

{"id":64213,"date":"2021-03-12T09:51:03","date_gmt":"2021-03-12T09:51:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=64213"},"modified":"2026-02-27T11:06:58","modified_gmt":"2026-02-27T11:06:58","slug":"what-is-domestic-violence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/what-is-domestic-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is Domestic Violence?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64232\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/what-is-domestic-violence.jpg\" alt=\"Closeup Violent Men Hand While The Lady Is Crying Behind Sitting On The Bench Isolated Wall\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All relationships have their ups and downs, as well as conflict and disagreements from time to time, but <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-an-unhealthy-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">unhealthy relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> may include domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, according to the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/ncadv.org\/STATISTICS\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">National Coalition Against Domestic Violence,<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> 1 out of 4 women and 1 out of 9 men experiences domestic violence in the form of severe <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/five-facts-you-need-to-know-about-physical-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, sexual violence, or stalking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Answers to questions like, &ldquo;What is domestic violence?&rdquo; can help you to understand what constitutes domestic violence and whether you might be in need of help <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dealing with domestic violence<\/span><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-domestic-violence\"><\/span>What is domestic violence?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are multiple answers to what is domestic violence. From the perspective of the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.justice.gov\/ovw\/domestic-violence\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">law,<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> domestic violence involves a felony or misdemeanor crime in which a current or former spouse or romantic partner commits an act of violence against the victim.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic violence can also occur with a current or former household member or with someone with whom the perpetrator has a child.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While domestic violence laws vary from state to state, they tend to include instances in which a perpetrator intentionally causes bodily injury to the victim, commits sexual assault, or causes a victim to believe they will be seriously harmed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some states also include stalking or threatening behavior in their definitions of &lsquo;what is domestic violence.&rsquo; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/signs-of-child-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Child abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can also fall under the criminal definitions of domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The National Conference of State Legislatures provides <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncsl.org\/human-services\/domestic-violence-domestic-abuse-definitions-and-relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">information<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> about domestic violence laws in each state.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While criminal definitions of domestic violence tend to include acts like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/physical-abuse-facts-and-stats\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, stalking, and threats of harm,<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence can extend beyond this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, domestic violence can include emotional and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/what-is-verbal-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">verbal abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or cases of <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">financial abuse<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that may not always fall under the criminal definition. These different types of domestic violence will be discussed in further detail below.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading: <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/causes-of-domestic-violence\/\">Causes of Domestic Violence<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Types-of-domestic-violence\"><\/span>6 Types of domestic violence<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64233\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/types-of-domestic-violence.jpg\" alt=\"Closeups Hot Men Holding Lady Hand Forcefully Domestic Violence Concept\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we are talking about what domestic violence is<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">it is important to understand that there are different <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/4-types-of-abuse-and-how-to-recognize-them\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence types<\/span><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These include the following:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Physical abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical abuse is an intentional&nbsp; act of applying external force to cause injury to the victim.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This includes:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hitting&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kicking&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Slapping&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pulling hair&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Biting<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choking<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Harming children or pets<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using weapons like knives or guns against you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Driving recklessly while you are in the car<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stopping you from leaving the house<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forcing you to use drugs<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Preventing you from eating or sleeping<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><em>Related Reading: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/signs-of-physical-abuse\/\">Signs of Physical Abuse<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Emotional\/Verbal abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/what-emotional-abuse-looks-like-in-marriage\/\">Emotional abuse<\/a> usually starts by manipulating the partner and then, moving to blackmailing and putting emotional pressure to give in to the abuser&rsquo;s demands.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It includes:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Name-calling<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Frequent criticizing and insults<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being jealous or distrusting you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Expecting to know where you are and who you are with or talking to at all times<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Embarrassing you in front of other people<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The abuser also tries to isolate you from friends and family<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Controls how you dress<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physically threatens you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Makes accusations that you are cheating<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">May cheat on you as a punishment<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Damaging your belongings or your home,<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Engaging in a behavior called <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-gaslighting\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gaslighting<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, in which the abuser denies having said or done certain things or makes you question your recollection of facts.