

{"id":60815,"date":"2020-12-24T07:38:31","date_gmt":"2020-12-24T07:38:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=60815"},"modified":"2025-01-07T07:18:56","modified_gmt":"2025-01-07T07:18:56","slug":"how-to-get-over-breakup-depression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-get-over-breakup-depression\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Cope With Depression After a Break Up"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60819\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/how-to-get-over-breakup-depression-symptoms-and-treatment.jpg\" alt=\"Sad Desperate Wife Or Girlfriend After A Breakup Sitting In A Couch At Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The end of a relationship can cause uncomfortable emotions, including severe depression after breakup. It is normal to feel sad when a relationship ends, especially if the relationship was serious and the breakup was not expected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Breakup sadness may be mild and pass with time, but in some situations, it can progress to clinical depression. In either case, there are ways how to get over breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-break-up-depression\"><\/span><b>What is break-up depression?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At the end of a relationship, when you feel sad, anxious, bitter, and heartbroken. All these emotions can be a result of break-up depression. Being sad after a breakup is obvious since you let go of someone close to your heart.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, when the sadness turns into severe depressive symptoms such as feeling hopeless or helpless all the time, appetite loss, sleep deprivation, loss of interest in life, feeling worthless or empty, or worse, thoughts of suicide, you are most definitely experiencing break-up depression.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-are-breakups-hard\"><\/span><b>Why are breakups hard?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As experts have <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/scidoc.org\/articlepdfs\/IJBRP\/IJBRP-2332-3000-05-201.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">explained<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, breakups are hard because they cause major life changes, such as worsened finances or a new living situation. It is also important to remember that you are grieving the loss of an important relationship with a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if there were problems in the relationship, the breakup is still a loss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Following the loss of a relationship, you may also feel lonely. Some other reasons breakups are hard are that you may experience low self-esteem or have an altered sense of who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A relationship is a key part of your identity, and losing that can change the way you see yourself. In some cases, losing a relationship can leave you feeling empty, as if you do not know who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, a breakup may mean you have to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/effective-tips-for-co-parenting-successfully-after-separation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">co-parent children<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with your former partner. This can mean giving up time with your children so that your former partner can spend one-on-one time with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may also suffer from a loss of friendships if the two of you had mutual friends who side with your partner after the breakup. Ultimately, breakups are challenging because they lead to so many changes simultaneously.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Causes-of-breakups\"><\/span><b>Causes of breakups<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Post-relationship depression would be one of the side effects of going through the challenges of ending a relationship, even if there was a good reason behind the breakup. Some causes of breakups include personality differences, not spending enough time together, or being <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sexual-dissatisfaction-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">unhappy with the sexual connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some couples may break up because one or both were unfaithful, or there may have been too many negative interactions or general dissatisfaction with the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here is a video you can watch to understand how to fix a broken heart.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/k0GQSJrpVhM\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Can-a-breakup-cause-depression\"><\/span><b>Can a breakup cause depression?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As previously explained, breakups are difficult. They can completely change your life and make you feel lonely. While sadness after a breakup is normal and may pass with time, breakups can cause depression for some people.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A 2018 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s10680-018-9488-y\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> found that separating from a partner was associated with depression. In women, post-breakup depression was associated with the financial problems experienced after a separation. For men, depression after a breakup was a result of losing social support.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Based on the findings of this study, it is reasonable to conclude that the stress and life changes that come with a breakup can trigger an episode of depression. In this case, sadness after a breakup can turn into post-relationship depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Signs-of-depression-after-a-breakup\"><\/span><b>Signs of depression after a breakup<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Post-breakup depression can range in severity from brief periods of sadness to full-blown clinical depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is normal to feel emotions like sadness, anger, and anxiety after a breakup. Still, if these feelings are persistent and lead to extreme sadness, you may show signs of depression after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to experts, research has shown that the emotions after a breakup are similar to symptoms of clinical depression. In some cases, a therapist or psychologist may diagnose an adjustment disorder, sometimes called situational depression, when someone is suffering from post-relationship depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, someone who experiences depression after a breakup may meet the criteria for an adjustment disorder with a depressed mood. Some signs of this condition are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Experiencing changing emotions and behaviors within three months of a breakup<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Suffering from