

{"id":64766,"date":"2021-03-23T12:21:49","date_gmt":"2021-03-23T12:21:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=64766"},"modified":"2026-03-19T09:49:43","modified_gmt":"2026-03-19T09:49:43","slug":"arguing-with-a-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/arguing-with-a-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Effectively Deescalate When Arguing With a Narcissist?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64769\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/how-to-effectively-deescalate-when-arguing-with-a-narcissist.jpg\" alt=\"Stylish Young Man Spectacles Holding Hand His Chest Asking His Angry Girlfriend Forgiveness While Woman Looking Him Making Stop Gesture As If Saying I Need Your Excuse\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All of us either know or have had experience with a narcissist at some point in our lives.&nbsp; Some of us have even been in a romantic <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/stages-of-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship with a narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether the narcissist is someone you work with, a person in your social circle, or even your spouse, knowing the best techniques for arguing with a narcissist will be helpful when a conflict arises.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You should know from the start that arguing with a narcissist is likely to be a pointless endeavor.&nbsp; By definition, narcissists always think they are right and will never come around to your point of view (or even listen to it!).<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-a-narcissist\"><\/span>What is a narcissist?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s start by defining what a narcissist is. Contrary to what many people think, it is not a diagnosed <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/things-to-know-in-borderline-personality-disorder-marriage\/\">personality disorder<\/a>.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s a series of traits that occur on a continuum, the most pronounced of this being self-centeredness.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you remember your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.greekmythology.com\/Myths\/Mortals\/Narcissus\/narcissus.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Greek mythology<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Narcissus was a boy who was so handsome he fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From that myth comes the term Narcissist, a person whose most important priority is themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Other traits that make up the narcissistic personality include:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;No empathy for others&rsquo; feelings<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/recognize-and-handle-manipulation-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Manipulates<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and takes advantage of others to achieve personal ends<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Convinced they are always right, and everyone else is wrong<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feels mentally superior to all around them<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Arrogant<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A belief they are special and this specialness is misunderstood by everyone<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Grandiosity, a sense of superiority, exaggerates achievements and talents (often lying about them)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-deal-with-mood-swings-in-a-relationship\/\">Moody, irritable, mood swings<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sense of entitlement<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Excessive need for admiration<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of remorse when hurting others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Violence towards animals and people<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No concern about consequences<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Disdain for authority; thinks they are above the law<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reckless, risky behavior with no concern for others&rsquo; safety<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A pattern of deceit, including the exploitation of others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Irresponsible, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/12-signs-of-a-disrespectful-husband\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disrespectful<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and hostile behavior<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All of these characteristics make it difficult to come to any sort of meaningful resolution when arguing with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important, therefore, to learn some <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/tips-for-breaking-up-with-a-narcissist\/\">tips for arguing with a narcissist<\/a>.&nbsp; Using these tips, you will turn to argue with a narcissist from an exercise in futile frustration to (at least) a way for you to keep the discussion on track and focused.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may not get the end result you hoped for because a narcissist cannot participate in a civil discussion whose aim is to find common ground, but you will hone some very useful skills as you learn things to say to a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5 Signs You&rsquo;re in a Relationship with Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><b>Also Watch<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">:<\/span><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/qQLvJiB9S4U\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-does-it-feel-like-arguing-with-a-narcissist-is-futile\"><\/span>Why does it feel like arguing with a narcissist is futile?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64770\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/why-does-it-feel-like-arguing-with-a-narcissist-is-futile.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Arguing Each Other In The Living Room At Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Arguing with a narcissist is a completely different experience from regular <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-often-do-couples-fight\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship quarrels<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Let&rsquo;s start off with three points that make arguing with a narcissist a different experience.<\/b><\/p>\n<ol><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When arguing with a narcissist, know that they are more interested in winning than in the truth.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Narcissists love shifting the blame.&nbsp; They shift the blame for everything that goes wrong to you in order to avoid feeling bad about themselves.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Narcissist argument tactics are a bit different.&nbsp; They don&rsquo;t really care about you very much, so they have very little incentive to back down.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/revenge-tactics-of-a-narcissist\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Revenge Tactics You Can Expect from a Narcissist<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-some-of-the-typical-tactics-narcissists-use-during-an-argument\"><\/span>What are some of the typical tactics narcissists use during an argument?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><b>1. Narcissists love to win<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep in mind that narcissists want to win, control, and put you in a subservient position no matter what the cost.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They will <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/gaslighting-phrases-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gaslight<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/reason-for-failed-marriages\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stonewall<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, lie, distract, yell and scream in an attempt to hurt you emotionally and even physically sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. They will avoid answering direct questions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They will hit you with what people call word salad (a string of words that don&rsquo;t make any sense) and generally dominate the discourse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They will go completely off subject, projecting in an argument.&nbsp; Suddenly you will notice the topic has changed.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These narcissist argument strategies are all meant to derail and confuse you so that in the end, you will drop the argument out of frustration.&nbsp; Then, the narcissist will feel like they have won.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/grady-shumway\">Grady Shumway<\/a>, LMHC, says<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When faced with a narcissist&rsquo;s deflection tactics, stay calm and focused on the issue at hand. Instead of getting caught up in their distractions or word salad, redirect the conversation by calmly restating your original point or question. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Setting boundaries around communication can also help prevent the conversation from spiraling, and if necessary, taking a break to regain clarity and avoid further frustration can be beneficial.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>3. They deflect the argument<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists are deflection fighters.&nbsp; If they see that they cannot dispute your facts, they will pull the focus elsewhere toward anything secondary, irrelevant, or unrelated.