

{"id":58192,"date":"2020-03-23T06:24:05","date_gmt":"2020-03-23T06:24:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/why-you-should-invest-in-emotional-intimacy\/"},"modified":"2025-07-01T19:48:28","modified_gmt":"2025-07-01T19:48:28","slug":"why-you-should-invest-in-emotional-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/why-you-should-invest-in-emotional-intimacy\/","title":{"rendered":"How You Should Invest in Emotional Intimacy: 6 Expert Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-16287 size-full\" title=\"Why You Should Invest in Emotional Intimacy for a Healthy Relationship?\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/why-you-should-invest-in-emotional-intimacy-for-a-healthy-relationship-1605853369.jpg\" alt=\"Couple In Love, Profile Silhouettes Close To Each Other, Beautiful Sunset In Window At Background\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we hear the word intimacy, our minds often direct us to physical intimacy and rarely to emotional intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But ask yourself if that&rsquo;s all that is important in a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Is it? Are you satisfied with that kind of relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In my opinion, just physical intimacy does not account for a happy relationship. Yes, it is a big part of a relationship, but still just a component.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is emotional intimacy important in a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being emotionally invested in a relationship is what completes it. They both, together with some love and affection, embrace the whole relationship<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let us think through<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Emotional_intimacy\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> importance of emotional intimacy in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-you-signify-emotional-intimacy\"><\/span>How do you signify emotional intimacy?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to Dr. Wyatt Fisher, &ldquo;Emotional intimacy is a sense of closeness developed with another person over time.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What I think about emotional closeness is that it&rsquo;s a connection- a connection of two souls and a union of communication and understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b style=\"font-size: calc(var(--rem) * 1px * 1.0625); letter-spacing: 0px;\">It can be characterized as a mutual responsibility and shared trust<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In simple words, emotional closeness goes way beyond the bounds of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/ways-to-have-a-healthy-sexual-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/YrrIVqKxTdE?si=2KrOR-suHfhjxeee\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><br>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-the-essence-of-emotional-intimacy-in-a-relationship\"><\/span>What is the essence of emotional intimacy in a relationship?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional intimacy acts like glue in a relationship. It keeps a couple together even when they start to drift apart.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional connection encompasses love, trust, affection, respect, romance, and spirituality. A lack of emotional closeness results in poor communication and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-resolve-trust-issues-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">trust issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone desires a different level of intimacy based on their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/negative-experiences-of-the-past-can-affect-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">past relationship experience<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and upbringing. Therefore, there is no thumb rule of what&rsquo;s enough.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some prefer fewer emotions, and others desire more in a relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But yes, there still is a limit. If you cross that limit, it can ruin the bond between two people in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be a little difficult to understand how to maintain your emotional status with your partner. It cannot exceed nor lag the level of understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you often wonder how to connect emotionally or how to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/build-an-emotional-connection-with-a-woman\/\">build an emotional connection<\/a> with your partner?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As much as we yearn for emotional intimacy, many of us often wonder how to develop emotional intimacy. We are never taught how to engross it into a relationship or think about relationship investment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The good news is, it isn&rsquo;t that difficult to cultivate. Here is some essential piece of advice on how you can develop emotional intimacy in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Share-both-your-head-and-heart\"><\/span>1. Share both your head and heart<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-16289 size-full\" title=\"How to develop emotional intimacy?\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/how-to-develop-emotional-intimacy-1605853370.jpg\" alt=\"Bride And Groom Before A Kiss\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Head and heart both play an important role in a relationship. The heart signifies your feelings, and the head implies your thoughts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are feeling happy, share it, and the same goes when you are feeling sad, angry, and irritated or whatsoever you feel. <\/span><b>In simple words, <\/b><b>speak out your feelings to your partner<\/b><b>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/understand-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will help your partner understand you<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They will get to know what makes you happy and what makes you sad. They will then know what to expect from you in certain situations.