emotions after a breakup that interferes with daily life<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling sad<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tearfulness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Failing to enjoy things that once made you happy<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While the above signs of depression after a breakup are associated with an adjustment disorder, some people who are feeling depressed after a breakup may have clinical depression. Signs of clinical depression include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling hopeless or helpless<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Changes in appetite, as well as weight gain or loss&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sleeping more or less than usual<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of pleasure from usual activities<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling sad or worthless<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having little energy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thinking about suicide<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To meet the criteria for clinical depression, you must show at least five symptoms of depression after a breakup. Symptoms must also occur for a period of at least two weeks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This means that a brief bout of sadness that lasts for a few days after a breakup isn&rsquo;t truly clinical depression. On the other hand, break-up depression symptoms that last for weeks or even months can meet the criteria for clinical depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have just experienced a breakup and are noticing any of the previously mentioned symptoms, you may have either an adjustment disorder or clinical depression after a breakup. These signs of depression after a breakup may occur in stages.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60822\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/ways-to-avoid-depression-after-a-break-up.jpg\" alt=\"Diverse Ladies Hug Sit In Circle Feel Relief Empathy Helping Friend At With Problems Addiction\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-stages-of-depression-after-a-breakup\"><\/span><b>7 stages of depression after a breakup<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In addition to the fact that depression after a breakup can reach the level of a clinical mental health condition, there are various stages of depression after a breakup. According to relationship psychology experts, these stages are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Seeking answers<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This stage involves trying to figure out what went wrong in the relationship. You may turn to friends and family and justify to them why the relationship didn&rsquo;t have to end.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Denial<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During this stage of breakup depression, you set your grief aside and avoid painful emotions instead of putting all your energy into believing that the relationship can be saved. You simply cannot accept that the relationship has ended.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Bargaining<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The bargaining stage occurs when you determine you will do whatever it takes to save the relationship and get your partner back. So, you promise to be a better partner and fix what went wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bargaining is a distraction from the pain of post-breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Relapse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because of breakup depression, you may briefly return to a relationship with your partner, only to find that the relationship continues to fail.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Anger<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anger during breakup depression may be directed at either yourself or your former partner. You may be angry at yourself because of things you did wrong in the relationship, or you may have anger toward your partner for their role in the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-many-relationships-fail\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">failure of the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to the experts, anger can be empowering because it can motivate you to begin to move on and seek better relationships in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Initial acceptance<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At this stage of depression, after a breakup, you begin to accept the fact that the relationship is over. Still, this acceptance occurs only because it is necessary and not because you actually want to accept it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is during this stage of post-relationship depression that you will stop attempting to salvage the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Redirected hope<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the final stage of coping with a breakup depression, your hope goes from believing that the relationship can be saved to accepting that there&rsquo;s a future without your former partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can create feelings of sadness as you move into new territory without hope for salvaging the relationship, but it could also create hope for a new future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the video below, Alan Robarge, an Attachment trauma therapist, discusses how separation affects the brain. He says the only rule is you should push yourself to function and keep your routine normal. Learn more below:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60820\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/signs-of-depression-after-a-breakup.jpg\" alt=\"Upset Young African American Male Sit On Sofa At Home Look In Distance Mourning Missing\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-overcome-depression-after-a-breakup\"><\/span><b>How to overcome depression after a breakup<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself struggling with breakup depression, you are probably wondering how to deal with depression after a breakup. While some negative emotions after a breakup are normal, there are tips for how to stop being sad after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Experts recommend the following strategies for coping with post-relationship depression:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Keep busy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may initially feel too sad to be productive, but tackling projects around the house or taking on a new activity can prevent you from dwelling on your emotions after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/christiana-njoku\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Christiana Njoku<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a Licensed Professional Counselor, advises<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To keep your emotions in check after a breakup, try engaging<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;in activities that <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">give<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you joy, as a way to divert your attention <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">from the<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> breakup.