{"id":59255,"date":"2018-09-04T10:59:09","date_gmt":"2018-09-04T10:59:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/tips-for-pre-marriage-relationships\/"},"modified":"2022-09-04T10:59:09","modified_gmt":"2022-09-04T10:59:09","slug":"tips-for-pre-marriage-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/tips-for-pre-marriage-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting Hitched? 6 Tips for Pre-Marriage Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"TipsYou’re getting married soon and you’re excited about it.   But wait! What are the things you must talk about and change before tying the knot so that you both can truly have your happily ever after? Check out the following simple pre-marriage tips-<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1.     Define expectations<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

What are your expectations for each other and your relationship in general?   You should be honest about these things; otherwise, you’ll be disappointed you did not put it out there early on. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is important to communicate expectations – realistic expectations – and to be honest about them.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

One expectation is your sex life together.<\/b>  Have an honest dialogue about it.   Do not lie about having an orgasm or pretending to be satisfied. It won’t help your sex life and relationship in general. Remember that sex is a major part of relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another is what you want for the future. <\/b> Do you want to leave the city?   Do you want to go back to school? No matter what you expect for the future, put it out there – openly and honestly.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then, what are your<\/b> expectations for children<\/b><\/a>? <\/b> Before tying the knot, discuss about it.  If the both of you want to have children, how many?  What belief system are you going to teach your kids? Think these things through before getting married.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2.      Make decisions together<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Another important pre-marriage tip to remember apart from defining expectations is making decisions together.  If this early, you couldn’t agree on the planning basics, how do you imagine your married life together as a couple?<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Agreeing on planning points, such as the deciding on the number of guests to be invited in the wedding, choosing the wedding date and selecting the wedding planning company are important before moving one more step closer to becoming officially a married couple. Or else, it will be hard to plan and consume so much time if you two would keep arguing on the details.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tip:<\/b> Don’t over think and try to create the perfect wedding because it will just lead to friction and anxiety. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t be too wrapped up, but reframe what your wedding is all about – your love for each other. Finally, decide about the details of your wedding together.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>3.     Seek shared values and sense of comfort<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Marriage counselors reveal the importance of seeking for shared values and sense of comfort. As when you decide to share the rest of your life with that special someone, you can help your relationship if you know your shared values.<\/span><\/p>\n

Before getting married, talk about the things you are valuing, dreaming about and hoping for.  The more of these topics you discuss before marriage, the more you will become satisfied and feel a sense of comfort in the relationship once you tied the knot.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Why should you talk about these things? If you’ve determined you’re on the same page in ideals and values, any arguments later won’t be about anything serious.<\/span><\/p>\n

What are some common values to assess pre-marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n