

{"id":58277,"date":"2019-06-04T05:19:53","date_gmt":"2019-06-04T05:19:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/erectile-dysfunction\/"},"modified":"2023-05-17T12:59:55","modified_gmt":"2023-05-17T12:59:55","slug":"erectile-dysfunction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/erectile-dysfunction\/","title":{"rendered":"Erectile Dysfunction: Meaning, Affects and How to Deal"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-13012 size-full\" title=\"How Does Erectile Dysfunction Affect Couples?\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/How-Does-Erectile-Dysfunction-Affect-Married-Couples-1605864602.jpg\" alt=\"How Does Erectile Dysfunction Affect Couples?\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Erectile Dysfunction can be a devastating condition for a man to face, but it can also be equally as difficult for the woman to cope with.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The loss of intimacy that comes from not being able to have intercourse can be detrimental to even the healthiest of marriages. However, it is important to first determine the cause behind ED before trying to handle the emotional side of things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Erectile Dysfunction, ED, is a lot more common than many people think. It is not always a permanent condition and there are many factors that can be the cause of impotence. The first thing that needs to be done is to see your GP to discuss what may be causing ED as there could be some underlying health issue that needs addressing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The fact is that Erectile Dysfunction affects the whole of the UK, with over 4 million men suffering from ED. The chart on erectile dysfunction shows just how widespread the condition is.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The graphic shows that the percentage of men suffering from ED is greatest in London and The North of England. This chart only shows the men who are actively seeking treatment. There is no way of knowing how many more are not yet seeking help because of embarrassment or fear.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-Erectile-Dysfunction\"><\/span><b>What is Erectile Dysfunction?&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a condition characterized by difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection firm enough for sexual intercourse. It can be caused by physical factors such as obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, or nerve damage, as well as psychological factors such as anxiety, depression, or stress.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Age can also be a factor, as the risk of ED increases as men get older. Treatments for ED include medications, such as Viagra or Cialis, lifestyle changes, such as exercise and weight loss, or psychological counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-causes-erectile-dysfunction\"><\/span><b>What causes erectile dysfunction?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many factors that can be the cause of Erectile Dysfunction. The thing to remember as a couple is that it is not a time to blame. Erectile Dysfunction has nothing to do with how attractive your husband finds you, it is not about his desire for sex with you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although this can often be the underlying fear of any wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lifestyle choices can play a large part in the cause of Erectile Dysfunction. Being overweight, a heavy smoker, a heavy drinker, or even stress can lead to ED.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever the cause, it is always best to talk to your doctor about ways to improve your mental and physical health to help with the symptoms of ED.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may also suffer from ED if you have received an injury to your private part, contracted an STI, or have an underlying medical condition that effects the flow of blood to your private parts, such as Diabetes and heart disease.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is why we recommend that you seek medical advice. If you have an undiagnosed condition, you may be putting more than your sex life at risk.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-psychological-effects-of-erectile-dysfunction\"><\/span><b>What are the psychological effects of erectile dysfunction?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be a very difficult subject to approach in any marriage, even an emotionally strong one. Often there is resentment and fear on both sides. Not knowing why this is happening is often the worst part for the man because he will start to feel inadequate in some way and may lash out as a result.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some men feel so low within themselves that they blame their wives for the lack of &lsquo;motivation&rsquo; to get an erection. It seems easier in some ways to make it someone else&rsquo;s fault.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, this then leads to feelings of resentment on both sides and before you know it, a once-<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/six-marriage-health-indicators\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be on the rocks.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting a diagnosis will not only give you peace of mind as to what is causing the ED and treatment options, but it is also often the catalyst that begins the discussion between husband and wife.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you have your diagnosis, your doctor will go through the treatment options with you. This may involve a long-term plan of change of diet and lifestyle. Your doctor may encourage you to eat more healthily, get fit, and quit smoking and drinking to get your underlying condition under control.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may need to change the medication you are currently taking, which will involve a period of adjustment. The other treatment you will probably be offered, provided your health is not going to be negatively impacted, is a prescription of something such as Viagra.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever your treatment options are, it is advisable to discuss this with your spouse. Even with a treatment such as Viagra, you may not be able to achieve an erection instantly, and it is good to confront the issue together to help you both understand the process.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-does-erectile-dysfunction-affect-couples\"><\/span><b>How does erectile dysfunction affect couples?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Erectile dysfunction (ED) can have a significant impact on both partners in a relationship. Here are three ways in which ED can affect couples:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Emotional distress<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ED in a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/dos-and-donts-of-new-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">new relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can cause significant emotional distress for both partners. Men may feel embarrassed or ashamed of their impotence in marriage and an<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">inability to achieve an erection, leading to anxiety, depression, and low <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-esteem-makes-successful-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They may also feel inadequate as a partner and worry about their ability to satisfy their partner sexually.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Women may feel neglected or unimportant, leading to feelings of frustration, anger, or resentment. Both partners may experience a loss of intimacy and connection, leading to feelings of isolation and loneliness.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotionally-broken-man\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Signs of an Emotionally Broken Man<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This video talks about mental health being when the partner is going through the problem:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Yl0hTOwDrnw\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Relationship problems<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ED can cause <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship problems<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as well. Couples may become less communicative and less affectionate, leading to a breakdown in the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may also start to avoid sex altogether, leading to a loss of intimacy and closeness. Couples may also start to argue or fight more often, leading to further distance between them. If left untreated, ED can even lead to the breakdown of the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/need-advice-on-family-problems\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4 Signs of Family Problems &amp; How to Resolve Them<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Sexual dysfunction in women<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ED can also cause sexual dysfunction in women. Women may feel less sexual desire or have difficulty achieving orgasm if their partner is unable to maintain an erection. They may also feel anxious or worried about their partner&rsquo;s ability to perform sexually, leading to further sexual dysfunction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can create a negative cycle, where the woman&rsquo;s sexual dysfunction further exacerbates the man&rsquo;s ED.