

{"id":67841,"date":"2021-07-14T07:10:55","date_gmt":"2021-07-14T07:10:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=67841"},"modified":"2024-10-16T15:02:36","modified_gmt":"2024-10-16T15:02:36","slug":"tolerance-vs-acceptance-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tolerance-vs-acceptance-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Differences Between Acceptance vs Tolerance in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-67844\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/tolerance-vs-acceptance-in-relationships-differences.jpg\" alt=\"Photo of Irritated Couple Man and Woman in Casual Clothes Having Problems and Arguing Isolated Over Gray Background\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you take the time to think about what tolerance is, the word can either be negative or it can be a beautiful thing. For some of us, how we look at things will determine our path. Finding positivity in every situation, even if it&rsquo;s only a mere thread, will guide a more joyful journey.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you deeply consider acceptance vs tolerance in relationships, <\/span><b>tolerance has to accompany you on life&rsquo;s path because the people you come in contact with will all be different from yourself. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don&rsquo;t allow tolerance of flaws or dissimilar values, you could end up very lonely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Acceptance in relationships is finding love, understanding, and appreciating the differences the other person contributes to the partnership<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. While we all have flaws, acceptance is stepping outside of tolerance, incorporating the things you don&rsquo;t have in common into your union.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You come to a point where you enhance each other&rsquo;s attributes, so even minor faults don&rsquo;t develop into such a problem. It becomes possible to live in a much happier and more peaceful capacity as the individuals you genuinely are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Read this article to learn more about acceptance vs tolerance in relationships and how they impact the equation that a couple shares.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stay-together-when-you-are-different-from-each-other\/\" title=\"How to Stay Together When You Are Different From Each Other\">How to Stay Together When You Are Different From Each Other<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-tolerance-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What is tolerance in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tolerance (not acceptance) is a unique sentiment from acceptance. There are numerous characteristics of tolerance or ways of being tolerant, if you will, like realizing no two people are alike and your partner will do things in an individual way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The feeling can hold a great deal of positivity in most circumstances if you look for the good. In a relationship, a person with a tolerant attitude is willing to deal with habits that might otherwise frustrate them. But <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s11205-019-02176-y\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">experts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> have observed that what constitutes tolerance may differ culturally.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, perhaps a partner tends to take 45-minute long showers using all the hot water. Because you tend to hold a strong will for the partnership to move forward, you choose to face the issue with tolerance and acceptance to achieve a peaceful outcome.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-differences-shape-and-impact-your-relationship\/\" title=\"How to Manage the Differences in Your Relationship\">How to Manage the Differences in Your Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-acceptance-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What is acceptance in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acceptance is not necessarily as much of an effort or thought process as tolerance. The difference between tolerance and acceptance seems more to be that one is of the mind while one is of the heart. You have to consciously consider whether you&rsquo;re willing to tolerate issues with a partner for tolerance to work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/maggie-martinez\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Maggie Martinez<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, LCSW:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">There can be things you tolerate in a relationship that you don&rsquo;t necessarily accept. This is a good distinction to make because a conversation may need to be had.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Accepting people for who they are is simply a matter of love and open arms to receive that person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship acceptance is automatic in a healthy equation, with imperfections not given a second thought. These are merely considered a part of what makes this person the partner that you love and helps you appreciate them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC8720111\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> shows that acceptance in relationships can have a direct and indirect impact on the relationship satisfaction that a person experiences. This makes learning how to accept your partner&rsquo;s flaws a beneficial act.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, acceptance shouldn&rsquo;t be confused with believing the other person is perfect. No one is without flaws. It simply means you&rsquo;re willing to live with the faults since you don&rsquo;t find them detrimental to the partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/developing-acceptance-skills-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"Developing Acceptance Skills in a Relationship\">Developing Acceptance Skills in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11-differences-between-acceptance-vs-tolerance-in-relationships\"><\/span><b>11 differences between acceptance vs tolerance in relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a relationship, choosing between <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tolerance-vs-acceptance-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">tolerance vs acceptance<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a challenge for the partnership. With tolerance, you often find a bit of resistance or even resentment for that particular fault.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t really like what&rsquo;s happening and would prefer (if you had your way) that it stops. But to make things &ldquo;tolerable,&rdquo; you&rsquo;re willing to concede. That is certainly not a heartfelt sentiment like you&rsquo;ll notice love is accepting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find you&rsquo;re doing more tolerating than accepting, it might be worth taking a step back and examining the union a bit more closely. You can either analyze how to be more accepting of your partner or communicate the faults.