{"id":60158,"date":"2018-07-05T07:33:33","date_gmt":"2018-07-05T07:33:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/compatible-attachment-style\/"},"modified":"2025-12-09T06:44:44","modified_gmt":"2025-12-09T06:44:44","slug":"compatible-attachment-style","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/compatible-attachment-style\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Types of Attachment Styles and What They Mean"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Compatible<\/p>\n

I was in awe the first time I learned and understood how attachment style makes or break a relationship. Suddenly everything made sense!<\/p>\n

The up and downs, the addictive emotional swings of my partners, the heartbreaks,  all my relationship history became clear when I saw it through the lenses of attachment styles.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was an avoidant. And my partners weren’t crazy, clingy or overly emotional: they were anxious attachment types.<\/span><\/p>\n

Read on and it will all become clear for you two.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Four Attachment Styles<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. Secure attachment type<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

The secure type is comfortable with intimacy and emotional closeness<\/a>, both giving intimacy and receiving it.<\/span><\/p>\n

They play little games and tend to be honest and upfront. These are the guys and girls who say things like “I like you” relatively early without being afraid of “showing their hand”.<\/span><\/p>\n

And they don’t pretend not being interested if they’re interested and don’t call it “hanging out” if it’s a date.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, they’re not supermen and they come in all different shapes and sizes: from the 30 YO virgin to the extremely successful. And they can be confident and not so confident too.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"The<\/p>\n

<\/span>2. Anxious attachment type<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n