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When you are in a relationship and start to feel that he doesn’t appreciate you<\/span>, <\/span><\/i>you may begin to ask yourself, “Am I too good for him?” <\/span><\/p>\n

If you get the feeling that your boyfriend isn’t valuing you or putting in the effort, you may even feel like<\/span> he doesn’t deserve me. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this is the case, read on to learn about twenty signs he doesn’t deserve you<\/span>.<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

Understanding chemistry vs. compatibility<\/h2>\n

Before diving into signs<\/span> he doesn’t deserve you, it is helpful to understand the difference between chemistry and compatibility. <\/span><\/p>\n

Chemistry is that initial spark that connects you spiritually and sexually to your partner, whereas compatibility means you have similarities in values, preferences, lifestyles, and overall interests. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ideally, you and your partner should have both chemistry and compatibility. <\/span><\/p>\n

 Sometimes, you may have strong chemistry with a boyfriend, which attracts you to him and keeps you in the relationship, but if compatibility is missing, you may not be the best fit. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you have strong chemistry with a person, you may stay in a relationship, even when you start to notice he doesn’t deserve me, because you feel that head-over-heels rush of passion. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you move on from a relationship where you aren’t getting what you deserve, you open the door to new relationships, where you can find chemistry and compatibility and still be valued. Trust that it is possible. <\/span><\/p>\n

20 signs he doesn’t deserve you<\/h2>\n

When you are trying to decide the answer to, “does he deserve me?” you may find yourself <\/span>settling for a relationship<\/span><\/a> that is less than fulfilling because you would rather be in a bad relationship than be alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

While it is human nature to want to establish <\/span>intimate relationships<\/span><\/a>, you shouldn’t have to settle for less than you deserve.<\/span><\/p>\n

Below are twenty signs he doesn’t deserve you, and if you notice one or more of the following, this may not be the right relationship for you:<\/span><\/p>\n

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    You put forth all the effort while he does little to nothing<\/b>.<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>

    A <\/span>healthy relationship<\/span><\/a> should be reciprocal, meaning that you both put forth an effort to make things work and make the other person happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

    If you are the one who is always apologizing after disagreements, reaching out to make plans, or taking time to do something special to make his day, but he gives you nothing in return, he doesn’t appreciate you<\/span>. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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      He’s entirely self-absorbed.<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>

      Just as you should both be <\/span>putting effort into the relationship<\/span><\/a>, you should both be willing to make compromises and sacrifices for the good of the partnership. <\/span><\/p>\n

      This means that sometimes things may be about you, and sometimes they may be more about him.<\/span><\/p>\n

      If, on the other hand, your boyfriend is so self-absorbed that he never considers your needs or feelings, this is one of the key signs<\/span> he doesn’t deserve you<\/span>.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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