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/recognize-verbal-abuse-in-relationship\/\">How to Recognize Verbal Abuse in Your Relationship<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>3. Sexual abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/sexual-abuse-in-marriage-is-there-such-a-thing\/\">Sexual abuse<\/a> is an abusive sexual behavior. It means to inflict sexual contact forcibly or without the victim&rsquo;s will.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It includes:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forcing you to dress a certain way<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forcing or manipulating you to have sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Engaging in behaviors like choking or restraining during sex without your permission<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physically hurting you during sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bringing other people into your sex life without your consent<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The abuser may force you to watch pornography&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make pornographic videos<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Demand sex to prove you love them&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Become sad or angry if you do not give in to their sexual demands<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><em><strong>Related Related:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\">Why Sexual Abuse Stays Hidden<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Financial abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/financial-abuse-in-a-marriage-what-you-need-to-know-and-do\/\">Financial abuse<\/a> is taking away the other person&rsquo;s financial independence. It means the abuser has full financial control over the other partner&rsquo;s finances.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It includes:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forbidding you from having access to money, including your own paychecks<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving you an allowance&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Closely tracking your spending<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refusing to allow you to have a job<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maxing out your credit cards&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refusing to pay bills<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stealing money from you or your children&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refusing to contribute to household bills or pay for necessary expenses like medical care, food, or transportation<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/major-money-issues-in-marriage\/\">Money Issues in Marriage<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>5. Digital abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Digital abuse is a behavior when the abuser manipulates the victim through their digital presence by exploiting and monitoring the victim online.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It includes:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving you rules about who you can follow and interact with on social media<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using social media to embarrass you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Demanding passwords to your social media accounts<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Searching through your phone for pictures or text messages&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Demanding to see your phone records<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using technology to track you or monitor what you are doing<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Texting you nonstop&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making you fearful that you will anger them if you do not respond immediately<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/dating-violence\/\">Warning Signs of Dating Violence<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. Stalking<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stalking means to pursue and approach the person without their consent. It is an unwanted surveillance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It includes<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Showing up unannounced at your house<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sending you text messages or emails&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Calling you when it is unwanted<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Leaving gifts or flowers that are unwanted, having other people investigate your activities or whereabouts<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Causing damage to your home or car<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Given the above categories of domestic violence, it is clear that there are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/the-two-kinds-of-abusers\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">different types of abusers<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some abusers may engage in all or most of the above behaviors, whereas others may show only one type of domestic violence behavior, such as <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/signs-of-emotional-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is important to remember is that domestic violence does not just have to involve <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/defining-physical-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or sexual violence. So, what is domestic violence?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>A person can be a victim of domestic violence without ever being physically or sexually assaulted.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/navigating-narcissistic-abuse\/\">Navigating Narcissistic Abuse<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Signs-of-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>Signs of domestic violence<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64234\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/signs-of-domestic-violence.jpg\" alt=\"Black Guy Pointing Finger On Women Abusing And Waring Conflict Relationship Concept Or Violence\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another part of knowing what is domestic violence is understanding its signs. Some <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">symptoms of domestic abuse<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constant fear from the abuser<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The abuser constantly blames and criticizes the victim<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They control what the victim must wear &amp; where they should go<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yelling, throwing things, punching<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The abuser shames the victim in front of friends and family<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The abuser takes away financial control from their partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forced sex<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are worried that a friend or loved one might be a victim of domestic violence, it is not enough to know what domestic violence is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are listed some of the signs that can point to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/intimate-partner-violence\/\">intimate partner violence<\/a>. Be aware of these signs to help your loved ones get over their ordeal.