

{"id":68260,"date":"2021-07-26T08:30:24","date_gmt":"2021-07-26T08:30:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=68260"},"modified":"2023-09-27T04:12:43","modified_gmt":"2023-09-27T04:12:43","slug":"when-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/when-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument\/","title":{"rendered":"17 Things to Do When a Guy Ignores You After an Argument"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68263\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/things-to-do-when-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument.jpg\" alt=\"Young Couple Quarreling in Kitchen\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter how much you love your man, there will be times when you disagree with him on some issues. This does not change your love for him, but<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-deal-with-disagreements-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disagreements in relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are a tough reality that exists because both partners have different mindsets and value systems.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, what happens after an argument can be unpleasant for both parties. What do you do when a guy ignores you after an argument? There will be different thoughts running through your mind, and it might be challenging to conclude.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this article, we will help you figure out various possible reasons for questions such as &ldquo;Why is he ignoring me?&rdquo; Read on!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-it-mean-when-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument\"><\/span><b>What does it mean when a guy ignores you after an argument?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not everyone talks much after an argument because silence can be their coping mechanism. It is important to find out if it is your partner&rsquo;s behavior and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-have-more-patience-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">be patient<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with them. It might be challenging to deal with, especially if it is a long-distance relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if you know that it is not their nature, you need to understand that he needs time to calm down because the emotional trauma might still be brewing in his mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Peter White, in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodreads.com\/work\/quotes\/73058335-why-men-go-silent-ignore-you-refuse-or-won-t-share-their-feelings\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">his book<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> titled Why Men Go Silent, Ignore You, Refuse or Won&rsquo;t<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-to-share-your-feelings-with-your-spouse\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Share Their Feelings<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, reveals various insights that allow women to know what is going on in their man&rsquo;s head when he ignores them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-does-he-ignore-you-after-having-an-argument\"><\/span><b>Why does he ignore you after having an argument?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned earlier, an argument is bound to happen in a relationship. During this time, you and your partner might act distasteful towards each other and settle up later.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, when he stops talking to you and takes a long time to settle, you need to find out the main issue. You need to understand that he is ignoring you for a particular reason, and you should be patient to communicate and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\">&nbsp;<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">resolve the problem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with him.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/my-husband-ignores-me\/\" title=\"10 Things to Do if Your Husband Ignores You\">10 Things to Do if Your Husband Ignores You<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"13-reasons-for-a-guy-to-ignore-you-after-an-argument\"><\/span><b>13 reasons for a guy to ignore you after an argument<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did you recently argue with your guy, and you ask why he is ignoring me after a fight?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you understand the reason for his behavior, you will better handle the situation and save your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Here are some possible reasons why your guy is ignoring you:<\/p>\n<h3><b>1. He has other commitments<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your guy might be ignoring you after your recent fallout with him because he has other commitments to attend to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though he knows that attending to the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">issue in his relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is important, those commitments will give him the needed space to cool off and think properly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would be best if you were patient with him without bringing up assumptions that might end up aggravating the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. He needs time to assess the situation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After every major disagreement, you will be<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/do-you-get-angry-with-your-partner\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">angry with each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and he might decide to keep his distance by ignoring you. There is a thing called the &lsquo;3-day rule after argument&rsquo; that many people follow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your man might think it is better to ignore you so that he can carefully assess the situation and come up with a solution that favors both parties.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might take some time for him to evaluate the situation, so you have to be patient with him.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. He is pained by what you did<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is a chance that your role during the disagreement is hurting your man, and he has decided to ignore you. The possible reason for his decision in this context is that he hopes that ignoring you will make the hurt go away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you know you did some hurtful acts, and it is why he is ignoring you, you can warm up to him and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/apologize-to-someone-youve-hurt\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">apologize<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. He is mad at you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68264\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/he-is-mad-at-you.jpg\" alt=\"Portrait of a Joyful Man Proposing to a Unsatisfied Girl With Flowers and an Engagement Ring Over Gray Wall Background\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s possible that while you&rsquo;re stuck with &lsquo;Why is he ignoring me after a fight?&rsquo;, he is holding a grudge against you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the common reasons guys ignore their women is that they are mad at them, especially after having a hot argument.