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>2. Start a journal<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to experts, studies show that writing about your feelings is an effective coping strategy for breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Reach out<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spending time with friends or developing social support networks, such as online support groups, can help you to overcome depression after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Establishing strong connections with friends or others experiencing similar situations can help you stay socially engaged as you lose a key relationship. This can make it easier to cope with breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Remember to take care of yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Caring for yourself with plenty of sleep and proper nutrition can make it easier to cope with breakup depression. When you take care of your health, you will feel better, which lifts your mood.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Make time for exercise<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.health.harvard.edu\/mind-and-mood\/exercise-is-an-all-natural-treatment-to-fight-depression\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, exercise boosts the mood just as well as some antidepressant medications, and it can increase your sense of wellbeing. Getting up and moving can, therefore, be an excellent coping strategy for recovering from breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In general, taking care of your health and finding opportunities to try new activities and connect with other people are important ways of how to deal with depression after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-ways-to-avoid-depression-after-a-breakup\"><\/span><b>5 ways to avoid depression after a breakup<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While treatment for depression may be necessary in some cases, there are strategies for avoiding serious breakup depression that require treatment. Here are five tips for preventing breakup depression symptoms:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Stay socially connected<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may be tempted to stay home and sulk when you are struggling with sadness after a breakup, but staying connected with other people is important.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Social isolation will just make you feel worse. Make coffee dates with friends, attend your usual activities and events, or contact others online for support.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building and maintaining social connections can help you to relate to other people and fill some of the voids that develop at the end of a romantic relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/social-media-and-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Harsh Truth About Social Media and Relationships&rsquo; Codependency<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Take care of yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The mind and body are connected, so when you are not taking care of yourself, your mental health is likely to suffer as well. To avoid slipping into depression after a breakup, remember to follow a nutritious diet, get plenty of sleep, and practice healthy habits.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Christiana Njoku further adds,<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Breakup can be highly detrimental to your mental health, but for your sanity and peace of mind, take care of yourself so as not to be overwhelmed by the breakup.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may seem appealing to indulge in alcohol or savory foods or neglect your health when you are feeling lousy after a breakup, but poor habits will only make you feel worse in the long term.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-pillars-of-self-care\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The 5 Pillars of Self-Care<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>3. Focus on your strengths<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Losing a relationship means major life changes, such as moving or worsening your financial situation. Breakups also mean a feeling of identity loss since so much of who we are is tied to our relationship with a significant other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can lead to a loss of self-esteem and a poor self-image. To avoid falling into breakup depression, remember to focus on your strengths. For instance, put your energy into new projects or goals at work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or, if you have a strength in music or fitness, you may focus on competitions or events where you can be successful. This will allow you to develop an identity and a sense of self-esteem outside of the former relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Make time for exercise<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only does exercise allow you to take care of yourself, but it can also boost your mood and prevent depression after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In fact, a research report in the scientific journal <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Brain Plasticity <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">shows that exercise is an effective way to regulate moods. It reduces not only negative moods but also increases positive moods, and the effect is almost immediate after a bout of exercise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regularly heading to the gym or going out for a run can boost your mood and prevent you from falling into depression after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Acknowledge your feelings but don&rsquo;t dwell<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to remember that some sadness after a breakup is normal. You are going through a major life change, and accepting that sadness is normal can be helpful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That being said, it is important not to dwell on your sadness or to let it consume you. Take time to process your emotions with a close friend or write about them in a journal, but then allow yourself to experience happy moments as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-get-over-hurt-feelings-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Get Over Hurt Feelings in a Relationship: 10 Ways<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60821\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/stages-of-depression-after-a-breakup.jpg\" alt=\"Depressed Mature Woman Lying In Bed With Bottle Of Pills Top View, Covering Head With Pillow\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When-to-get-professional-help\"><\/span><b>When to get professional help<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While there are ways of how to deal with depression after a breakup on your own, in some cases, depression may be severe and persistent, requiring professional help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is typical to experience some degree of sadness after a breakup, but feelings of depression will typically subside over time, especially if you practice self-care.