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Be-respectful-and-trust-the-bond-of-love\"><\/span><b>2. Be respectful and trust the bond of love<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The indispensables of any emotional closeness in a relationship are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.loveisrespect.org\/everyone-deserves-a-healthy-relationship\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">respect and trust<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Both have to be earned, and both these factors are equally necessary for both the partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Trust,&rdquo; although it is a small word, if you consider the characters, it is a big word when it comes to its meaning.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trust is never alone; it<\/span><b> always consists of those small fractions of responsibility, care, and liability<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is the most significant measure of any relationship. If you trust your partner with your life, you trust your life with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/cms.nortia.org\/Org\/Org134\/Groups\/Resource%20Centre\/Diamond%20Resources\/comp10_TrustInRelationships.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">trust always develops with time<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Therefore, you and your partners should try to boost the level of faith constantly for building <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/benefits-and-the-role-of-emotional-intimacy\/\">emotional intimacy<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, trust develops only if both of you are willing to improve it. You both need that shoulder to cry when the times are tough and a smile to share when you are happy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Share-your-secrets\"><\/span><b>3. Share your secrets<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is sharing your secrets important? You might have heard of the term &ldquo;secret keeper.&rdquo; That&rsquo;s what you are supposed to expect from a relationship if you tell them your secret. They have to keep it safe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moreover, this also shows <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/how-much-do-you-trust-your-spouse\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how much you trust your partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><b>If you trust them with your secret, then your bond is quite strong.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will always help you strengthen your bond as your partner will be the one to know most about you. This will make them feel special and, in turn, boost emotional closeness in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Accept-all-of-each-other\"><\/span><b>4. Accept all of each other<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one is perfect; everyone has some flaws. The only difference is some have visible flaws, and some have flaws that are invisible. Judging a person by how they look is the biggest flaw a person can have.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are in a relationship, size, height, color, religion, and intelligence doesn&rsquo;t matter; what matters is if you are willing to accept them with all those flaws.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one has to change themselves to be liked by someone. That person does not deserve you if you can&rsquo;t be yourself in front of them. <\/span><b>In order to feel secured, you both need to accept each other unconditionally.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not easy to let your guard down in front of someone, so make your partner feel safe with you, make them feel valued and loved.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Be-supportive\"><\/span><b>5. Be supportive<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-17935 size-full\" title=\"Be supportive\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Be-supportive-1605853370.jpg\" alt=\"Be supportive\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Life is full of happiness and sadness. When I say that you have to be supportive, <\/span><b>that applies to hard times and happy times<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just remember that everyone needs someone special. Be that &lsquo;someone special&rsquo; for your partner!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Feel-blissful-even-with-little-things\"><\/span><b>6. Feel blissful even with little things<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Grand gestures are amazing, I know. Everyone expects their partner to do something big and wonderful for them. <\/span><b>But remember to be happy even with small things.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t anticipate your partner to get you a fancy dinner every Valentine&rsquo;s Day. Be happy even when they order in your favorite food.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To improve the level of romance, just slip into a pair of matching pajamas and enjoy your food with your favorite Hallmark movie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, watch this video for more tips to find happiness in your marriage :<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/zhHRz9dEQD8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>Chunk of advice<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding someone special isn&rsquo;t about swiping left or right until you lurch upon it. It is a natural process.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building a relationship<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with someone takes time. More when it comes to the emotional bond. But, it surely is the most rewarding aspect of life and one hundred percent worth the effort.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When we hear the word intimacy, our minds often direct us to physical intimacy and rarely to emotional intimacy. But ask yourself if that&rsquo;s all that is important in a relationship. Is it? Are you satisfied with that kind of relationship? In my opinion, just physical intimacy does not account for a happy relationship. Yes, it is a big part of a relationship, but still just a component. Why is emotional intimacy important in a relationship? Being emotionally invested in a relationship is what completes it. They both, together with some love and affection, embrace the whole relationship. 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