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this case, the last thing he wants might be to keep to himself till he is over the matter. You can quickly tell from his disposition towards you, and if you notice he is mad at you, strive to make him calm down.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. His actions pain him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your guy might be pained by the role played in the disagreement, and he could be feeling guilty for hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hence, he can decide to ignore you to figure out the best way to apologize. So, when he goes silent after an argument, this is one of the possible reasons.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. He is confused about the situation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be that your man is puzzled by the whole situation, and he needs time to assess the entire situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, he might choose to avoid tackling the situation by avoiding you. He probably doesn&rsquo;t want future confrontations, and he might be trying not to hurt you because of his ignorance.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. He doesn&rsquo;t want to make the situation worse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he stops calling you and begins to ignore you, maybe he doesn&rsquo;t want to make the waters murky.&nbsp; Therefore, he has probably decided to avoid you so that both of you can calm down and converse with a cool head.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need to consider this if you are thinking of confronting him; you can consider this possibility.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. The disagreement might look like a bit of an issue to him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you notice that your man is ignoring you, it could mean that the issues are trivial. Eventually, you might discover that the matter is quite silly and appreciate his actions better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He might be doing this because he doesn&rsquo;t want the both of you to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/constant-fighting-in-your-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fight again<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Hence, don&rsquo;t be surprised when he approaches you lovingly one day to make you understand why.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here is a video that gives you more insights into what a man is thinking when he ignores you:<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. He needs a break from the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to note that needing a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/taking-a-break-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">break from the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is not the same as quitting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your guy might decide to take a break for a short while to assess the situation. It would help if you were patient with him till the break is over.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/break-in-a-relationship-rules\/\" title=\"What Does Taking a Break in a Relationship Mean\">What Does Taking a Break in a Relationship Mean<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>10. He wants to end the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be painful to realize this, but if you notice that he has stopped talking to you and is ignoring you, he probably<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/ending-relationship-quiz\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wants to call it quits<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He is most likely waiting for you to pick the hint and move on with your life. If he ignores you for a long time, approach him calmly and ask him what he wants.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/handle-the-aftermath-of-bad-argument-with-your-partner\/\" title=\"6 Easy Ways to Make up After a Fight With Your Partner\">6 Easy Ways to Make up After a Fight With Your Partner<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>11. Avoiding conflict<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, guys might ignore you after an argument because they want to avoid more fighting. They hope that by staying quiet, the situation won&rsquo;t get worse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They might need time to think and figure out how to make things better without arguing. It&rsquo;s like taking a break to prevent things from getting too heated.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Misunderstanding<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After an argument, if a guy is ignoring you, it could be because he didn&rsquo;t fully understand what you were trying to say. Maybe something you said was confusing or came across differently than you meant.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He might be thinking about what you said and trying to figure out what you really meant before talking again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Testing boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, guys might ignore you to see how you&rsquo;ll react. It&rsquo;s like a way of testing how much you care or how much effort you&rsquo;ll put in to fix things. They want to know if you&rsquo;ll reach out first or show that you&rsquo;re serious about the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s a bit like checking to see if you value the relationship as much as they do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. Antonio Borrello, a psychologist and relationship coach, sheds more light on what a man might be thinking when he ignores you. Watch here:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br><\/span><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/dhr6gqdx_bg?si=IxyovFxK6v-7Vo0A\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17-things-to-do-if-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument\"><\/span><b>17 things to do if a guy ignores you after an argument<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After arguing with your guy, you need to avoid complicating issues by trying to pick up a fight, you should be after<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/conflict-resolution-techniques\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conflict resolution<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When a guy ignores you after an argument, be careful of your actions because it determines how fast the issue will be resolved.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>If you are wondering what to do when he ignores you after a fight, here is a list of some actions you can take.<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Assess the situation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you just argued with your guy, you need to assess the situation by first identifying the root cause and other elements of the fallouts. Try to have an idea about how do guys feel after an argument.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can discuss with a trusted friend to help you spot the aspects or patterns you might have skipped.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Avoid assuming and jumping to conclusions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge; if you keep assuming and making conclusions from these, it can affect your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you notice your guy is ignoring you, it is important to understand why before you start accusing him.