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, they&rsquo;ll shift the focus on the words you used, your style, your motivations, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Stonewalling is common with narcissists<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/silent-treatment-a-narcissistic-persons-preferred-weapon-0602145\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissist stonewalling is another known abuse tactic<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, where they suddenly refuse to cooperate, to listen, to communicate with you.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself arguing with a narcissist and they just decide to leave the room or freeze you out for days, you&rsquo;ve been stonewalled.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Narcissists will often use projection in an argument&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This means they project the undesirable behavior which originates with them onto you.&nbsp; A common abuser tactic, they <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/why-blaming-your-partner-wont-help\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">blame others<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for their own problems rather than taking responsibility for them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Gaslighting<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64771\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/gaslighting.jpg\" alt=\"Young Woman In Depression\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/fight-the-gas-lighting-of-a-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gaslighting is a narcissist&rsquo;s signature technique<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">!&nbsp; This is when they make you think you are crazy, overly sensitive, or imagining things.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;You always take everything so literally!!!&rdquo; a narcissist will say when they hurt your feelings during an argument.&nbsp; Never would they assume responsibility for hurting your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/stages-of-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6 Stages of a Relationship with a Narcissist<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-you-argue-with-a-narcissist\"><\/span>How do you argue with a narcissist?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While you may not win against a narcissist, these tips will help move the conversation along with as little emotional upset as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Do not mention the words &ldquo;right&rdquo; or &ldquo;wrong&rdquo;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to smooth things over when arguing with a narcissist, do not expect to defeat a narcissist by trying to make them realize who is to blame.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists never admit that they are wrong because they employ grandiosity&mdash;the unrealistic sense of being perfect&ndash;to prop up their fragile sense of self, for you to point out to them that they are wrong and explain why it would be useless. They would rather blame you!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Grady Shumway further adds,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When dealing with a narcissist, avoid framing the argument in terms of &ldquo;right&rdquo; or &ldquo;wrong,&rdquo; as they are unlikely to accept blame. Instead, focus on expressing how you feel and what you need without expecting them to take responsibility. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shifting the conversation away from blame and toward solutions or boundaries can help prevent the argument from escalating and give you more control over the interaction.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>2. Do not take the bait<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When arguing with a narcissist, expect them to say provocative and nasty things.&nbsp; They are wired to be abusive.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They want to get a response from you.&nbsp; It&rsquo;s another way they can get attention, even if it is negative.&nbsp; (Does this remind you of a toddler you know?&nbsp; It&rsquo;s the same reasoning!)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t fall for it and sink to their level.&nbsp; The best way to hurt a narcissist (and avoid a huge fight) is to ignore the bait they are dangling in front of you.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you ignore their insult and do not rise to the bait, you can often avoid a pointless dispute.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Winning with a narcissist may necessitate empathizing with their feelings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because narcissists thrive on attention, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-build-empathy-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">employing empathy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when arguing with a narcissist can be a helpful strategy. Tell them that you understand and empathize with how they feel.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can often deescalate the argument because narcissists can be calmed down by your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/understand-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">expression of understanding<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp; &ldquo;You must have felt very angry.&nbsp; I can understand your feeling that way.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Instead of using &ldquo;You&rdquo; or &ldquo;I,&rdquo; use &ldquo;We&rdquo;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissist blame shifting is common, but they may react well if you use &ldquo;we&rdquo; language when arguing with a narcissist.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, imagine that you are arguing with a narcissistic husband.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You defend yourself, and now the two of you are caught up in an <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">escalating conflict<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> over something that has nothing to do with the original topic (because deflection in the argument is common for narcissists).&nbsp; Stop the argument by saying something positive that incorporates the &ldquo;we&rdquo;:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I love you, and you love me. The last thing I want to do is hurt you or argue with you. I think we both got derailed. Let&rsquo;s kiss and make up.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. To win back a narcissist<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best tactic to beat a narcissist is to remain in complete <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/is-your-inability-to-regulate-your-emotions-destroying-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">control of your emotions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp; This requires patience, deep breathing, and some detachment because narcissists are greatly skilled at provoking you.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you keep your emotions and language in check, you disarm the narcissist, and he is left to his own devices.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He will be confused as he relies on you to feed the flames of his anger.&nbsp; The best <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-emotionally-detach-from-a-narcissist\/\">way to respond to a narcissist is not to emotionally<\/a> respond.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/dealing-with-narcissists-setting-boundaries\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Deal With a Narcissist in a Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Wrapping up<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Should you find yourself being provoked into an argument with a narcissist, using these tips will help you stay out of a long, unwinnable conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meet their provocation with neutrality, boredom, or ambivalence.&nbsp; By doing so, you will avoid pouring fuel on their fire and spare your own mental well-being from another of the narcissists&rsquo; attempts to bolster their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">weak self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While you will never &ldquo;win&rdquo; an argument with a narcissist, you can engage with them all while preserving your own integrity.&nbsp; And that is a win in itself!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All of us either know or have had experience with a narcissist at some point in our lives.&nbsp; Some of us have even been in a romantic relationship with a narcissist.&nbsp;&nbsp; Whether the narcissist is someone you work with, a person in your social circle, or even your spouse, knowing the best techniques for arguing with a narcissist will be helpful when a conflict arises.&nbsp;&nbsp; You should know from the start that arguing with a narcissist is likely to be a pointless endeavor.&nbsp; By definition, narcissists always think they are right and will never come around to your point of <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":64769,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2507],"tags":[2727],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/64766"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=64766"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/64766\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118486,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/64766\/revisions\/118486"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/64769"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=64766"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=64766"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=64766"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}