{"id":68531,"date":"2021-08-04T05:39:33","date_gmt":"2021-08-04T05:39:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=68531"},"modified":"2026-04-14T12:14:22","modified_gmt":"2026-04-14T12:14:22","slug":"pretending-to-be-happy-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/pretending-to-be-happy-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Signs You Are Pretending to Be Happy in Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68563\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/signs-you-are-pretending-to-be-happy-in-your-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Men Kissing Women Forehead Loving Concept\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why do people pretend to be happy in relationships?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/are-you-in-an-unhappy-relationship-quiz\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">not happy in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, pretending may seem like the polite thing to do to prevent your spouse from getting hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem is, pretending to be happy in a relationship can take its toll on your emotional and physical health. It also prevents you and your current spouse from moving forward into a satisfying life either with or without each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes the unknown is worse than sticking it out with someone you aren&rsquo;t indeed in love with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, how do you know when you&rsquo;re not happy in relationships? Keep reading to find out.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/when-you-are-not-happy-in-your-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When You are Not Happy In Your Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2>15 Signs you are pretending to be happy in your relationship<\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-aSD3o_gPyk?si=i7c7ie1x5yJqA6ab\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex and intimacy coach <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/dionne-reid\">Dionne Eleanor<\/a> says,<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Despite outward appearances of happiness, you may feel a sense of emotional distance or disconnect from your partner. This lack of genuine connection can indicate your dissatisfaction with the relationship.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are the most obvious signs you are faking happiness with your partner when you are not happy in relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Communication is avoided<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the biggest signs someone is pretending to be happy is avoiding communicating with their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have been avoiding communicating with your spouse, it may be because you know what&rsquo;s coming:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A very difficult conversation, or<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A breakup.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/3-reasons-why-a-lack-of-communication-in-marriage-can-be-detrimental\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Effects of Lack of Communication in Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. You avoid being alone with your thoughts<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you find yourself avoiding silence?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being alone with your thoughts can be scary, especially if you know a big change is coming to your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Suppose you constantly find yourself on the phone, listening to podcasts, or watching videos. In that case, it could be that you&rsquo;re avoiding addressing or even acknowledging the &lsquo;reasons I pretend to be happy.&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Your social media speaks volumes<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why pretend to be happy when you&rsquo;re not? Sometimes it all comes down to social perceptions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Social media is a big deal to many people, so take a good look at yours and use it as a chart of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you make flowery posts about your spouse to give off the impression that you&rsquo;re madly in love?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or do you rarely post about your spouse?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Either way, this could be a sign that you are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/being-unsatisfied-with-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dissatisfied with your love life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/social-media-ruins-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ways Social Media Ruins Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. You purposely avoid making plans<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the key signs someone is pretending to be happy in their relationship is acting like their spouse is their favorite person and then never actually spending time with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself consistently making plans that don&rsquo;t include your partner, you will do well to ask yourself why.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Your heart feels heavy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel excited or surrounded by love when you are with your partner or do you find yourself longing to be somewhere else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pretending to be happy in a relationship can take its toll on your emotional heart.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your heart feels heavy when you&rsquo;re around your sweetheart, it could be a sign that you are pretending to be something you&rsquo;re not when you&rsquo;re together, and your heart has finally had enough.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. You&rsquo;ve lost your confidence<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are not happy in a relationship with your partner, it can set your mind wandering.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Faking being happy in your current relationship may have you daydreaming of another life with someone else. This is dangerous because dwelling on these fantasies can <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/causes-of-infidelity-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lead you to cheat<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and hurt a host of people.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. You&rsquo;re nicer to your spouse in front of your friends<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why do people pretend to be happy when they are not?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes it&rsquo;s because they&rsquo;re afraid of how their life might look to their friends, or maybe their family loves their current partner, and they don&rsquo;t want to disappoint them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have little interest in your spouse but know exactly how to put on a &lsquo;<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/are-you-and-your-partner-a-perfect-match\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">perfect couple<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&lsquo; act in front of other people, take it as a huge sign you&rsquo;re pretending to be happy in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Are you covering their toxic traits?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does your partner have <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/toxic-person\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">toxic traits<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do they belittle you, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-gaslighting\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gaslight<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or pull an attitude when they&rsquo;re around other people?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are not happy in relationships for toxic reasons, you may find yourself excusing your spouse&rsquo;s behavior to friends and family. Not only is this sad, but it can also be dangerous to your emotional and physical health.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Physical intimacy is avoided<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When was the last time you and your spouse were truly intimate?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the desire of you getting intimate with your spouse no longer exists and you don&rsquo;t feel attracted towards them, you might avoid any physical contact altogether.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoiding physical intimacy with your partner may be a sign that you&rsquo;re no longer interested in maintaining a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-important-is-an-emotional-connection-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">deep connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. You don&rsquo;t expand on your feelings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68565\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/you-dont-expand-on-your-feelings.jpg\" alt=\"Men and Women Having Breakfast Together With the Juice and at the Bedroom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel like staying silent is more comfortable than having a deep or important conversation with your spouse?