

{"id":60776,"date":"2020-12-21T07:39:30","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T07:39:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=60776"},"modified":"2022-12-21T10:34:24","modified_gmt":"2022-12-21T10:34:24","slug":"why-marriages-of-convenience-do-not-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/why-marriages-of-convenience-do-not-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Marriages of Convenience Don&#8217;t Work?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60780\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/why-marriages-of-convenience-dont-work.jpg\" alt=\"Newlywed Coupe Sitting On A Sofa Angry At Each Other In A Middle Of An Argument\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people may be drawn to a&nbsp; marriage of convenience for ease and personal gain, but the reality is that there can be serious problems with marrying for convenience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning about the convenient marriage and problems that arise can be helpful for <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ensuring a happy and healthy marriage.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-a-marriage-of-convenience\"><\/span>What is a marriage of convenience?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first step in understanding why living in a marriage of convenience is problematic is learning about the definition of a convenient marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/encyclopedia.uia.org\/en\/problem\/139502\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Encyclopedia of World Problems &amp; Human Potential<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, marrying for convenience occurs for reasons other than love. Instead, the convenient marriage is for some sort of personal gains, such as for money or for political reasons.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In some cases, two people may agree to such a marriage so that one person can legally enter another country where their spouse resides.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As another <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship expert<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has succinctly explained, a marriage of convenience is not about love or compatibility but rather about the mutual benefit, such as financial gain, that each partner obtains from the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In some instances, those who are involved in such a marriage may not even live together.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Reasons-for-the-marriage-of-convenience\"><\/span>Reasons for the marriage of convenience<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As previously stated, the marriage of convenience occurs not because of love but because of a mutual benefit or some sort of selfish gain that one partner achieves from the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some common reasons for such a marriage may be as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li>\n<h3><b>For money&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The convenient marriage based on money occurs when a person &ldquo;marries rich&rdquo; to acquire wealth, but has no emotional connection or real interest in their spouse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can also occur when a person wants to be a stay-at-home-parent and enters into a convenient marriage in order to benefit from the financial support of the spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, the couple may have children together, and one partner, who does not desire to have a career, stays at home while the other spouse financially supports the other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li>\n<h3><b>For business reasons<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such a marriage may also be based on business. Two people may enter into a business agreement and have a marriage that focuses solely on their work. This could occur when a woman marries a business owner and becomes his assistant.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li>\n<h3><b>To advance their careers<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Similar to business partnerships, the relationship of convenience may occur for career advancement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, if one member of the partnership is studying medicine and the other is already a practicing physician, the two may marry for career advancement.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The student benefits from linkage to internships and residencies, and the physician benefits from creating networking opportunities.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li>\n<h3><b>Because of loneliness<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In some cases, a person might enter into the marriage of convenience because they simply haven&rsquo;t found &ldquo;the one.&rdquo; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/get-over-loneliness\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fearful of being alone<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> forever, they marry someone who is readily available without first establishing a true connection or a loving relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li>\n<h3><b>To benefit the children<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to marriage psychology experts, sometimes people become involved in a marriage of convenience when they are not really in love or emotionally connected, but parental obligations keep them together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this case, they stay together for convenience to avoid breaking up the family.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li>\n<h3><b>For other selfish benefits<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Other reasons for such a marriage include selfish reasons, such as marrying to enter into another country, or marrying someone to benefit a political career.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, an up-and-coming politician may marry a young socialite to improve his public image for the purpose of political campaigning.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Beyond these reasons, sometimes people remain in a convenient marriage and tolerate life without love or passion, simply out of habit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They become accustomed to a certain way of living because it is simple, and it is what they know.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The relationship of convenience may also continue because a couple does not want to deal with the burden of selling a home, dividing property, or handling the financial ramifications of splitting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is simply easier to stay together in some cases than it is to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">file for divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In some instances, perhaps the wife stays at home and cares for the children, and there is a marriage at his convenience, because the husband, who is financially supporting the family, does not want to leave his wife and divide his assets in half.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Also watch: Is there anything wrong with marrying for money?<\/b><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4ljXSfNJ_aw\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-the-marriage-of-convenience-valid\"><\/span>Is the marriage of convenience valid?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60781\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/is-the-marriage-of-convenience-valid.jpg\" alt=\"Young Couple Quarreled And Sit Upset On The Bed. The Concept Of Relationship Problems\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While a marriage of convenience occurs for reasons other than love and affection, it is still valid from a legal standpoint.