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Give him the benefit of the doubt<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need to ask yourself if your partner repeatedly ignores you after an argument or a conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he does not, there may be something else bothering him. But, there is also a chance that he is trying to wrap his head around the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Have a conversation with him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you disagree with your guy, and he ignores you, one thing that should be on your mind is discussing it with him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would help if you were strategic about this action by first observing his efforts for a while before<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/260226757_The_Art_of_Making_Conversation_Learning_the_Skills_Small_Talk\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">initiating the conversation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, be careful not to start the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-blame-game-is-destructive-to-your-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">blame game<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when conversing.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/conversations-with-your-spouse-dos-and-donts\/\" title=\"Conversations With Your Spouse: Dos And Don\u2019ts\">Conversations With Your Spouse: Dos And Don\u2019ts<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>5. Try to acknowledge your faults in the argument<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When there is a disagreement in a relationship,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/4-tips-to-communicate-with-your-partner-when-you-disagree\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">both parties have their part to play<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. So, you can approach your guy and let him know you are aware of your faults in the fallouts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you do this, it might spur him to do the same thing and resolve the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Prepare his favorite meal<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your guy is ignoring you, you can get his attention by preparing his favorite meal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With this, it might be difficult for him to ignore you because he will feel happy after the meal, and he will be ready to discuss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s possible that while you&rsquo;re stuck with &lsquo;Why is he ignoring me after a fight?&rsquo;, he is holding a grudge against you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the common reasons guys ignore their women is that they are mad at them, especially after having a heated argument.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this case, the last thing he wants might be to keep to himself till he is over the matter. You can quickly tell from his disposition towards you, and if you notice he is mad at you, strive to make him calm down.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED QUIZ : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/is-my-boyfriend-mad-at-me-quiz\" title=\" Is My Boyfriend Mad at Me Quiz?\"> Is My Boyfriend Mad at Me Quiz?<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>5. His actions pain him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your guy might be pained by the role played in the disagreement, and he could be feeling guilty for hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hence, he can decide to ignore you to figure out the best way to apologize. So, when he goes silent after an argument, this is one of the possible reasons.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. He is confused about the situation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be that your man is puzzled by the whole situation, and he needs time to assess the entire situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, he might choose to avoid tackling the situation by avoiding you. He probably doesn&rsquo;t want future confrontations, and he might be trying not to hurt you because of his ignorance.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. He doesn&rsquo;t want to make the situation worse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he stops calling you and begins to ignore you, maybe he doesn&rsquo;t want to make the waters murky.&nbsp; Therefore, he has probably decided to avoid you so that both of you can calm down and converse with a cool head.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need to consider this if you are thinking of confronting him; you can consider this possibility.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. The disagreement might look like a bit of an issue to him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you notice that your man is ignoring you, it could mean that the issues are trivial. Eventually, you might discover that the matter is quite silly and appreciate his actions better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He might be doing this because he doesn&rsquo;t want the both of you to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/constant-fighting-in-your-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fight again<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Hence, don&rsquo;t be surprised when he approaches you lovingly one day to make you understand why.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here is a video that gives you more insights into what a man is thinking when he ignores you:<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. He needs a break from the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to note that needing a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/taking-a-break-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">break from the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is not the same as quitting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your guy might decide to take a break for a short while to assess the situation. It would help if you were patient with him till the break is over.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/break-in-a-relationship-rules\/\" title=\"What Does Taking a Break in a Relationship Mean\">What Does Taking a Break in a Relationship Mean<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>10. He wants to end the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be painful to realize this, but if you notice that he has stopped talking to you and he is ignoring you, he probably<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/ending-relationship-quiz\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wants to call it quits<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He is most likely waiting for you to pick the hint and move on with your life. If he ignores you for a long time, approach him calmly and ask him what he wants.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/handle-the-aftermath-of-bad-argument-with-your-partner\/\" title=\"6 Easy Ways to Make up After a Fight With Your Partner\">6 Easy Ways to Make up After a Fight With Your Partner<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>11. Avoiding conflict<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, guys might ignore you after an argument because they want to avoid more fighting. They hope that by staying quiet, the situation won&rsquo;t get worse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They might need time to think and figure out how to make things better without arguing. It&rsquo;s like taking a break to prevent things from getting too heated.