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You might think that the way you talk to or treat your partner is normal. However, you will be surprised to hear that some of your behaviors and acts can be abusive. <\/span><\/p>\n When people ask, “Am I abusive?” they are about to come to the point of self-realization of their actions, especially when their partners begin to complain.<\/span><\/p>\n Sadly, people who have grown up in dysfunctional households full of negativity and abuse may not understand what it means to be abusive or to be abused.<\/p>\n In her research study titled: The Long-Term Impact of Emotional Abuse in Childhood, Margaret O’Dougherty Wright makes an in-depth study into<\/span> emotional abuse and how it affects individuals as they grow up.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n In this article, we will be looking at signs of an abusive spouse. We will answer common questions like “Am I emotionally abusive?”, “Am I an abusive partner?” “Am I verbally abusive?” to help people figure out how to make things right in their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Abuse in the relationship is a situation where one partner exerts control or force over the other. It can be physical, emotional, verbal, financial, and so forth. There are many aspects when it comes to an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n As Empowerment and Relationship mentor Dionne Eleanor<\/a> shares,<\/p>\n We all deserve to be in relationships that make us feel safe, respected, and loved.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n There are many aspects to consider when it comes to an abusive relationship. It starts with understanding what abuse is,<\/span><\/p>\n Know about it here: <\/span>What Is Abuse? Understanding What It Is And How To Help<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/p>\n It is important to note that it doesn’t boil down to the physical version when it comes to abuse, which many people know. What is considered abusive behavior? Abuse can occur verbally, psychologically, and mentally. Whatever the<\/span> type of abuse<\/span><\/a> that is experienced in a relationship, it tends to destroy it. <\/span><\/p>\n The reason is that abuse reduces trust in a relationship, weakening the existing bond and connection between both partners. Therefore, if you notice things are no longer the same between you and your partner, it won’t be bad to find out if abuse exists in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Emotional abuse exists when one partner uses emotions to shame, criticize, embarrass and manipulate the other party. When there is an eternal pattern of abusive behaviors and words, emotional abuse exists in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n So, what are the behavior partners complain about that shows you are an abusive spouse? Barrie Davenport dives deep into the signs that help you recognize the<\/span> signs of emotional abuse<\/span><\/a> in her book. This will help partners recognize the patterns of control and<\/span> manipulation in their relationship<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Do abusers know they are abusive? Here are five signs that could reflect abusive tendencies in a man:<\/span><\/p>\n If your partner begins to complain that you are too involved in their private life, you might be emotionally abusive. Understandably, partners have the desire to be involved in each other’s affairs. <\/span><\/p>\n However, if you find it satisfying to control every little aspect of your partner’s life without giving them the freedom to make their decisions, they may be emotionally abused.<\/span><\/p>\n Partners shout or yell at each other when they have an emotional outburst. However, when disagreements and fallouts usually escalate into howling or yelling at each other, it is not healthy, and emotional abuse might be at play.<\/span><\/p>\n If you shout at your partner, it would be difficult to make a conversation productive. In addition, a power imbalance is created where the loudest individual is heard. This can make your spouse cower in fear and be reluctant to speak because they don’t want to offend you.<\/span><\/p>\n If you feel disdain for your partner, it will be challenging for you to<\/span> express your feelings<\/span><\/a> appropriately. One of the<\/span> signs of a healthy relationship<\/span><\/a> is when both partners are respectful even when they disagree with your claims. <\/span><\/p>\n However, if you discover that you always respond to your partner’s needs with disgust and disrespect, you might be creating an atmosphere of emotional abuse in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n If you have asked yourself, “Am I emotionally abusive to my girlfriend?”, being defensive is one of the signs to look out for. When you always feel the need to defend yourself, it would be difficult to achieve<\/span> positive communication<\/span><\/a> with your spouse. <\/span><\/p>\n You and your partner must be able to discuss honestly and openly when resolving issues without being defensive.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the reasons why people ask if “I am the abuser or the abused?” is because they don’t know the signs to watch out for. If you constantly find yourself issuing one threat or another to your partner, there is a chance you are emotionally abusive.<\/span><\/p>\n Usually, these threats come in coercive or forceful statements accompanied by blackmail and other trepidatory remarks. The intent is to corner the victim and prevent them from rescuing themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n Watch this video to learn more about the signs of an abusive spouse:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>What is abuse in a relationship?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>How to know if you are an abusive spouse<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> Signs of an Abusive Wife and How to Deal with It<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>10 signs of an emotionally abusive partner<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
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2. Shouting<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. Disdain<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Always defensive<\/b><\/h3>\n
5. Threats<\/b><\/h3>\n