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be honest with yourself and acknowledge how you feel deep down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Staying in a state of unhappiness can <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/ways-to-deal-with-depression-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">contribute to depression<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and anxiety in other areas of your life, such as work and relationships with friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you can come up with even one &ldquo;Reason I pretend to be happy,&rdquo; then take it as a huge sign that your relationship is no longer healthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-to-share-your-feelings-with-your-spouse\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Share Your Feelings With Your Spouse<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>11. You can&rsquo;t let go of the past<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One sign that you&rsquo;re pretending to be happy in a relationship is if you are secretly holding onto <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/anger-and-resentment\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">resentment<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner has cheated or betrayed you in some way in the past and you can&rsquo;t let it go, you are probably pretending to be happy when you&rsquo;re not.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/how-to-forgive-your-spouse-for-past-mistakes\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Forgive Your Spouse for Past Mistakes<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>12. Date night stresses you out<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4712716\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> published by the Journal of Marriage and the Family found that couples often experience greater happiness when they are spending time together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But if the idea of spending time talking to your partner over a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/romantic-dinner-ideas-for-couples-at-home\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">romantic dinner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sounds more like a nightmare than a fairy-tale date night, it could be a sign that your relationship needs some work.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. You know deep down you aren&rsquo;t in love<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pretending to be happy in a relationship may be easy on the outside, but your heart and your head know the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are not happy in relationships, you will feel a distinct lack of love for your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may love them as a person or a friend, but deep, romantic love will be missing from your repertoire.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/fall-out-of-love\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Signs of Falling out of Love<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>14. You feel lonely but never show it<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people stay in relationships because they don&rsquo;t want to face the loneliness that single life brings, but sometimes loneliness is the key to other <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel the ache of loneliness, even when you are with your spouse, take it as a &lsquo;not happy in relationship&rsquo; sign.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Are you happy with who you are<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did you feel confident about who you were before you got into your current relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself feeling lost or not knowing what you want out of life, you can likely see that you are not happy in relationships you&rsquo;ve been having.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Also Try: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/am-i-happy-in-my-relationship-quiz\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I Happy In My Relationship Quiz<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2>How to stop pretending to be happy in your relationship?<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you already knew you were unhappy in your relationship, or maybe you just realize it now after learning some of the signs listed above.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Either way, faking happiness in a relationship is like pretending to be something you&rsquo;re not. This can be emotionally draining and can make you feel trapped in a stagnant relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take charge of your emotional health &ndash; and your love life! &ndash; by learning how to stop faking being happy in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here are four simple tips to bring real happiness and clarity into your life.<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Be honest with yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The longer you put off addressing that you are not happy in relationships, the longer your life will feel like it&rsquo;s on hold.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do some personal digging, meditate on what you want from life, or write down how you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Only by being honest with yourself will you be able to start walking toward the path of happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Surround yourself with a support system<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ready to come clean about what&rsquo;s really going on in your relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If so, you may find it helpful to speak to trusted friends and family about how you&rsquo;re feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Psychiatry <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC2921311\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">MMC Journal reports<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that social support promotes psychological health.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The oxytocin released when surrounded by people you love and trust gives you a level of stress-related resilience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This resilience is exactly what you will need when you&rsquo;re ready to stop wearing a mask in your relationship!<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Communicate with your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68566\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/communicate-with-your-partner.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Communicating Together at the Bar or Cafe\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It will be difficult to tell your partner how you&rsquo;ve been feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep in mind, while it&rsquo;s important, to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/honesty-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> be honest with your spouse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you don&rsquo;t have to be brutally honest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of coming right out and saying: &ldquo;I&rsquo;ve only been pretending to be happy in a relationship with you.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try something like: &ldquo;I&rsquo;ve realized lately that I haven&rsquo;t been feeling like myself in our relationship. There is a disconnect between us that is starting to concern me\/that I would really like to work on.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will open the door to talking about what&rsquo;s really been contributing to your faking happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-to-communicate-with-your-spouse-when-things-are-tough\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Communicate With Your Spouse When Things Are Tough<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Recognize what&rsquo;s best for you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are not happy in a relationship, it can affect other areas of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By continuing with faking happiness, not only will you feel miserable with your partner, but you&rsquo;ll also feel unfulfilled by other areas of your life that used to bring you joy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Search within yourself and recognize what you really need to find happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At best, you and your partner can work out your problems, and you will no longer fake being happy in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At worst, you and your spouse break up, and you&rsquo;re able to find personal peace and happiness elsewhere in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, the hardest decisions to make are often the ones that bring the greatest results!<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/talk-to-your-husband-about-being-unhappy\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Talk to Your Husband About Being Unhappy<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Conclusion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you have an itching feeling that you&rsquo;re only pretending to be happy in a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Signs you&rsquo;re pretending to be something you&rsquo;re not with your spouse include avoiding communication, intimacy, and feeling like a phony; it&rsquo;s time to take a stand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re faking being happy in a relationship, you rob yourself of a satisfying life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dionne Eleanor adds,<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pretending to be happy is a disservice to yourself and your partner. Embrace vulnerability, honesty, and open communication, and create a relationship where true happiness can thrive.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stop faking happiness today by admitting to yourself how you truly feel, surrounding yourself with a support system to lean on, communicating with your current partner, and doing what is best for you.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why do people pretend to be happy in relationships? When you&rsquo;re not happy in a relationship, pretending may seem like the polite thing to do to prevent your spouse from getting hurt. The problem is, pretending to be happy in a relationship can take its toll on your emotional and physical health. It also prevents you and your current spouse from moving forward into a satisfying life either with or without each other. Sometimes the unknown is worse than sticking it out with someone you aren&rsquo;t indeed in love with. 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