{"id":58981,"date":"2020-03-17T11:35:09","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T11:35:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/positive-parenting-solutions\/"},"modified":"2023-03-17T11:35:09","modified_gmt":"2023-03-17T11:35:09","slug":"positive-parenting-solutions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/positive-parenting-solutions\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 5 Positive Parenting Solutions – Finding Common Ground with Your Spouse"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"ParentsYou got married to the love of your life and now you and your spouse can’t wait to be parents. You eagerly look forward to having your own kids and expanding the family.<\/span><\/p>\n

After having kids, you realize that while <\/span>parenthood has brought excitement<\/span><\/a> and wonder into your lives, it also came along with parenting issues that you hadn’t anticipated. When parents disagree with respect to bringing up the kids, it can drive a wedge between the couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

The main problem is that you and your spouse can’t seem to agree on <\/span>how to discipline your kids<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your spouse thinks you’re too lax while you think they’re too strict.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you feel that withdrawing privileges would suffice when your teen misses curfew, they feel that grounding them would be more appropriate.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You end up disagreeing on almost everything about parenting<\/span><\/a>– when the kids should go to bed, whether or not they should go for sleepovers, how to handle their poor performance in school, and so on. In fact, the only thing you do seem to agree on is that something needs to change.<\/span><\/p>\n

The strain of constant arguments is getting to both of you. Your marriage and family are too important and neither you nor your spouse is ready to throw that away because of discipline differences.<\/span><\/p>\n

The common refrain is, “my partner and I disagree on parenting”, so what can you do about it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t despair, there’s hope for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here are some parenting tips on how to find common ground with your spouse when you disagree on positive parenting solutions or h<\/span>ow to parent as a team 101:<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. Get on the same page beforehand<\/span><\/h2>\n

You and your spouse are likely to have different parenting techniques. Maybe one of you is authoritarian while the other is more permissive. Your parenting styles are likely to cause differences in how you want to discipline your kids.<\/span><\/p>\n

In order to avoid <\/span>constant arguments about such parenting issues<\/span><\/a>, it’s important for the two of you to get on the same page beforehand.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the positive parenting solutions is to discuss what you each have strong feelings about and s<\/span>ee where you can compromise on certain parenting decisions.<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. Set rules and consequences together<\/span><\/h2>\n

Your kids need the structure brought about by discipline in order to thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n

To achieve a healthy and <\/span>disciplined home environment<\/span><\/a>, you and your spouse should collaborate on setting the house rules and consequences for breaking them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ask your kids for their input and take their ideas and suggestions into account while retaining overall control.<\/span><\/p>\n

As one of the effective positive parenting solutions, <\/span>it is easier to enforce rules that everyone agrees with.<\/b><\/p>\n

Watch this helpful video of Paediatric Psychiatrist Dehra Harris talking about different methods to set rules to get your child to listen and behave when they are repeatedly acting out:<\/p>\n