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Explain why these bother you and whether you want to tolerate these, albeit still frustrated, or hope for changes in the other person to make things work.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are some differences between acceptance and tolerance in relationships? Let&rsquo;s check it out.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Definition<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance implies putting up with something without actively opposing it. It can involve enduring or allowing behaviors or opinions that one might disagree with or find challenging. However, it doesn&rsquo;t necessarily mean embracing or supporting those behaviors or opinions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance, on the other hand, involves a more embracing and understanding stance. It acknowledges the reality of a situation or a person as they are without trying to change or resist it. Acceptance is about embracing differences and seeing them as valid and valuable.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Emotional response<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance may involve suppressing negative emotions to keep the peace. It can lead to feelings of frustration or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/anger-and-resentment\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">resentment<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> due to the lack of genuine acceptance or understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance is often accompanied by positive emotions like empathy, compassion, and love. When we accept someone, we are more likely to feel connected to them on an emotional level and have a deeper sense of understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Attitude towards differences<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance may acknowledge the existence of differences but might not lead to appreciating or celebrating those differences.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance sees differences as essential aspects of a person&rsquo;s identity and embraces them as part of what makes that individual unique and valuable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-67845\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/differences-between-tolerance-and-acceptance.jpg\" alt=\"Sad Man and Women\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Depth of engagement<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance can sometimes involve merely tolerating someone&rsquo;s presence or actions without investing emotionally or connecting deeply with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance fosters a deeper level of emotional engagement. When we accept someone, we are more likely to actively seek to understand them and their feelings, thoughts, and experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Active vs. passive stance<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance can be a more passive stance, where one may not take an active role in addressing issues or concerns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance requires active engagement. It encourages communication, empathy, and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-resolve-conflict-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">efforts to resolve conflicts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or challenges in a constructive and supportive manner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Impact on self-worth<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance might not significantly affect one&rsquo;s self-worth, as it doesn&rsquo;t necessarily validate or invalidate a person&rsquo;s identity or worth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance positively impacts self-worth. When we feel accepted for who we are, we are more likely to develop a positive self-image and a stronger sense of self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Boundaries and limits<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance might involve tolerating behaviors that cross <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/personal-boundaries\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">personal boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or limits, which can lead to feeling taken advantage of or disrespected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance still requires setting and respecting healthy boundaries. It involves understanding and respecting each other&rsquo;s limits while fostering a supportive and caring environment.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Willingness to change<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance may not necessarily require individuals to change their behaviors or beliefs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance doesn&rsquo;t demand change, but it allows room for personal growth and mutual adaptation. It encourages a willingness to learn and grow together as individuals and as a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Long-term sustainability<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-67846\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/happy-time-together.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Loving Couple Enjoying Honeymoon\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: A relationship based solely on tolerance may struggle to maintain long-term fulfillment and connection, as unresolved issues and emotional distance may arise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance provides a stronger foundation for long-term sustainability, as it fosters deeper emotional bonds and encourages open and honest communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Communication style<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: In a tolerant relationship, communication may be less open or honest to avoid conflict or confrontation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance encourages open and honest communication, as it promotes trust and a safe space for expressing thoughts and feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to learn what your speaking style says about you:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jAGgKE82034\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Psychological well-being<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Tolerance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Tolerance might lead to internal conflicts and emotional strain, as suppressing negative emotions can take a toll on mental well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&ndash; <\/span><b>Acceptance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: Acceptance contributes to better <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/marriage-and-psychological-well-being\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">psychological well-being<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, as it allows for emotional expression, support, and understanding, leading to a more fulfilling relationship experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In essence, tolerance may involve temporary coexistence with differences, while acceptance cultivates genuine connection and understanding, laying the groundwork for a healthier and more enriching relationship. Remembering this can help you understand acceptance vs tolerance in relationships.