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-to-do-when-erectile-dysfunction-hits-your-marriage\"><\/span><b>What to do when erectile dysfunction hits your marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The feelings that you have surrounding ED are all valid. You both may feel disappointed, frustrated, or inadequate. It is perfectly normal to have these feelings and to understand that this may have an impact on your self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For the man in the relationship, those feelings are often coupled with guilt, shame and feeling emasculated. This is the time to talk to your wife about how you feel, you may be surprised to learn that she is experiencing very similar feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recognizing that there is a problem is the first step to dealing with it. You may find going to a licensed therapist is the best way to get all those feelings out in the open and to work through them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how to deal with erectile dysfunction in a relationship? Your wife may be feeling that you are no longer interested in her, that she is somehow to blame. It is important to recognize that the feelings of disappointment and frustration are on both sides, if for different reasons.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Take the pressure off<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These negative feelings may well be making coping with erectile dysfunction worse. Stress can affect ED and it can become a perpetuating cycle of issues. If you put too much pressure on the outcome of a sexual encounter, you may be setting yourself up to fail.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this is the case then it is time to take a step back. Start to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/rebuilding-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re-build your relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> together. Enjoy touch and physical connections without the expectation of sex. Go back to basics, holding hands, cuddles and kisses are all you need to start to build on that feeling of closeness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take time to re-discover one another. Spend time doing things that you enjoy doing together and be as tactile as possible.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you have re-connected on an emotional level, re-discovered the sensation of the physical connection, you will begin to relax and with the help of medications such as Sildenafil and Viagra your confidence will begin to grow and you may begin enjoying a full sex life once again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, be realistic with your expectations. The first time you have sex after a period of impotence may not set the world alight. Of course, it may be mind-blowing, but it is important to maintain that sense of humour around your sex life. After all, sex should be fun and enjoyable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try not to focus on the end result. Enjoy exploring one another and working your way back to giving pleasure once your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-important-is-an-emotional-connection-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is reestablished.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Helpful hints<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you feel ready to try and have intercourse, make sure you allow yourself time. Turn off phones, make sure pets and kids are safely tucked away in bed and out of the way. You don&rsquo;t want to risk interruptions at this stage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give yourself permission to be spontaneous, go with what feels right in the moment. Try not to focus on the end result, an orgasm is great, but the journey of exploring one another is where the real connection happens.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be gentle and kind to yourselves. Approach one another with love and sensuality, you don&rsquo;t need to be a full on sex kitten first time or start swinging from the lampshade.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are taking medication to help, remember that it may not work the first time around. You may need to go back to your doctor and increase the dosage. This is perfectly normal, try not to become disheartened and grumpy, it can be easily adjusted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relax, if you don&rsquo;t feel aroused right away, that&rsquo;s ok. Enjoy exploring one another, maybe bring in some additional help such as sex toys, lubricants or even watching a sexy movie together. Try things and have fun, don&rsquo;t take it too seriously, sex should be fun.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-13013 size-full\" title=\"What to do when erectile dysfunction hits your marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/What-to-do-when-erectile-dysfunction-hits-your-marriage-1605864603.jpg\" alt=\"What to do when erectile dysfunction hits your marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Feelings of depression<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Erectile dysfunction (ED) can have a significant impact on couples, causing emotional distress, relationship problems, and a decrease in intimacy. ED can lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration for the person with the condition, as well as for their partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can result in a decrease in sexual desire and frequency, and may even lead to avoidance of sexual activity altogether. Couples may experience a breakdown in communication and a loss of emotional connection due to the stress and anxiety surrounding ED.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marital counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and seeking treatment and support from a healthcare provider and\/or therapist can help couples address these issues and improve their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s important to remember that ED is a medical condition, and seeking treatment can help improve both physical and emotional symptoms.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can a marriage survive ED?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, a marriage can survive ED with the right treatment and support. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Open communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, seeking medical help, and exploring alternative forms of intimacy can help couples maintain their emotional connection and improve their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Is ED a reason to break up?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, ED alone is not a reason to break up. It is a common condition that can be caused by various physical and psychological factors. Seeking treatment and support can help couples overcome this challenge and strengthen their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may wonder, &ldquo;How can i help my partner with erectile dysfunction?&rdquo; Finally, make time for each other, there is more to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">successful marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> than an active sex life. Do things together as a couple. Go on dates, enrol in classes together or just enjoy walks in the countryside.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever you do to re-establish that emotional connection will only strengthen the results in the bedroom when you both feel ready to try again.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Erectile Dysfunction can be a devastating condition for a man to face, but it can also be equally as difficult for the woman to cope with.&nbsp; The loss of intimacy that comes from not being able to have intercourse can be detrimental to even the healthiest of marriages. However, it is important to first determine the cause behind ED before trying to handle the emotional side of things. Erectile Dysfunction, ED, is a lot more common than many people think. It is not always a permanent condition and there are many factors that can be the cause of impotence. 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