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unexplained cuts and bruises on the person<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The person begins to avoid friends or family and does not participate in usual activities.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your loved one seems fearful of their partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your friend or family member makes excuses when their partner acts badly.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You notice that your loved one&rsquo;s partner yells at them or makes fun of them often.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your friend&rsquo;s partner seems controlling and shows behaviors like checking on your friend at work.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/the-two-kinds-of-abusers\/\">Types of Abusers<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-do-partners-become-abusive\"><\/span><b>Why do partners become abusive?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that we know what domestic violence is let us try to understand why partners become abusive in the first place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic violence problems are never excusable, but there are some underlying <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/5-reasons-of-abuse-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reasons that may lead a partner to become abusive<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.cdc.gov\/violenceprevention\/intimatepartnerviolence\/riskprotectivefactors.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">CDC<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">), the following factors increase the risk that someone will become a perpetrator of domestic violence:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mental health problems, such as depression or suicidal thoughts<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heavy abuse of drugs and alcohol&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anger problems<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/things-to-know-in-borderline-personality-disorder-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Borderline personality disorder<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Poor behavioral or impulse control&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Difficulty with solving social problems in a non-violent manner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Social isolation and lack of close friends<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unemployment and low income or educational achievement&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insecurities<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Problems with women, such as hostility toward women, belief that males are the dominant gender, or desire to control women&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">History of being a victim of physical or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/psychological-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">psychological abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Among the above factors, domestic violence facts show that being a victim of abuse oneself is one of the strongest risk factors for becoming an abusive partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abusive behaviors can therefore be learned based upon a perpetrator&rsquo;s own history of abuse, or the consequences of being an abuse victim may lead to difficulty controlling one&rsquo;s own anger and emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Other risk factors suggest that domestic violence may be correlated with mental health problems, poor social skills, or poor self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some perpetrators may have negative attitudes toward women, which can increase the risk of<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence and lead to perpetrators justifying abusive behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/what-makes-the-abuser-tick\/\">Why do abusers abuse?<\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Who-gets-affected-by-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>Who gets affected by domestic violence?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The truth is that anyone can be affected by domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> including both men and women.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can also affect people, regardless of age or income. That being said, there are some groups that are more at risk of domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/books\/NBK499891\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research shows<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that men make up only 15 percent of domestic violence victims, so women seem to be more likely to be victims. However, men may be less likely to report domestic violence than women, so rates of victimization among men may be higher than reported.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/stakeholders\/domestic-violence-statistics\/#:~:text=1%20in%204%20women%20(24.3,intimate%20partner%20in%20their%20lifetime.&amp;text=(2011).-,The%20National%20Intimate%20Partner%20and%20Sexual%20Violence,NISVS)%3A%202010%20Summary%20Report.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Data suggests<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that about 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men experience physical violence at some point during their lives, while 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men will experience sexual violence. Bisexual women may be at increased risk of domestic violence when compared to heterosexual and lesbian women.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Also Try:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/domestic-violence-danger-assessment-quiz\">Domestic Violence Danger Assessment Quiz<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-prevents-partners-from-reporting-abuse\"><\/span><b>What prevents partners from reporting abuse?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, victims of abuse may not report what is happening to them. Some reasons for not reporting<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence to police or seeking some sort of help include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">belief that the abuser will change<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear that children will be removed from the home if authorities are involved<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Worry that the abuser will retaliate and escalate the abuse if it is reported<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Concern that police will not believe the victim&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear that the abuser will lose their job and family finances will be affected if abuse is reported<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abuser threatening to harm the victim if abuse is reported<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abuser preventing the victim from reporting abuse<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-domestic-violence-victims-dont-leave\/\"><i>Why Domestic Violence Victims Don&rsquo;t Leave<\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-consequences-of-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>What are the consequences of domestic violence?