{"id":58357,"date":"2018-07-13T11:19:30","date_gmt":"2018-07-13T11:19:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/can-good-relationship-guarantee-a-great-marriage\/"},"modified":"2023-07-13T11:19:30","modified_gmt":"2023-07-13T11:19:30","slug":"can-good-relationship-guarantee-a-great-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/can-good-relationship-guarantee-a-great-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Can a Good Relationship Guarantee a Great Marriage?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-24351 size-full\" title=\"Can a Good Relationship Guarantee a Great Marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/Create-some-serious-marriage-goals-for-your-marriage-1605961434.jpg\" alt=\"Can a Good Relationship Guarantee a Great Marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Falling in love is the easiest, most beautiful thing in the world. You&rsquo;re aware that&rsquo;s just your initial enthusiasm. You wish you could be this happy forever and ever, but at the back of your mind, you know that it might be just a temporary fling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But you keep working on the relationship. It&rsquo;s the most successful one you&rsquo;ve ever had. You understand each other, you make each other laugh, and the spark seems to be there for a really long time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;re sure this is the real deal&hellip; Or are you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does a successful relationship guarantee a successful marriage? Not necessarily.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&rsquo;ve all seen those perfectly happy couples get a divorce soon after the wedding, although they&rsquo;ve been happy for years during their relationship. Yup, that&rsquo;s exactly what happened to me. I married my high-school boyfriend. The great love that was supposed to be a lifetime connection. It failed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why does this happen to good relationships? Where do things break?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I analyzed the matter for quite a long time, so I think I have few potential answers.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Yes- A good relationship leads to a good marriage<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t get me wrong; a great relationship is still necessary for a good marriage. You don&rsquo;t go marry someone just because you feel like your time has come.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You marry someone because you connect really well, you have tons of fun together, and you cannot imagine your life without this special person. That&rsquo;s a good relationship, and it&rsquo;s the essential foundation of a fulfilled future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re wondering whether or not you should marry someone, these are the questions to ask yourself:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"p-ul-list\"><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you still feel the butterflies? I know that&rsquo;s a clich&eacute;, but do you? Does this person still awaken your senses?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you still able to have fun with this person even after spending some boring moments together? When you&rsquo;re in a relationship, you can&rsquo;t always be out there exploring the world together or exploring each other. Sometimes you&rsquo;re tired and bored, just like every other person on Earth. Are you able to recover from such downtimes? Can you get back to excitement together after recharging your batteries?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you know this person?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you want to spend your life with them?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answers to these questions are indicators of a good relationship that&rsquo;s ripe for marriage. It&rsquo;s a good foundation to have!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-23636 size-full\" title=\"A good relationship leads to a good marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/Seeking-safe-passage-1605961434.jpg\" alt=\"A good relationship leads to a good marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><b>But there are no guarantees! &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I had the answers to those questions. Everything seemed perfectly flawless. Don&rsquo;t get me started about those comments saying that you have to go through several relationships to find your true love. That&rsquo;s not how things go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though this was my first love, it was real and it didn&rsquo;t break because we needed to experiment with other people. It broke because we didn&rsquo;t get married for the right reasons. We got married simply because we thought that it was the next logical thing to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So let me ask you a few other questions:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"p-ul-list\"><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel like you&rsquo;re the only one who&rsquo;s not married yet?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you thinking about getting married because that&rsquo;s what your family expects you to do?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you doing it because you think that it&rsquo;s just a signature and it won&rsquo;t change anything?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re doing it for the wrong reasons, then no; the good relationship won&rsquo;t guarantee a successful marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s make something very clear: <\/span><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nothing is a guarantee for a successful marriage<\/span><\/i><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">.<\/span> You&rsquo;re the only one who knows how much work you&rsquo;re willing to put in it, and your partner is the only one who knows how they can invest the same level of effort.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter how happy you seem at this moment, things might break into pieces.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You should definitely get married to the person you consider to be <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the one<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. But take my advice on it: pick the right timing, too. You both have to be ready for this major step forward!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Falling in love is the easiest, most beautiful thing in the world. You&rsquo;re aware that&rsquo;s just your initial enthusiasm. You wish you could be this happy forever and ever, but at the back of your mind, you know that it might be just a temporary fling. But you keep working on the relationship. It&rsquo;s the most successful one you&rsquo;ve ever had. You understand each other, you make each other laugh, and the spark seems to be there for a really long time. You&rsquo;re sure this is the real deal&hellip; Or are you? 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