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Misunderstanding<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After an argument, if a guy is ignoring you, it could be because he didn&rsquo;t fully understand what you were trying to say. Maybe something you said was confusing or came across differently than you meant.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He might be thinking about what you said and trying to figure out what you really meant before talking again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Testing boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, guys might ignore you to see how you&rsquo;ll react. It&rsquo;s like a way of testing how much you care or how much effort you&rsquo;ll put in to fix things. They want to know if you&rsquo;ll reach out first or show that you&rsquo;re serious about the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s a bit like checking to see if you value the relationship as much as they do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. Antonio Borrello, a psychologist and relationship coach, sheds more light on what a man might be thinking when he ignores you. Watch here:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br><\/span><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/dhr6gqdx_bg?si=wmFiMCPOn7sKhucT\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17-things-to-do-if-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument-2\"><\/span><b>17 things to do if a guy ignores you after an argument<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After arguing with your guy, you need to avoid complicating issues by trying to pick up a fight; you should be after<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/conflict-resolution-techniques\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conflict resolution<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When a guy ignores you after an argument, be careful of your actions because it determines how fast the issue will be resolved.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>If you are wondering what to do when he ignores you after a fight, here is a list of some actions you can take.<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Assess the situation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you just argued with your guy, you need to assess the situation by first identifying the root cause and other elements of the fallouts. Try to have an idea about how guys feel after an argument.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can discuss with a trusted friend to help you spot the aspects or patterns you might have skipped.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Avoid assuming and jumping to conclusions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge; if you keep assuming and making conclusions from these, it can affect your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you notice your guy is ignoring you, it is important to understand why before you start accusing him.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Give him the benefit of the doubt<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need to ask yourself if your partner repeatedly ignores you after an argument or a conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he does not, there may be something else bothering him. But there is also a chance that he is trying to wrap his head around the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Have a conversation with him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you disagree with your guy, and he ignores you, one thing that should be on your mind is discussing it with him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would help if you were strategic about this action by first observing his efforts for a while before<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/260226757_The_Art_of_Making_Conversation_Learning_the_Skills_Small_Talk\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">initiating the conversation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, be careful not to start the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-blame-game-is-destructive-to-your-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">blame game<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when conversing.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/conversations-with-your-spouse-dos-and-donts\/\" title=\"Conversations With Your Spouse: Dos And Don\u2019ts\">Conversations With Your Spouse: Dos And Don\u2019ts<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>5. Try to acknowledge your faults in the argument<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When there is a disagreement in a relationship,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/4-tips-to-communicate-with-your-partner-when-you-disagree\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">both parties have their part to play<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. So, you can approach your guy and let him know you are aware of your faults in the fallouts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you do this, it might spur him to do the same thing and resolve the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Prepare his favorite meal<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your guy is ignoring you, you can get his attention by preparing his favorite meal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With this, it might be difficult for him to ignore you because he will feel happy after the meal, and he will be ready to discuss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68265\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/reach-out-to-his-trusted-friends-and-relatives.jpg\" alt=\"Family and Friends Meeting Together at Cafe\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your guy ignores you after arguing, and it isn&rsquo;t easy to communicate with him, you can share with his trusted pals and relatives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he has ignored you for a long while, there is a chance that his close friends and relatives might have noticed.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Reach out to a professional relationship counselor<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A professional relationship counselor would have the knack for detecting hidden cracks in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hence, if you are wondering what to do when he stops calling and texting, you can contact a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">professional relationship counselo<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">r for help.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Apologize to him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your guy ignores you, it is important to take time to check the situation,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/developing-acceptance-skills-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">accept your faults<\/span><\/a>,<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and apologize. He may be waiting for your apology before he starts talking to you again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don&rsquo;t know how to apologize, here are some words to use from Pauline Locke&rsquo;s book titled &lsquo;<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.co.in\/books\/edition\/Heartfelt_Ways_to_Say_I_m_Sorry\/Di8uKEzQ30YC?hl=en&amp;gbpv=0&amp;bsq=Heartfelt%20ways%20to%20say%20I%27m%20sorry\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heartfelt Ways to Say I&rsquo;m Sorry<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&rsquo;&nbsp; You will learn the right words to use to get forgiveness from your man.