

{"id":65994,"date":"2021-05-11T11:11:41","date_gmt":"2021-05-11T11:11:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=65994"},"modified":"2026-02-18T06:56:30","modified_gmt":"2026-02-18T06:56:30","slug":"habits-of-couples-having-great-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/habits-of-couples-having-great-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Habits of Couples Having Great Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-65997\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/habits-of-couples-having-great-sex.jpg\" alt=\"Loving Couple On The Bed In The Bedroom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Romance, intimacy, and having good sex are important aspects of the relationship, but often, they are known to fade with time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Some couples having <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/3-tips-for-better-sex-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">great sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> or seeming to be completely wild over each other even 5, 10, 20+ years into the relationship know the key to spice it up while others fizzle after the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-long-does-the-honeymoon-phase-last\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">honeymoon phase<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">So, just what are the tricks for keeping things fresh and frisky in the bedroom with your partner?<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sexual-habits\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Sexual Habits That Can Hurt and Help Your Sex Life<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><b>10 sex habits that happy couples swear by<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">So, how to have great sex? Are there any sex tips for couples?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">There are certain habits happy couples do that others lack. These relationship secrets are sure to take you and your partner on a romantic spin. Below, we cover habits of couples having great sex or those who have no problems in the romance department.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. They are affectionate even outside the bedroom<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Romance doesn&rsquo;t start in the bedroom. It should play a part in your everyday lives, no matter what you have planned for later.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Feeling a strong <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/physical-attraction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">attraction to your partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> during the day, receiving little kisses, cuddles, and sexy compliments, and feeling generally seen, wanted, and supported by your partner can go a long way to set up a great time in the bedroom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">You don&rsquo;t have to go overboard to make this work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">For couples having great sex, just a simple compliment, a lingering kiss before heading off to work, holding their hand while walking, or cuddling up for their favorite show can make them <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/things-that-can-bring-couples-closer\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">feel closer<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and more connected with you to set the scene of romance.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/how-to-add-romance-to-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Ideas on How to Be Romantic in Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. They embrace a flirty build-up<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Flirting and playfulness too often take a back seat after the dating or beginning <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/stages-of-relationship-development\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">phases of the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, but they shouldn&rsquo;t.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Think back to your first few dates together, where every flirty comment, the gentle touch of the hand, or sexy look drove you wild. The same slow build-up can and should be utilized still, even if you are on your 1000th &ldquo;date&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The couples having great sex embrace a flirty first-date vibe. Incorporate this into your relationship with a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/sexy-texts-for-her\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">sexy text<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, unexpected kisses, and enjoying the build-up, even if you aren&rsquo;t sure if the main event will happen that night. It will make things that much better when you do find the time.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/ways-to-romance-your-husband\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Ways to Romance Your Husband &amp; Rekindle Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>3. They aren&rsquo;t afraid of sexy toys and products<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">What makes a good sex? Are there things to make sex better?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Buying something to help out or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/4-essential-tips-to-improve-physical-intimacy-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">enhance your sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> is no longer taboo, and the couples who enjoy sex with these know <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/328772270_From_Sex_Toys_to_Pleasure_Objects\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">sex toys<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> as a way to enhance their sex lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">If you have always wanted to try out a specific toy or that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.struthealth.com\/blog\/what-is-scream-cream\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> sensitizing cream <\/a> looks fun, order it or pick one up. If you think some lubrication may help with your comfort levels, or a wedge pillow can help you with a tricky position &mdash; go for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Couples having great sex long term aren&rsquo;t afraid to try something new, whether it is supposed to enhance the experience or just make things more comfortable. It is about feeling good and having fun with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. They know the importance of taking care of themselves<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-65998\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/they-know-the-importance-of-taking-care-of-themselves.jpg\" alt=\"Salad - Healthy Fitness Couple Eating Food\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Staying healthy and feeling good about your body isn&rsquo;t all about looks. When you feel confident about yourself, you can have a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/new-sex-tips-that-will-drive-your-wife-crazy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">better time in bed<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, and that enhances things for your partner, too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Keeping up with your general health by exercising and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.medicalnewstoday.com\/articles\/322779\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">eating right<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> can also help prevent issues in the bedroom like getting out of breath, not having a lot of stamina, not having the strength to try certain positions, or even erectile dysfunction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Put an emphasis on staying healthy together by <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/working-out-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">working out together<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and learning how to cook nutritious meals together. This won&rsquo;t just help with your overall well-being. It may help you keep up a lively bedroom way down the road.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">What Food Is Good for Better Sex?