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It’s always nice to be true to yourself, but it’s easier said than done, particularly when it’s about sex.<\/span><\/p>\n When it comes to sex, not all women can voice out what they want. It doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you; it just means that you’re naturally shy about sex, and that’s completely normal.<\/span><\/p>\n You may have asked yourself many times, “Why do I feel shy sexually with my husband?”<\/span><\/p>\n This question can also bring up other thoughts like, “How can I please my husband in bed” and “How can I stop being shy and awkward?”<\/span><\/p>\n You’re not alone with this, and yes, you can do something about it too.<\/span><\/p>\n Don’t think that it’s impossible to overcome your sexual shyness. In fact, with proper understanding and a change in mindset, you will feel more comfortable sexually.<\/span><\/p>\n There can be many reasons why women are too shy for sex, even if it’s with their spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n Some might think that since you are already married, that it becomes easier to not be shy in bed and to let go and be wild whenever you want to. However, that is not always the case. Most of the time, shy wives would still find it hard to be more open, even with their husbands.<\/span><\/p>\n There can be many reasons why a woman may feel shy in bed such as:<\/b><\/p>\n “Why do I feel shy sexually with my husband” is a question that you may have been thinking about for quite some time now. Deep inside, you know you also have sexual <\/span>needs and wants<\/span><\/a>, but what’s stopping you? <\/span><\/p>\n Some women are just naturally shy. For them, it’s a challenge to be vocal about what they like and what they want.<\/span><\/p>\n “That’s not how a woman should behave.”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Some women grow up in a society where ladies are expected to be reserved and shy. In fact, being too “open” about your sexuality or feeling <\/span>sexually confident<\/span><\/a> is perceived as being too vulgar and inappropriate in some communities or families.<\/span><\/p>\n Maggie Martinez<\/a>, LCSW, says<\/p>\n Sometimes our upbringing can cause women to feel shame or guilt for engaging in sexual acts, even with their spouse.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n That’s why even when married, some women become sexually awkward.<\/span><\/p>\n What’s your first thought when you visualize yourself being wild in bed?<\/span><\/p>\n “Sex makes me uncomfortable” may be one of the thoughts that will come to mind because when it comes to women taking control of sex, you may visualize porn videos.<\/span><\/p>\n You may even feel that it’s not who you are, or you’re not being yourself if you are in tune with your <\/span>sexual desires<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n “Why do I feel shy sexually with my husband? Is it because of my physical appearance?”<\/span><\/p>\n This is another common reason why some women can’t be confident in bed. We all have insecurities, especially when we see adult movies and see how visually appealing the actors are. <\/span><\/p>\n The movie industry and even social media have given a false representation of what a “sexy” woman must look like. That is why some women have self-doubts about their sexual confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>“All I want is to <\/span><\/i>keep my husband happy in bed<\/span><\/i><\/a>, but I’m afraid of what he might think.”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n You want to get out of your shell, and you want to be more assertive in bed and do what you want to do – but you’re afraid.<\/span><\/p>\n You are afraid of what your husband might think. You think that if something goes wrong, your husband-and-wife relationship in bed might be compromised. <\/span><\/p>\n You might also think that your husband may find your newly-found confidence to be weird or funny- so you stay hidden inside your shell.<\/span> “How do I tell my spouse what I want?”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Again, you are not alone with this thought. It’s a challenge to be able to express what you want in bed. You may also find it awkward to start a conversation about it. <\/span><\/p>\n “I’ve decided to be more confident in bed, but where do I start?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n How do you start being awesome in bed? We all know that there is no school or course for that – so where do you start? How do you know if you’re doing it correctly? <\/span> It would surely be awkward to ask your friends, right? <\/span><\/p>\n <\/b>Now that you have addressed the reasons why you are sexually shy with your husband, it’s time to feel sexually confident.<\/span> With these 10 simple tips, you would be able to level up your husband and wife relationship in the bedroom. You might even be surprised at how easy some of these tips are!<\/span><\/p>\n It’s time to let go of all your inhibitions. It’s time to see yourself as the beautiful and sexy woman that you are.<\/span><\/p>\n Believe us when we say that when you are confident about yourself, everything else will follow. So, practice <\/span>self-acceptance<\/span><\/a> first and stop being shy and awkward with your husband!<\/span><\/p>\n Let go and stop thinking of things that don’t really matter. You are with your husband, he wants you, and this is your moment together.<\/span><\/p>\n Remember, <\/span>confidence is sexy!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n The decision to be sexually confident should come from you.<\/span><\/p>\n It’s not because you’re afraid your <\/span>husband might cheat<\/span><\/a>, or you’re pressured because your husband asked you to be better in bed.<\/span><\/p>\n Do it for yourself.<\/i><\/b> Do it because you want it and because it will make you happy.<\/span><\/p>\n Now that this is clear, the next step is to be dedicated. It won’t be easy to just let go and be wild. You might shock your spouse if you instantly change.<\/span><\/p>\n Along with any type of change, being sexually confident also takes time and dedication.<\/span><\/p>\n To be sexually less shy and awkward with your husband, you need to make sure that you know yourself first.<\/span><\/p>\n Before you can give pleasure, you need to know what pleases you.<\/span><\/p>\n You need to know what turns you on and what keeps you turned on. Do you love sensual massages? Maybe you get turned on with soft kisses.<\/span><\/p>\n Don’t be shy to ask for what you want. How would you know if you won’t try it?<\/span><\/p>\n Don’t be afraid to let your husband know that he’s doing a great job. Ask for more if you want more.<\/span><\/p>\n Once you have overcome any physical insecurity, you will know how good and sexy you will feel when you wear <\/span>sexy clothes or lingerie<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the perks of being confident in bed is feeling sexy with what you wear.<\/span><\/p>\n Go and treat yourself with that lacy red lingerie and surprise your husband. Put on your favorite perfume and dim the lights.<\/span><\/p>\n Now that we are talking about setting the mood, another tip that can <\/span>spice up your sex life<\/span><\/a> is knowing how to tickle your five senses.<\/span><\/p>\n To give you an idea, try scented candles, candy-flavored lube, soft feathers, sensual music, and of course, blindfolds.<\/span><\/p>\n7 Reasons why women feel sexually shy in bed<\/h2>\n
1. You are naturally shy<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. You grew up in a conservative family<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. The media interprets “sexually confident” women differently<\/b><\/h3>\n
4. You have insecurities<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>How to Deal With Physical Insecurities In A Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
5. You are anxious about what your partner would think<\/b><\/h3>\n
<\/span><\/p>\n6. You’re too shy to let your husband know what you want in bed<\/b><\/h3>\n
7. You don’t have a clue where to start<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/span>Some women are too shy to ask around and even do research about overcoming their sexual shyness in bed. They are also uncomfortable about learning <\/span>how to pleasure<\/span><\/a> their partner and how to enjoy sex. <\/span><\/p>\n10 Tips on how to overcome your sexual shyness<\/h2>\n
<\/span><\/p>\n1. Self-acceptance is vital<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Do it for yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. Figure out what turns you “on”<\/b><\/h3>\n
Also Try: <\/i><\/b>What Turns You On Quiz<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
4. Buy yourself sexy clothes<\/b><\/h3>\n
5. Tickle your five senses<\/b><\/h3>\n