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Keep yourself busy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man says he needs time to think after a fight and begins to ignore you, you keep yourself busy to prevent thinking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, there is a chance that your man will reach out to you when he is ready to talk. So you can focus on other aspects of your life and move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Meet up with people who love you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a guy ignores you after an argument, seek the company of your dear ones. Even though you are in a relationship, you still need the presence and acquaintance of those who love you, especially during hard times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, when you observe and ask, &ldquo;Why is my boyfriend ignoring me after a fight,&rdquo; you might need to gain clarity from those who love you. These people will provide you with<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/ways-to-improve-emotional-support-in-your-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional support<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to keep you psychologically stable and not lose your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Use other forms of communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel your boyfriend is ignoring you, you can use other forms of communication to reach out to him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, before you conclude your boyfriend&rsquo;s behavior, you have to be sure if their action is deliberate or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Show him how much you love him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a guy ignores you after an argument, let him see and feel your affection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the reasons why guys ignore their ladies is insecurity. An<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/identify-an-insecure-man\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">insecure guy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can decide to ignore you if he feels you can leave at any time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you need more insights on how to resolve issues in your relationship, you can check out Paul Shaffer&rsquo;s book &lsquo;<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.co.in\/books\/edition\/Conflict_Resolution_for_Couples\/EVrDMJPhzTgC?hl=en&amp;gbpv=0\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Conflict Resolution for Couples<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This book comes with extensive insight into having a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/top-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy relationship<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">by resolving conflicts amicably.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-couples-can-effectively-repair-an-argument\/\" title=\"8 Ways Couples Can Repair Their Relationship After an Argument\">8 Ways Couples Can Repair Their Relationship After an Argument<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>16. <\/b><b>Stay positive<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When there&rsquo;s no contact after arguments with your partner, you need to gather your thoughts first.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a guy ignores you after an argument, it&rsquo;s easy to feel down. But staying positive helps you keep a good attitude. Focus on the good things in your life, and remember that arguments happen in all relationships.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By staying positive, you show that you&rsquo;re strong and ready to work things out when he&rsquo;s ready to talk.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. Learn from It<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a guy ignores you after an argument, you can deduce a lesson from it even if there wasn&rsquo;t any fault of yours.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Arguments can teach us valuable lessons. Take some time to think about what led to the argument and how you both reacted. Maybe there&rsquo;s a better way to communicate next time, or you can learn more about each other&rsquo;s triggers.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning from the argument helps you both grow and handle things better in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Commonly-asked-questions\"><\/span><b>Commonly asked questions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding why guys go silent and how to handle it can bring clarity to relationships. Here are simple answers to common questions about their behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Why do guys give silent treatment?&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you wonder why &ldquo;My boyfriend ignores me for days after an argument?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, guys go quiet when overwhelmed by emotions. It&rsquo;s their way of coping, not necessarily a healthy one. They might need time to think and cool down.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>When does a guy go quiet after an argument?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After an argument, if a guy goes quiet, he&rsquo;s likely processing his feelings. He might be reflecting on what was said and trying to figure out how to move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Is it normal for men to ignore you for days after a fight?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not the best way to handle things, but it can happen. Guys might need time to sort out their thoughts and emotions. However, communication is crucial to resolve the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Should I confront him about the ignoring behavior?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gentle communication is key. Express your concern and ask if he needs space. Avoid blaming; instead, show understanding. Healthy conversations are vital for resolving misunderstandings.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Because-ignorance-is-not-the-solution\"><\/span><b>Because ignorance is not the solution<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a guy ignores you after an argument, it is normal to feel worried or afraid because you are not aware of the unexpected actions from his end.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hence, it is vital to be patient with your guy and treat him with love regardless. If you decide to ignore him, too, it is disadvantageous because two wrongs cannot make a right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you notice it is the right time, you can start a conversation with him and find a constructive way to resolve the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>No matter how much you love your man, there will be times when you disagree with him on some issues. This does not change your love for him, but disagreements in relationships are a tough reality that exists because both partners have different mindsets and value systems. Sometimes, what happens after an argument can be unpleasant for both parties. What do you do when a guy ignores you after an argument? There will be different thoughts running through your mind, and it might be challenging to conclude. 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