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-the-role-of-acceptance-and-tolerance-in-healthy-relationships\"><\/span><b>What is the role of acceptance and tolerance in healthy relationships?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acceptance and tolerance are crucial in healthy relationships, fostering trust, empathy, and respect. They create a safe space for individuality, allowing partners to be themselves without judgment or pressure to change.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Conflict resolution becomes constructive, and emotional intimacy deepens when acceptance is present. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/referenceworkentry\/10.1007\/978-3-319-15877-8_49-1\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Positive reinforcement<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> nurtures growth, while patience reduces resentment. Such relationships prioritize emotional well-being and strengthen the bond between partners, allowing them to navigate challenges and changes together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it&rsquo;s important to set boundaries and not tolerate harmful behavior. In essence, acceptance and tolerance form the bedrock for understanding, growth, and lasting connection in thriving relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Some-commonly-asked-questions\"><\/span><b>Some commonly asked questions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are the answers to some questions that can help you understand acceptance vs tolerance in relationships better:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can you love someone and tolerate them?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, it is possible to love someone and tolerate them. Tolerance involves accepting differences and managing disagreements without letting them overshadow the love and emotional connection. While love encompasses deep affection and care, tolerance allows individuals to coexist harmoniously despite their divergent views or behaviors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Maggie Martinez highlights that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>It is important to see how much you are &lsquo;tolerating&rsquo; in a relationship versus &lsquo;accepting.&rsquo; This gives a good insight into how healthy the relationship is.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>What are examples of tolerance and acceptance in relationships?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tolerance in relationships<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be seen when partners respect each other&rsquo;s differing viewpoints or habits, even if they don&rsquo;t fully agree. For example, one partner may tolerate the other&rsquo;s preference for a certain TV show.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acceptance is evident when partners embrace each other&rsquo;s unique qualities without judgment. An example would be accepting and supporting a partner&rsquo;s career change, despite the uncertainties.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both tolerance and acceptance contribute to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How to be more tolerant in a relationship?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To practice tolerance in relationships, you can actively listen to your partner&rsquo;s perspectives without judgment, embracing their differences. Choose empathy over criticism, respecting their individuality.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Allow room for compromise during disagreements, seeking common ground. Cultivate patience in understanding each other&rsquo;s flaws and imperfections. Avoid pushing your beliefs onto them, and instead, foster an environment of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">open communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and acceptance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Maggie Martinez further adds:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You can work towards tolerance by reflecting back on what you are hearing your partner say they want.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final-thoughts\"><\/span><b>Final thoughts<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In romantic terms, acceptance vs tolerance in relationships, each has the potential for being positive in a partnership, but they&rsquo;re vastly different.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re tolerating a mate&rsquo;s habits or behaviors, but you&rsquo;re doing so with an air of resentment, it&rsquo;s unlikely you&rsquo;ll become accepting at any point. You&rsquo;ll more than likely grow more annoyed and frustrated as time passes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acceptance is more heart-based, with love for even the quirks of the partner&rsquo;s personality. That doesn&rsquo;t mean, at some point in time, those quirks won&rsquo;t become an annoyance. These things do happen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But as a rule, when you&rsquo;re accepting, behaviors and habits are charming, leading to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/commandments-of-successful-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">successful partnership<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The bottom line is people should like you for you &ndash; not tolerate &ndash; accept and care for who you are as you are if they want to be in your life. Don&rsquo;t change for anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you take the time to think about what tolerance is, the word can either be negative or it can be a beautiful thing. For some of us, how we look at things will determine our path. Finding positivity in every situation, even if it&rsquo;s only a mere thread, will guide a more joyful journey. If you deeply consider acceptance vs tolerance in relationships, tolerance has to accompany you on life&rsquo;s path because the people you come in contact with will all be different from yourself. If you don&rsquo;t allow tolerance of flaws or dissimilar values, you could end up <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":67844,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11],"tags":[2511],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/67841"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=67841"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/67841\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":105094,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/67841\/revisions\/105094"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/67844"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=67841"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=67841"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=67841"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}