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abuse that goes unreported and continues, unfortunately, has serious consequences for victims. Some consequences of domestic violence<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lost days of work for victims, sometimes leading to job loss<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Increased risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Risk of depression and suicidal behavior&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elevated risks of other mental health conditions, like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">post-traumatic stress disorder<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and anxiety&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Higher risk of various health problems for the victim, such as nutritional deficiency, chronic pain, neurological problems, high blood pressure, cancer, and heart disease<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Increased risk of alcohol and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-drug-addiction-affects-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">drug addiction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In addition to these consequences of domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> victims may experience unplanned pregnancy as a result of <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual abuse<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or pregnancy loss as a result of stress or injury from domestic violence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic violence also has negative effects on children<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> who witness it within their homes. The psychological effects of domestic violence on children can include anxiety, depression, self-harm, and aggression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Children who witness an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/are-you-in-an-abusive-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">abusive relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> may also wet the bed, suffer from sleep problems, and have difficulty with cognitive functioning. They are also more likely to experience domestic violence<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">when they become adults.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/\">How to Deal With Domestic Violence<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-challenges-do-male-victims-of-domestic-violence-face\"><\/span><b>What challenges do male victims of domestic violence face?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While domestic violence is commonly viewed as a situation in which a male abuses a female victim, men can also be victims of domestic violence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When men are the victims, they can experience unique challenges. For example, they may not be believed if they report domestic violence or seek help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since shelters are often designed for women, men may even be denied help from domestic violence shelters.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may also be seen as somehow pathological if they admit to being victims of domestic violence since male gender norms dictate that men are to be powerful, strong, and dominant.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/signs-of-an-abusive-wife\/\">Signs of an Abusive Wife<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-cycle-of-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>The cycle of domestic violence<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-64235\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-cycle-of-domestic-violence.jpg\" alt=\"Upset Lady Crying While Covering Her Face With Her Hands\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another aspect of understanding what is domestic violence is knowing about the cycle of domestic violence, which occurs in four steps that repeat throughout the course of an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first cycle is the tension-building phase, during which an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/i-may-have-an-abusive-husband-what-do-i-do\/\">abusive partner<\/a> becomes frustrated as the result of a stressor, such as a sickness, problems at work, family issues, or fatigue.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, tension builds, and the abusive partner begins to feel angry, powerless, and perhaps paranoid. The victim can typically sense this tension and will attempt to be supportive of placating the abuser.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Next, the abuser moves into the incident of abuse phase, which may involve emotional attacks, such as name-calling. It can also involve threats of harm or an act of sexual or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/the-effects-of-physical-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Following the abuse, the couple moves into the reconciliation phase. The abuser will feel remorse and may even give gifts, make romantic gestures, or behave in an especially kind fashion in order to compensate for abusive behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people refer to this as the &ldquo;honeymoon stage,&rdquo; and during this period, the victim will begin to feel a sense of bonding with the partner since the abuse has temporarily stopped.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the final stage, there is a calm period, during which both partners try to keep the peace. The abusive partner will likely apologize for the abusive behavior but may blame others, minimize the abuse, or justify the behavior because of some outside factor, like stress at work.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, after the calm period, tension will build again, and the cycle of domestic violence repeats itself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/5-reasons-of-abuse-in-a-marriage\/\">Reasons of Spousal Abuse In A Marriage<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-can-violence-be-prevented-and-stopped\"><\/span><b>How can violence be prevented and stopped?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oftentimes, victims will <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/why-women-stay-in-abusive-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stay in an abusive relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, hoping that the behavior will stop. Unfortunately, abuse typically becomes a cycle that is hard to break.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A victim may stay in the relationship for fear that she will be harmed if she tries to leave or because the victim is financially dependent upon the abuser. The victim may also stay for the sake of the children or because the victim loves the abuser.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless of the reason for staying, sometimes, the only way to stop domestic violence is to leave the relationship. In some cases, the abuse may stop if the abuser is willing to seek mental health treatment and make lasting changes to their behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While this is possible, the process can be difficult and time-consuming, and the abuser must be committed to making changes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In terms of prevention, it is important that victims are directed to supportive resources and that mental health care is readily available. If you or someone you know is a victim, know that there are supportive resources available.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who are prone to violent or aggressive behavior would benefit from mental health services to address underlying issues that increase the risk of domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Readily available mental health care is perhaps one of the strongest <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/ways-of-domestic-violence-prevention\/\">ways to prevent domestic violence<\/a><\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another part of prevention is intervening early. Since children who witness domestic violence are more likely to be involved in this behavior as adults, intervening during childhood is an important preventive measure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Children who are exposed to violence at home would benefit from supportive services like counseling.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/why-people-stay-in-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship\/\">Why Do People Stay in Emotionally Abusive Relationships<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-medical-professionals-assess-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>How do medical professionals assess domestic violence?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic abuse victims may require medical care to treat their injuries, or they may come into contact with medical professionals who assess domestic violence during routine visits.