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>5. They are relaxed and playful in bed<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Couples having great sex don&rsquo;t take themselves too seriously in bed. Sometimes sexy times can be funny or awkward, and it is okay to laugh together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Relax, laugh, tickle, and have fun with your partner in bed for great long-term chemistry.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Fun Sex Ideas That You Should Try<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. They meditate and know how to stay present<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">What is thought of as a hippy hobby may actually help you have better sex with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/whats-sex-got-to-do-with-mindfulness\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Meditation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> helps you learn how to breathe deeply for good circulation and blood oxygenation, which is great for arousal and sexual acts for couples. Plus, it can help you quiet intrusive thoughts and focus on the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">When it comes to the bedroom, mindfulness and staying in the moment can make all the difference since you are focused on thinking about your partner and various sensations &mdash; not that work deadline or your to-do list.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/building-a-mindful-sexual-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Building a Mindful Sexual Relationship with Your Partner<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>7. They linger in bed longer afterward<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Couples having great sex know that it&rsquo;s not only about sex. Great intimacy and connection are built before and after, too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Lingering in bed afterward for cuddling, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/pillow-talk-could-save-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">pillow talk<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, napping, or whatever else you find intimate can help couples feel more <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/marriage-satisfaction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">satisfied with their relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and sex lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">So, stifle the urge to rush out and move on to the next activity and learn how to savor those post-sex moments with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. They schedule sex during busy times<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-66001\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/they-schedule-sex-during-busy-times.jpg\" alt=\"Young Couple Doing Romance In The Bedroom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sex-scheduling-is-not-a-dirty-word\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Scheduling sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> sounds like the opposite of a good and exciting sex life, but hear us out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Life can get busy sometimes, and when it does, it is possible that sexy time with your partner can take a back seat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Making a loose schedule for romance can help you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/making-time-for-you-and-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">make time for you both<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> to feel close to each other, even when life is hectic. By having a set approximate time, you both can make sure to clear that time for each other and set the worries of the day aside to reconnect in the bedroom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The busyness of life may take a while to slow down (if it ever does).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">So, showing your partner that intimacy with them is important enough to make sure you fit it in can go a long way to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/9-tips-to-building-a-stable-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">stable and sexy relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and is one of the important sexual habits of married couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>The video below talks about why scheduling sex should be a norm and how it can enhance the relationship:<\/b><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/1ew8hdDg-go\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. They function as a team in everyday life<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Couples having great sex feel like they have an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/how-to-be-a-team-player-to-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">awesome teammate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, even outside the bedroom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Splitting chores fairly, encouraging each other, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/become-a-better-listener\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">being a good listener<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, and approaching problems as a team can improve your sexual habits and make you both feel ready to happily hop into bed for some romance at the end of the day.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/teamwork-in-your-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How to Create Teamwork in Your Marriage and Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>10. They put in the work to keep things fresh<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Lastly, couples having great sex no matter how long they have been together put in the work. Humans like excitement, nuances, new situations, and even imagination in the bedroom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">So, you both have to be on board to constantly revamp, update, and explore.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/benefits-of-physical-intimacy-in-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Benefits of Sex in the Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Takeaway<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">For couples having good sex, nothing good comes without working for it, and constantly rehashing the same bedroom situations can get stale, no matter how awesome your partner is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">When both parties make a point of noticing a bedroom slump and putting in the work to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-to-spice-things-up-in-the-bedroom\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">spice things up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">, you are on your way to having a sexy and satisfying relationship long term.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Romance, intimacy, and having good sex are important aspects of the relationship, but often, they are known to fade with time. Some couples having great sex or seeming to be completely wild over each other even 5, 10, 20+ years into the relationship know the key to spice it up while others fizzle after the honeymoon phase. So, just what are the tricks for keeping things fresh and frisky in the bedroom with your partner? Related Reading: Sexual Habits That Can Hurt and Help Your Sex Life 10 sex habits that happy couples swear by So, how to have great <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1277,"featured_media":65997,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[31],"tags":[2524],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65994"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1277"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65994"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65994\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":117149,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65994\/revisions\/117149"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/65997"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65994"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65994"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65994"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}