

{"id":60,"date":"2015-05-25T11:25:05","date_gmt":"2015-05-25T11:25:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/topic\/?p=60"},"modified":"2026-03-19T10:52:13","modified_gmt":"2026-03-19T10:52:13","slug":"5-things-you-can-do-today-to-fix-intimacy-problems-in-a-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/5-things-you-can-do-today-to-fix-intimacy-problems-in-a-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Fix Your Intimacy Problems Without Counseling"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-154 size-full\" title=\"Intimacy Problems in a Marriage\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/5-Things-You-Can-Do-Today-to-Fix-Intimacy-Problems-in-a-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Intimacy Problems in a Marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being married to your best friend is wonderful, but when you feel more like friends than lovers, that&rsquo;s when things can start to unravel. Intimacy is an important part of a marriage and without it, you can feel as if you&rsquo;re living with a roommate rather than your spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before you can understand <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> issues and how to<\/span><b> overcome intimacy issues in your marriage<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you need to know what intimacy in marriage is. The conception of the term intimacy mostly varies between men and women, where men associate intimacy in marriage with sex and women associate it with an emotional connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, intimacy in a marriage or a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is actually a culmination of both the emotional and physical feelings, which you can openly express to your partner without feeling vulnerable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No intimacy in marriage or a marriage without intimacy sooner than later is the reason for the demise of that relationship. Be it physical or emotional, the survival of any marriage is contingent upon how intimate the couple is.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/common-intimacy-issues-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> common intimacy problems<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or the <\/span><b>signs of intimacy issues<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that couples face during the course of their marriage are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unable to meet each other&rsquo;s sexual expectations<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stress and tension<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Awkwardness during&nbsp; sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Different libidos or mismatched intimacy levels<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exhaustion<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unrealistic sexual needs<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Validation through sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear of intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoiding intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you have established the intimacy disorders that you are dealing with, the effects of a lack of intimacy in a relationship would also become quite obvious. Some of the effects of a lack of intimacy in marriage or lack of intimacy in a relationship are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling isolated and distant<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unable to communicate your emotions properly<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living vastly separate lives<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Less or no sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No shared interests and hobbies<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fostering resentment and anger<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that we know about the causes, let&rsquo;s discover <\/span><b>how to fix intimacy problems in a marriage<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a relationship without intimacy or living in a marriage without intimacy is by far the worst thing that can happen to anyone, so how come married couples often find themselves at this juncture in their relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, <\/span><b>how to<\/b> <b>bring back intimacy in a marriage<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Fortunately, there are things that you can do to restore intimacy in a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-26504 size-full\" title=\"How to fix intimacy problems in a marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/Avoid-Emotional-Intimacy-Issues-in-Your-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"How to fix intimacy problems in a marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Talk-to-each-other\"><\/span>1. Talk to each other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s so simple yet so many couples fail to do it. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication is key in any relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, but all too often we let our hectic lives and responsibilities get in the way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before you know it you&rsquo;ve gone from staying up all night talking when dating to barely mustering a grunt here and there. And the longer this goes on, the more resentful you become until you&rsquo;re living like strangers under the same roof.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take the time to talk to your partner about their day and to share about yours. While talking about the kids and schedules is important, it&rsquo;s also important to talk to each other like people. Share a laugh, share your goals and dreams, and <\/span><b>enjoy communicating.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Touch\"><\/span>2. Touch<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is about more than just sex. It&rsquo;s about a kiss when they get home from work, a hand on the knee when sitting watching television together, and even just a caress of the arm when passing each other in the kitchen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/the-power-of-touch-in-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The way you touch<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is what sets your relationship with your partner apart from your relationship with anyone else. If you think back to when you first fell in love, chances are that you touched every chance you got, which is why you used to feel so connected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get back to that place by <\/span><b>connecting with them physically<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, in and out of the bedroom.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Have-fun-together\"><\/span>3. Have fun together<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself, &lsquo;When was the last time you and your partner had fun together?&rsquo; How much fun are you to come home to? To get as far as falling in love and getting married, you must have shared some fun times together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t let work and life get in the way of having fun. Take time to do enjoyable things together as a couple. Take a road trip, go to a movie, and try something new. Sharing an adventure together bonds you by giving you an experience that&rsquo;s just yours.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have children, remember that while <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> fun is important, it&rsquo;s equally important for you and your partner to <\/span><b>have fun as a couple.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Say-I-love-you\"><\/span>4. Say I love you<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s just three little words, but they&rsquo;re powerful enough to change the way you and your partner see each other. Men and women both want to feel loved and saying I love you is the easiest way to do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Say it before you go to sleep at night; say it with a kiss, or scribble it on a sticky note and leave it their bag. Even a simple email or call in the middle of the day to say I love you can make their heart (and desire) swell because it shows them that you&rsquo;re thinking of them and makes them feel cherished.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Make-eye-contact\"><\/span>5. Make eye contact<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Distractions and even the <\/span><b>lack of intimacy<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> itself can make it difficult to look your partner in the eye, but doing so can make all the difference. Eye contact does several things: show that you&rsquo;re listening so that your partner knows you&rsquo;re interested in what they have to say and feels heard.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It also creates instant intimacy because you&rsquo;re focused on each other in that moment and nothing else. Look your partner in the eye when speaking to each other, when holding each other, and even just for no reason at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These seemingly simple steps will go a long way if you want to fix <\/span><b>intimacy problems in marriage.<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being married to your best friend is wonderful, but when you feel more like friends than lovers, that&rsquo;s when things can start to unravel. Intimacy is an important part of a marriage and without it, you can feel as if you&rsquo;re living with a roommate rather than your spouse. Before you can understand intimacy issues and how to overcome intimacy issues in your marriage, you need to know what intimacy in marriage is. 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