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is best practice for all medical professionals to screen for domestic violence<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">among women, and to refer women who are at risk to supportive services.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healthcare professionals who provide screening may ask women if they are fearful of their partners, if their partners ever hit, kick, or strike them, or if their partners try to control who they see, where they go, and how they dress.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This type of screening is typically performed, even if a woman isn&rsquo;t seen for a concern related to domestic violence<i>.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Medical professionals may also assess domestic violence<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">after a victim presents to a clinic or emergency department for the treatment of the injury. This can involve stabilizing a patient after a serious injury, performing a physical evaluation, and conducting x-rays or lab tests.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a victim presents with an injury or discloses domestic violence, medical professionals will often gather information about the history of the abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The victim&rsquo;s safety is most important, and medical professionals will assess whether the patient is in immediate danger. Those who are in danger may be referred to law enforcement or an emergency shelter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Medical professionals may engage in safety planning with victims who are not in immediate danger and refer them to services, such as mental health care or support groups.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/can-a-relationship-be-saved-after-domestic-violence\/\">Can A Relationship Be Saved After Domestic Violence<\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-can-I-do-if-I-am-a-victim-of-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>What can I do if I am a victim of domestic violence?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are a victim, know that there is a treatment for domestic violence victims<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may consider reaching out to a local mental health center or<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence shelter to participate in counseling or support groups.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Community resources such as mental health providers and shelters may be able to provide you with financial assistance or resources to help you leave your abusive situation if that is what you desire.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They can also help you to develop a plan for staying safe in cases of abuse at home or create a plan for safely leaving the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Overcoming the psychological effects of domestic violence<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can be challenging, as you may be suffering from trauma, anxiety, or depression after being subjected to ongoing abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this is the case, mental health professionals can help you to heal. It can also be helpful to reach out to supportive friends and family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in danger, do not hesitate to call 911, go to a neighbor for help, or go to the nearest emergency room. Serious incidents of domestic violence can result in severe or life-threatening injuries that require prompt treatment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em>Related Reading:&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/the-effects-of-emotional-abuse\/\">Effects of Spousal Emotional Abuse in a Marriage<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-can-you-help-someone-escape-an-abusive-situation\"><\/span><b>How can you help someone escape an abusive situation?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a loved one is suffering through an abusive relationship, the chances are that you want to help. You can assist them with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/abusive-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">escaping the abusive relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by sitting down and having a talk.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understand that your loved one may be hesitant to talk or may not be ready to open up about the situation. Remain supportive and nonjudgmental, and let them know you are there to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can offer support by referring your loved one to local resources, such as a domestic violence shelter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may also offer to create a plan of safety with them to help them prepare to safely exit the relationship. You can also be available in cases of emergency to call 911 if the victim is in danger.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Where-to-get-help-for-domestic-violence\"><\/span><b>Where to get help for domestic violence<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are a victim of domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you may be able to seek services and support from your local domestic violence shelter. They may provide temporary safe housing, as well as assistance with accessing your own housing separate from the abuser.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic violence shelters and local mental health centers typically also offer support groups for survivors of<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in immediate danger, you may contact law enforcement or go to the nearest hospital emergency room.&nbsp; A<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">domestic violence hotline can also link you to resources. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The National Domestic Violence Hotline<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is available at 1.800.799.SAFE (7233).&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/what-does-a-domestic-violence-lawyer-do\/\">Domestic Violence Lawyer<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Conclusion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic violence<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is a serious problem, and it can create lasting consequences for victims, such as mental health problems, physical health problems, and trauma to the victim&rsquo;s children.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you or a loved one has been a victim of domestic violence, know that there are services and supports available to stop domestic violence<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also important to understand that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/are-you-in-an-abusive-relationship\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you may be in an abusive relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, even if your partner does not hit you or otherwise physically harm you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic violence can also involve emotional manipulation, stalking, frequent put-downs, or any behavior that aims to control you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have experienced any of these in your relationship, understand that it is not your fault, and you have a right to a healthy relationship that is free from abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also Watch:<\/span><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/frFEdN7aMh8\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All relationships have their ups and downs, as well as conflict and disagreements from time to time, but unhealthy relationships may include domestic violence. Unfortunately, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 out of 4 women and 1 out of 9 men experiences domestic violence in the form of severe physical abuse, sexual violence, or stalking. Answers to questions like, &ldquo;What is domestic violence?&rdquo; can help you to understand what constitutes domestic violence and whether you might be in need of help dealing with domestic violence.&nbsp; What is domestic violence? 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