

{"id":6027,"date":"2016-02-12T12:11:35","date_gmt":"2016-02-12T12:11:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=6027"},"modified":"2026-03-19T11:13:37","modified_gmt":"2026-03-19T11:13:37","slug":"what-is-intellectual-intimacy-and-does-it-actually-exist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/what-is-intellectual-intimacy-and-does-it-actually-exist\/","title":{"rendered":"What is Intellectual Intimacy &#038; Tips to Improve It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45530 size-full\" title=\"Understanding the Various Aspects of Intellectual Intimacy\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/What-is-Intellectual-Intimacy-and-Does-it-Actually-Exist.jpg\" alt=\"Understanding the Various Aspects of Intellectual Intimacy\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Universally, however, when most people hear the word, they immediately think of physical or sexual <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. But there are more types of intimacy than that.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Defining-intellectual-intimacy\"><\/span>Defining intellectual intimacy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intellectual intimacy or intellectual compatibility may be a new term for you, and to understand the meaning of intellectual intimacy, you must understand intellectuality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In layman&rsquo;s terms,<\/span><b> intellectuality is the possession of reasoning and understanding objectivity<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thus, intellectual intimacy is the intellectual connection that you are able to cultivate with another individual by sharing your thinking, skills, and intellectual prowess.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So a more conventional answer to what is intellectual intimacy would be:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Psychologists define intellectual intimacy as two people who really come together to share ideas and thoughts; they are comfortable in doing so, even when they differ in their opinions.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Truly, intellectual intimacy is connecting brain to brain, in a sense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you know if intellectual intimacy exists in your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Here are a few intellectual intimacy examples:<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Intellectual-intimacy-examples\"><\/span>Intellectual intimacy examples<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45532 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Intellectual-intimacy-examples.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple laying on bed \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<ul><li><b>You talk about your <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/dreaming-together-3-essential-tips-for-having-a-happy-future-as-a-couple\/\"><b>hopes and dreams together<\/b><\/a><b>,<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and you encourage each other to pursue those paths in life. Perhaps you have some of the same hopes and dreams, which you can work on together, but you also have separate interests.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b>You ask each other opinions on things.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Most importantly, even though <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/political-differences-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">your opinions may differ on anything from politics<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">parenting<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to finances, you feel free to talk about your ideas without fear. You feel safe to say what you really feel.&nbsp;<\/span>The intimacy goes to the next level when you are both able to negotiate and come together as one.<\/li>\n<li><b>You know each other&rsquo;s fears, <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/negative-experiences-of-the-past-can-affect-your-relationship\/\"><b>past difficult experiences<\/b><\/a>, and things that are most hard to deal with. As you navigate through life together, you help your significant other deal with these emotions and relieve or protect in any way possible.<\/li>\n<li><b>You can tell if your partner is or isn&rsquo;t saying everything they are feeling<\/b> or thinking. You prod for more information and try to make them feel comfortable sharing everything.<\/li>\n<li><b>You can talk about almost anything<\/b>, at most any time of day or night. Late-night talks are normal for you. You don&rsquo;t just &ldquo;talk,&rdquo; but you really share. There is plenty of back and forth rather than just one person dominating the conversation.<\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>Developing intellectual intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perhaps you and your significant other haven&rsquo;t been able to fulfill each other&rsquo;s social and intellectual needs in marriage. Do not worry! Forming an intellectual relationship is an active thing that can be worked on constantly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The goal is to really come together and really know each other in ways you never realized. Even if it takes a lifetime, it&rsquo;s worth the journey.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Also watch:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Nj2Bia3iztA\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Improving-intellectual-intimacy-in-marriage\"><\/span>Improving&nbsp;intellectual intimacy in marriage<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The extent to which the intellectual needs in a relationship are met decides the degree to which that marriage would be successful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are <\/span><b>certain criteria that shape the intellectual compatibility of any relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. These are the criteria that can help you to increase <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.oocities.org\/vbhv_gptiit\/stableMarriage.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intellectual intimacy in your marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Similar attitude<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Attitude is an individual&rsquo;s way of thinking or feeling about something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you and your partner have a similar approach towards things in life, your relationship would seem much more compatible as opposed to a couple where the partners do not share a similar thought process.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you and your spouse <\/span><b>find things for which you share a similar attitude<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you can definitely improve intellectual intimacy in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Similar interests<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next attribute that affects a relationship&rsquo;s intellectual compatibility is similar interests.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, a relationship loses its spark, things become more mundane, and very often, you find yourself stuck in different routines.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding quality time for each other becomes a rare occurrence, and the time that you do spend with your partner isn&rsquo;t always the most productive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One possible reason for such a relationship is the inability of the couple to find similar interests.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sharing similar interests with your spouse ensures that when you do spend time together, it would always turn out to be quality time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>You are doing the thing you love, and you are doing it with the person that you love<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The satisfaction that you get from such a scenario is what strengthens your intellectual connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45531 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Similar-interests.jpg\" alt=\"Couple paying with each other \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Similar values and sense of loyalty<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next aspect that augments intellectual intimacy in a relationship is when the couple adopts or already have similar values and a similar sense of loyalty.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While sharing your passion and interest is very crucial in a relationship,<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.eharmony.co.uk\/dating-advice\/finding-yourself\/why-shared-values-are-more-important-than-shared-interests\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>sharing the same values<\/b><\/a><b> is even more significant to enhance your relationship.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our values and principles are what defines us as an individual. If you and your partner are able to align your values, you stand to feel more accepted, respected, and venerated. The same is true for loyalty.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Being supportive<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This aspect of intellectual intimacy is like a cherry on top of a cake and usually results when the couple is able to share a sense of similarity with any of the other attributes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being able to support your partner and exhibit unconditional support for your partner is a byproduct of being able to put yourself in your partner&rsquo;s shoes and find ways to relate to each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intellectual intimacy is a simple but powerful concept, and we apply it every day in our lives, yet we find it difficult always to comprehend its relevance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if you feel like your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/p\/9-subtle-signs-you-might-not-be-intellectually-compatible-with-your-partner-9157919\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship might not be intellectually compatible<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, then work towards making your marriage more intellectually compatible and form a relationship bond that you have never shared before.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Intimacy can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Universally, however, when most people hear the word, they immediately think of physical or sexual intimacy. But there are more types of intimacy than that. Defining intellectual intimacy Intellectual intimacy or intellectual compatibility may be a new term for you, and to understand the meaning of intellectual intimacy, you must understand intellectuality. In layman&rsquo;s terms, intellectuality is the possession of reasoning and understanding objectivity. Thus, intellectual intimacy is the intellectual connection that you are able to cultivate with another individual by sharing your thinking, skills, and <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":45530,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[24],"tags":[2530],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6027"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6027"}],"version-history":[{"count":16,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6027\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118532,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6027\/revisions\/118532"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45530"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6027"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6027"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6027"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}