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, it is time to get <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">professional help<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when breakup depression is ongoing, does not improve with time, and leads to significant problems with daily functioning.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, if you are so distraught over the breakup that you cannot fulfill duties at work or keep up with bills or housework, professional help is warranted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If breakup depression is persistent and does not improve over time with healthy coping strategies, you may have developed clinical depression or an adjustment disorder. If this is the case, sadness after a breakup may require therapy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to experts, if you still feel just as sad a few months after a breakup, you should consult a psychologist or therapist for treatment. Two specific types of therapy, called <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/cognitive-behavioral-therapy\/\"><b>cognitive-behavioral therapy<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and<\/span><b> interpersonal therapy<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, are effective for treating breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, cognitive behavioral therapy can help you change obsessive thoughts about what went wrong in the relationship so that you can develop healthier ways of thinking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While therapy on its own may be effective, sometimes, you may need to take medication to cope with breakup depression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your therapist or psychologist may refer you to a doctor who can prescribe antidepressants to boost your mood and make symptoms such as sadness, loss of interest in activities, and feelings of helplessness less severe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are unsure whether you need help for breakup depression, it can be helpful to take a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/am-i-depressed-because-of-my-relationship-quiz\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">quiz<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to learn whether you are suffering from clinical depression or are simply unhappy with the breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"More-on-depression-after-break-up\"><\/span><b>More on depression after break up<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some of the most asked questions about depression after break up and how to overcome heartbreak and depression.<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can a breakup cause mental illness?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Breaks ups are awful, and they create emotional turmoil. Being sad after a break up is given. Still, if you experience prolonged sadness and it has started affecting significant areas of life, it can cause emotional distress resulting in mental disorders.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not everyone experiences severe depression or other mental disorders, but people do experience serious mental health issues after a breakup. For some, a breakup influences a series of emotional blowbacks which can result in a mental illness.&nbsp;<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How long is too long after a breakup?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is no specific timeline to get over a breakup, but you should take some time off relationships and dating for your mental health. Spend some time with yourself and figure out if there is something that you need to change in your life before you get into a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is said you should wait at least 3 months before you get into a new relationship, but it also depends on how serious and invested you were in the last relationship. If it was an 8-10 year relationship, you should give yourself 6 to 10 months to heal before you think about a new relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can get into a relationship the next day if you want. Still, studies suggest that if you do not resolve and heal from your past relationship, you will start projecting your insecurities and issues into a new one, making it a bitter experience for you and your new partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway-Key-points-on-breakup-depression\"><\/span><b>Takeaway: Key points on breakup depression<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sadness after a breakup is generally normal, but in some cases, it can become breakup depression. There are strategies for coping with sadness after a breakup, such as practicing self-care, exercising, and reaching out to others for support.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using these strategies, setting goals, and taking on new activities can prevent a serious bout of breakup depression. Sometimes, even when you use these methods of how to deal with depression after a breakup, your sadness may continue.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When breakup depression does not get better with time, it interferes with your ability to function in daily life and comes with symptoms such as extreme tiredness, loss of interest in activities, and thoughts of hopelessness or suicide, it is probably time to seek the help of a professional.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A mental health professional can provide therapy to help you learn how to overcome depression after a breakup. A doctor may be able to prescribe medications to boost your mood. If you think you may have clinical depression after a breakup, it is important to reach out for professional help.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The end of a relationship can cause uncomfortable emotions, including severe depression after breakup. It is normal to feel sad when a relationship ends, especially if the relationship was serious and the breakup was not expected. Breakup sadness may be mild and pass with time, but in some situations, it can progress to clinical depression. In either case, there are ways how to get over breakup depression. What is break-up depression? At the end of a relationship, when you feel sad, anxious, bitter, and heartbroken. All these emotions can be a result of break-up depression. 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