

{"id":59291,"date":"2019-09-04T06:27:13","date_gmt":"2019-09-04T06:27:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/estate-planning\/estate-planning-tips-for-unmarried-cohabiting-couples\/"},"modified":"2023-02-01T06:45:27","modified_gmt":"2023-02-01T06:45:27","slug":"estate-planning-tips-for-unmarried-cohabiting-couples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/estate-planning-tips-for-unmarried-cohabiting-couples\/","title":{"rendered":"Basic Estate Planning Tips for Unmarried Cohabiting Couples"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-14175 size-full\" title=\"Basic Estate Planning Tips for Unmarried Cohabiting Couples\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Basic-Estate-Planning-Tips-for-Unmarried-Cohabiting-Couples-1606139894.jpg\" alt=\"Basic Estate Planning Tips for Unmarried Cohabiting Couples\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><b>Cohabitation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> among unmarried couples <\/span><b>is growing<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Is it important that unmarried cohabiting couples have an estate plan in place?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Estate planning<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> should be <\/span><b>carefully<\/b> <b>considered for any adult<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> thinking about their future and legacy, <\/span><b>married or not<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many of the &ldquo;default&rdquo; estate planning laws were adopted in a time when cohabitation was less common. As a result, these <\/span><b>laws often consider<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the <\/span><b>interests of a surviving spouse<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but give no consideration to an unmarried partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This ignores the fact that cohabitating couples share many of the same concerns as married couples. There should be some basic estate planning for unmarried couples since they play a role similar to what the married couples play in their day-to-day lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"For-example-%E2%80%93\"><\/span>For example &ndash;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one partner dies, the other partner may be left with a mortgage, unpaid bills, or childcare costs. If they are unmarried, the surviving partner may have no rights to receive anything from the deceased partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is in stark contrast to the result if they are married, where the laws are specifically designed to ensure that the surviving spouse is a beneficiary to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;My wife and I even sparked up the conversation before we were married, but didn&rsquo;t know where to start. It&rsquo;s one of the reasons we are thrilled to have started Trust &amp; Will, bringing estate planning into the digital age, with a product that is easy and affordable to use.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"-Estate-planning-implications-for-unmarried-cohabiting-couples\"><\/span>&nbsp;Estate planning implications for unmarried cohabiting couples<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having these documents in place can help specify who can make financial and medical decisions on your behalf if you are incapacitated. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Without a will, state laws will make the call, which may or may not reflect your final wishes.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage provides each spouse with certain rights that an unmarried partner does not have.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><b>Beyond the right<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to<\/span><b> receive assets <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">from an estate, these <\/span><b>rights<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> also <\/span><b>include<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the right to <\/span><b>make medical decisions<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the right to r<\/span><b>eceive medical updates<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><b>communicate with physicians<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and the right to make decisions on final arrangements and burial instructions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unmarried cohabiting couples need to have estate planning documents in place to create these rights as they are not provided for under existing laws.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Estate-planning-for-unmarried-partners-vs-married-couples\"><\/span>Estate planning for unmarried partners vs. married couples<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now the main points for discussion here are &ndash; how is estate planning different for married couples vs. unmarried couples? Are there types of estate plans that unmarried couples should consider? What are the estate planning must-haves for unmarried couples<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">easy to assume that <\/span><b>estate planning is only for married couples<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because they have spouses who rely on each other. If you&rsquo;re single, you&rsquo;ll want to have someone else to make financial and medical decisions on your behalf if they are not able to do so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Same goes for your assets when you don&rsquo;t have a clear set of beneficiaries (like a spouse or kids).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be some differences between those for married vs unmarried cohabiting couples, particularly at higher asset levels.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At its core, most of the objectives are the same &ndash;<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You want to have a plan in place<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Provide for the loved ones who survive you, and&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make the process easier for them<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These <\/span><b>core objectives<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> typically <\/span><b>remain true for<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> either <\/span><b>married<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or <\/span><b>unmarried couples<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There may be some other considerations, particularly with increasing asset levels.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Some types of trusts<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can let you <\/span><b>specify how<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> your <\/span><b>assets are used<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This is something commonly considered by individuals who want to make sure their <\/span><b>assets are used<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for their partner and their kids and <\/span><b>not diverted to the benefit<\/b> <b>of<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> a later marriage or <\/span><b>re-marriage<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From a tax perspective, there can be different estate and gift tax considerations for spouses vs. non-married partners, particularly with asset levels well north of $5,000,0000.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Estate-planning-tips-for-unmarried-couples\"><\/span>Estate planning tips for unmarried couples<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-13910 size-full\" title=\"Estate planning tips for unmarried couples\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Few-Things-You-Should-Know-About-Dating-a-Gamer-1606139894.jpg\" alt=\"Estate planning tips for unmarried couples\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many of the <\/span><b>key motivators for estate planning<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can<\/span><b> exist<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> regardless of marital status&nbsp; &ndash; having children, owning a home or other sizeable assets, having loved ones you want to take care of.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone should have a plan in place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Either person can start the process<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and create their own plan. It doesn&rsquo;t have to be something you both do at once. If one of you is motivated, take action. Maybe that will help <\/span><b>motivate the other to do so as well<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;The laws do not protect unmarried cohabiting couples the same way they protect married couples.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can also create a conflict in the law favoring someone other than the unmarried partner, potentially leading to disputes and litigation. It is all the more <\/span><b>important to put a plan in place<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because <\/span><b>you cannot rely on the law<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to do what you would want to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s also important to <\/span><b>make sure your plan is documented<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as an unmarried partner may not have the same ability as a spouse to carry out an undocumented plan.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A change in marital status is absolutely a time to revisit any existing plans.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><b>Changes can affect the rights<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that each partner has. Those changes can also impact some existing beneficiary designations, including 401(k) plans. Even if you think everything is how you want it, <\/span><b>getting married<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> might override your designations and <\/span><b>produce a different result<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Estate-planning-suggestions-for-unmarried-cohabiting-couples\"><\/span>Estate planning suggestions for unmarried cohabiting couples<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are some suggestions for unmarried couples on how to talk about estate planning.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s one of those &lsquo;adulting&rsquo; conversations you don&rsquo;t want to necessarily have out at a restaurant, but it is an essential conversation to have at home with proper context.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To have &lsquo;the talk&rsquo; around joint bank accounts, life insurance, and of course, estate planning, it&rsquo;s easy to think of it as some remote possibility that couldn&rsquo;t possibly happen to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t have to have one long talk to cover every detail at once. Just take it one piece at a time so it isn&rsquo;t so overwhelming. Asking &ldquo;would you want to stay on life support&rdquo; or &ldquo;do you want to be cremated&rdquo; can be a great start and can be easier to wrap up if you start feeling overwhelmed.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cohabitation among unmarried couples is growing. Is it important that unmarried cohabiting couples have an estate plan in place? Estate planning should be carefully considered for any adult thinking about their future and legacy, married or not. Many of the &ldquo;default&rdquo; estate planning laws were adopted in a time when cohabitation was less common. As a result, these laws often consider the interests of a surviving spouse but give no consideration to an unmarried partner. This ignores the fact that cohabitating couples share many of the same concerns as married couples. There should be some basic estate planning for unmarried <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1097,"featured_media":59292,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[14],"tags":[2573],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59291"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1097"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=59291"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59291\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":62521,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59291\/revisions\/62521"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/59292"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=59291"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=59291"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=59291"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}