{"id":58293,"date":"2018-10-08T11:22:44","date_gmt":"2018-10-08T11:22:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/is-your-husband-hinting-break-up\/"},"modified":"2022-10-08T11:22:44","modified_gmt":"2022-10-08T11:22:44","slug":"is-your-husband-hinting-break-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/is-your-husband-hinting-break-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Your Husband Hinting About a Break-Up?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8958 size-full\" title=\"Is your husband hinting about a break-up\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Is-your-husband-hinting-about-a-break-up-1605864825.jpg\" alt=\"Is your husband hinting about a break-up\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does your marriage feel fragile, all of a sudden? Maybe your husband<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"p-ul-list\"><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Is not interested in talking to you anymore<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Seems like he is intentionally looking to get angry at you over the smallest things<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Has he been clamming up and a conversation with him nowadays feels forced?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you feel as if you have to fish for conversation topics or like you need to interrogate him just so that you can get the information that you need. And you don&rsquo;t feel listened to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have been mulling this over&hellip; And one thing is clear, something is just not right. You are starting to wonder whether he might want out of the marriage. Unfortunately, you may not be wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Hinting-in-relationships\"><\/span><b>Hinting in relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every day in relationships with issues, partners come up against &lsquo;hinting&rsquo;. When you receive feedback and signals from the actions and words of your partner, that lets you know what&rsquo;s up; if you are watching and listening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, many women never want to believe that things are going wrong. Relationships are laced with a lot of hope, a lot of faith. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though hope and faith can be powerful forces for healing a relationship, the worst thing that you can do when it comes to love is to delude yourself about your man&rsquo;s happiness.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Confrontation-is-not-every-guy%E2%80%99s-forte\"><\/span><b>Confrontation is not every guy&rsquo;s forte<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not every guy comes out and expresses his dissatisfaction with a relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some guys would rather stew in debilitating unsaid words than speak up. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They will pick arguments, criticize you, ignore you or stop communicating altogether.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, many guys do not want to bear the burden of being the ones who broke up the marriage. They will, therefore, give many hints that they are no longer invested in the relationship, hoping you will take a cue and call it quits. Therefore, you must trust yourself to interpret the hints in your relationship. When he tells you:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"p-ul-list\"><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I can&rsquo;t seem to do anything right<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You deserve better<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I can&rsquo;t give you what you want<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You are never happy<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I don&rsquo;t know what to do any more&hellip;.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><strong>All these are clues, and you better listen if you do not want to be a victim of a break-up.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-The-conflicts\"><\/span><b>1. The conflicts<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8959 size-full\" title=\"Deliberately getting angry over the tiniest things is signal for break-up\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Deliberately-getting-angry-over-the-tiniest-things-is-signal-for-break-up-1605864826.jpg\" alt=\"Deliberately getting angry over the tiniest things is signal for break-up\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your man is planning to break up with you, he will deliberately get angry over the tiniest of things. Arguments will especially come when you ask him questions he would rather not answer. His goal is to create conflict so that he can avoid discussing certain topics with you. When the conflict escalates, that is when he will start saying things like:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&lsquo;I just don&rsquo;t think this is working out!&rsquo; &lsquo;Is this worth it anymore?&rsquo; &lsquo;Maybe I cannot make you happy anymore!&rsquo; &lsquo;I just don&rsquo;t know if it&rsquo;s you or me,&rsquo; &nbsp;&lsquo;I am trying my best to be the man that you want me to be; it&rsquo;s hard; you expect too much from me.&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This endless fighting without reaching resolutions will eventually morph into the &lsquo;whatever&rsquo; stage, in which he no longer cares about the outcome of your arguments. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He is no longer invested in the relationship, and he cares less about whether issues between the two of you are solved or not. When you bring something up, he will just shrug his shoulders and give you the silent treatment or simply walk out on you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Sabotage\"><\/span><b>2. Sabotage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a partner wants out of a relationship, he will do things either unconsciously or deliberately to damage the relationship. They can say they want to stay until they are blue in the face, but their language and actions will tell you otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-He-talks-down-on-you\"><\/span><b>3. He talks down on you<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You will notice that your man no longer cares about your feelings. All of a sudden, he is always right, and you are always wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Come up with a project you are excited about, and he will make jabs about how you are not cut out for it. Attempt to reason with him, when you are having differences of opinion, and he will tell you that your views are stupid. If he is continually making you feel unintelligent and inadequate, he is no longer interested in making your relationship work.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-He-has-a-skewed-sense-of-humor\"><\/span><b>4. He has a skewed sense of humor<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He loved to tease you, and you enjoyed his witty humor. However, his humor has started to translate into slight insults.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He will make unpleasant jokes about your weight, looks, education and unfavorably compare you to your friends. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He will use humour to communicate an unsavoury message that he would not otherwise share. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, he will claim that he is just teasing you, but you can tell that he clearly knows that he is hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-He-starts-talking-in-a-weird-cliches\"><\/span><b>5. He starts talking in a weird clich&eacute;s<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your husband will begin to drop weird statements that should signal alarm bells.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&lsquo;<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships shouldn&rsquo;t be this much work!&rsquo;<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listen to your man very keenly and believe what he is telling you. Many women make the mistake of assuming that they will be able to change the man&rsquo;s mind or that the problem will go away if they ignore it. Dropping hints is your man&rsquo;s way of laying the groundwork for a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-He-no-longer-talks-about-the-future\"><\/span><b>6. He no longer talks about the future<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is probably the most significant sign yet that a breakup is on the horizon. If he avoids discussing the future with you, it probably means that he does not see you in his future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The future here doesn&rsquo;t even have to be anything specific. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You will notice that your man no longer talks about trips and concerts that you have previously attended together. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you ask, he will be super vague. This is a clear sign of lack of commitment by your man, and things can only get worse from there.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-No-communication\"><\/span><b>7. No communication<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A man who is no longer invested in a relationship will avoid talking to you unless it is necessary. Even when you attempt to start a conversation, like about how his day went he will give you a one-word answer.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bear in mind that a man who is not thinking about a future with you not only won&rsquo;t talk about the big things in his, life but also the little ones.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-The-final-hint\"><\/span><b>8. The final hint<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriages are tough, and they are never perfect. However, life is too short to cling to a relationship whose direction you are not sure. It is unfortunate that your man has said things that indicate that he is on his way out, and yet you have decided that until he spells it out loud and clear, there is still a chance.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Putting it all on a guy who is unable to muster the courage to spell it out is avoidance of responsibility.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is your job as the person in charge of your own life to listen and act upon the hints your man gives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listening keenly to the feedback in your relationship helps you to stop selling yourself short. Remember, the change of language by your man clearly gives you a heads up about where he really is. Trust the hint; trust your judgment.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Does your marriage feel fragile, all of a sudden? Maybe your husband Is not interested in talking to you anymore Seems like he is intentionally looking to get angry at you over the smallest things Has he been clamming up and a conversation with him nowadays feels forced? Maybe you feel as if you have to fish for conversation topics or like you need to interrogate him just so that you can get the information that you need. And you don&rsquo;t feel listened to. You have been mulling this over&hellip; And one thing is clear, something is just not right. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":742,"featured_media":58294,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2606],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58293"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/742"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=58293"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58293\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/58294"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=58293"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=58293"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=58293"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}