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If two consenting adults enter into marriage, even if it is for personal gain, such as to advance their careers or for one spouse to stay at home and raise children, there is nothing illegal about such a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So long as the marriage is not forced or somehow <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Sham_marriage\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fraudulent<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, marrying for convenience is completely valid. In fact, an arranged marriage, which is an extreme form of the convenient marriage, is legal so long as no one is forced into the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-marriages-of-convenience-don%E2%80%99t-work\"><\/span>Why marriages of convenience don&rsquo;t work<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While such a marriage may have financial benefits for one or both spouses or help the couple to advance their careers, these relationships do not always work. There are several reasons living in such a marriage is problematic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To begin with, as marriage psychology experts explain, marrying for convenience can be unhappy, because it is lacking in passion or true companionship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who enter a marriage of convenience for financial or career-related purposes may have their economic needs met, but ultimately, they are missing out on the emotional and psychological benefits of a true connection with their spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most people desire to experience love and human connection, and when a person chooses a marriage of convenience, they are giving up the happiness that comes from finding a lifelong partner they truly love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Experts from the field of sociology have also explained the problems that occur with marriages of convenience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, sociological history shows that originally, marriages of convenience occurred when families <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Arranged_marriage\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">arranged marriages<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> between two people, and women were seen as men&rsquo;s property. Ultimately, this led to loveless marriages.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In modern times, convenient marriages, in which one partner relies on others for economic support, have continued. This has led to ongoing problems, in which the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/loveless-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">loveless marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> leads to unhappiness and even infidelity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Others warn that over time, such a marriage may not be so convenient. For instance, if you get married solely so you can stay at home with children, you may find over time that you desire a career, which means that it will no longer be convenient for you to stay at home while your partner supports you financially.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can also be difficult to stay committed to a marriage of convenience as problems arise. Without a solid foundation and compatibility, it can be challenging to cope with the daily stresses of marriage, and you may even find that you are attracted to someone else, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/the-ultimate-marriage-compatibility-quiz\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">who is more compatible with you<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In summary, problems with marrying for convenience are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They lack true love and affection.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may find that you are missing out on an emotional connection.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, the original reasons for marriage, such as financial support, can change, making the marriage not-so-attractive.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are likely to find that you are unhappy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Without love and attraction, you may be tempted to have affairs or seek another partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-tell-if-you-are-trapped-in-the-relationship-of-convenience\"><\/span>How to tell if you are trapped in the relationship of convenience<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60782\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/how-to-tell-if-you-are-trapped-in-the-relationship-of-convenience.jpg\" alt=\"Unhappy Young Asian Couples Quarrel On The Couch, Relationships Are In Trouble\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Based on what is known about the problems with the relationship of convenience, there are some signs that may suggest you are stuck in such a relationship. These can include any of the following:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel that your partner is emotionally distant or not in tune with you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is a lack of affection in your relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You or your partner have had affairs, or you feel tempted to step outside your relationship to meet your sexual or emotional needs.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You find that you and your partner don&rsquo;t have much in common, or you don&rsquo;t typically have fun together.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It seems as if all conversations with your partner center on finances or business.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may also help to consider the difference between love and convenience. With a marriage based upon love, you should be happy to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-have-a-quality-time-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">spend time with your partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and should enjoy their presence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You should care deeply for your partner and feel a strong sense of affection and a desire to be intimate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, the marriage of convenience is task-oriented. You may spend time with your partner out of necessity or in order to accomplish necessary tasks or goals, and not simply because you enjoy spending time together or want to partake in common interests.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Takeaways<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In summary, there are several reasons for a marriage of convenience, including financial support, career advancement, or to avoid loneliness, but in the end, there are problems with a relationship of convenience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it may provide for some needs, such as financial security, a marriage for convenience often fails to meet a person&rsquo;s need for emotional connection, love, and affection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriages of convenience may be legally valid, but the most successful marriages are built on a solid foundation of love and compatibility, with partners being committed to each other out of mutual attraction and a desire to spend their lives together, and not just for personal gain.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Some people may be drawn to a&nbsp; marriage of convenience for ease and personal gain, but the reality is that there can be serious problems with marrying for convenience. Learning about the convenient marriage and problems that arise can be helpful for ensuring a happy and healthy marriage. What is a marriage of convenience? The first step in understanding why living in a marriage of convenience is problematic is learning about the definition of a convenient marriage. According to The Encyclopedia of World Problems &amp; Human Potential, marrying for convenience occurs for reasons other than love. 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