication skills and setting boundaries to practicing self-care and seeking professional help when needed, implementing these strategies can foster a nurturing and supportive partnership. By embracing these solutions, individuals can cultivate a more positive and fulfilling relationship based on love, respect, and mutual growth. 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