

{"id":58182,"date":"2020-05-27T08:01:44","date_gmt":"2020-05-27T08:01:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/challenges-faced-by-inter-ethnic-marriages\/"},"modified":"2026-03-13T11:21:51","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T11:21:51","slug":"challenges-faced-by-inter-ethnic-marriages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/challenges-faced-by-inter-ethnic-marriages\/","title":{"rendered":"Unique Challenges Faced by Inter-Ethnic Marriages"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-17053\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/unique-challenges-faced-by-inter-ethnic-marriages-1605853232.jpg\" alt=\"Bride And Groom Embrace And Looking At Each Other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can partners with profound differences in their ancestry and cultural backgrounds still marry successfully? Won&rsquo;t love find a way in the end?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In theory, yes, but in practice, it&rsquo;s rarely so simple as that in inter-ethnic relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep reading to understand some of the unique and persistent challenges that many mixed couples and cross-cultural marriage face in achieving lasting happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-growth-of-intercultural-marriage\"><\/span>The growth of intercultural marriage<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unquestionably, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.census.gov\/library\/stories\/2018\/07\/interracial-marriages.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">inter-ethnic marriages are growing in number<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Currently, about 1 in 6 (or 17%) of all marriages feature spouses with different cultural backgrounds.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s up from just 3% in 1967 and 7% in 1980. In fact, since 1990, the inter-ethnic marriage rate has more or less doubled.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s surely a positive sign of greater tolerance and diversity in our culture. Old barriers are starting to come down, albeit slowly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are various factors in play that contribute towards the growth in mixed marriages in America. One is sheer demographics.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>America is becoming increasingly multicultural,<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> especially with a dramatic increase in foreign immigration since 1990.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The foreign-born share of the US population stands at 14%, its highest level since the 1900s.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That means the pool of available spouses from non-White groups, especially Hispanics and Asians, has increased dramatically, affording new opportunities for inter-ethnic marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another factor, possibly related, is the explosion of <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dating and marriage sites<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that allow people from all over the world to get to know each other and eventually to marry, even if they were born and still live in different counties.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A third factor is the weight of public opinion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Public support for inter-racial marriage has increased sharply, <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">especially over the past decade. This is especially true of Black-White intermarriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As late as 1990, nearly two thirds 63% of non-Blacks opposed the idea of these couplings. Today, that figure is down to 14%, but it is still higher than non-Black opposition to White marriages with Asians and Hispanics (9% in each case).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sadly, opposition to Black-White pairings, a legacy of America&rsquo;s long and painful history with slavery, perhaps, endures.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sharp-variation-in-Inter-ethnic-marriage-rates\"><\/span>Sharp variation in Inter-ethnic marriage rates<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-17054\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/sharp-variation-in-Inter-ethnic-marriage-rates-1605853232.jpg\" alt=\"Outdoor Portrait Of Romantic And Happy Mixed Race Young Couple In Park\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s worth noting that some inter-ethnic pairings are significantly more common than others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common, by far, is one between a White man or woman and a Hispanic spouse. About 42% of Hispanics, men, and women marry a White spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next most common is a marriage between a White man or woman and an Asian spouse (15%).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, the nativity is also a key factor. <\/span><b>Foreign-born Hispanics and Asians are far less likely to marry across ethnic lines than their more assimilated native-born counterparts.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The discrepancy is stark. Only 15 % of foreign-born Hispanics married across ethnic lines. Three times as many native-born Hispanics did.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Varying-marital-survival-rates\"><\/span>Varying marital survival rates<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Despite the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/lifeandstyle\/2018\/feb\/21\/whats-behind-the-rise-of-interracial-marriage-in-the-us\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">growth in inter-ethnic marriages<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, there are vast discrepancies in their survival rates.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Overall,<\/span><b> inter-ethnic marriages fail at a higher rate than same-ethnic marriages.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The rate of marital success for Whites and Hispanics and Whites and Asians are relatively high, approaching the national average. By contrast, Black-White marriages are far less successful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gender turns out to be a key factor in inter-ethnic marriage success.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriages between non-White men and White women, especially in the case of Black and Asian men, have relatively high failure rates. The success rate for Black male-White female marriages, just 25%, is the lowest of any inter-ethnic pairing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By contrast, marriages between White men and non-White women tend to be highly successful. Some studies show that White male-Black female marriages are even more successful than marriages among Whites alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Also watch:<br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uKkpEcrwV94\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Reason-for-the-success-and-failure\"><\/span>Reason for the success and failure<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-17055\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/reason-for-the-success-and-failure-1605853233.jpg\" alt=\"Young Couple In Quarrel At Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While the numbers are hard to deny, explaining divergences in marital success rates can be challenging and fraught with peril.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do these marriages often fail because of the cultural differences in marriage or ethnic tensions inside the partnership or opposition from friends and family add to the couple&rsquo;s burden? What about age, education, and income factors?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>One <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jstor.org\/stable\/20430893?seq=1\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>study<\/b><\/a><b> found that inter-ethnic partners, as a rule, shared fewer core values than did partners of the same ethnic background.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another factor was the lack of support for their marriage from parents and relatives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once the lure of romance tended to weaken, these couples could find <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-common-problems-in-married-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">common marriage issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> becoming especially sharp, owing to underlying differences in their backgrounds and life perspectives as well as disapproval from family members.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When trouble strikes, some inter-ethnic couples may fall back on their underlying ethnic differences to explain their difficulties, whether these differences are truly relevant or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And parents, instead of helping the troubled <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/resolve-conflict-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">couple resolve its differences<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, might counsel divorce, seeing their children&rsquo;s marital problems as confirmation of their own cultural bias.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Interestingly, while income and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/money-issues-that-can-destroy-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">finances are often cited as a major source of disruption of marriages<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> generally, they do not appear to play a major role in the dissolution of inter-ethnic marriages.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, education level, which is sometimes linked to income, may well be a factor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Overall, those with higher education are more likely to pursue an inter-ethnic marriage, and those marriages are also more likely to be successful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Age may well be another critical factor in inter-ethnic marital success, as it is with couples generally.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Inter-ethnic marriages among older couples are more likely to survive, regardless of the specific ethnic and gender pairings involved. Younger inter-ethnic couples are far more prone to divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dealing-with-race-and-ethnicity-openly\"><\/span>Dealing with race and ethnicity openly<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many of the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">factors that go into marital success<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are the same for all married couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Partners should be emotionally mature and stable. They should know themselves well and be willing to learn from each other. This means they should be aware of and sensitive to cultural differences.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Happy inter ethic partners know the culture of their spouse intimately;<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in many cases, they have experienced it through travel and participation in cultural rituals. They may even consider themselves bi-cultural.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Awareness of racial and ethnic bias in the society at large, and even among friends and family members is another requirement for success.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Happy inter-ethnic couples do not shy away from issues of prejudice but have strategies to address it when it arises. Vestiges of prejudice, many of them unconscious, may arise in their own interactions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Above all, inter-ethnic couples should take time to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/things-to-know-about-each-other-before-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">get to know each other well before marrying<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fantasy and projection plays a role in all romances but can be especially strong in inter-ethnic pairings owing to distorted cultural images presented in history books, films, and the media.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Couples need to be clear that they are not operating on deeply-ingrained but distorted ideas about who their prospective spouse is.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reaching across cultural differences to find a loving, long-term partnership is an exciting challenge, and for those that succeed, a most rewarding one.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Can partners with profound differences in their ancestry and cultural backgrounds still marry successfully? Won&rsquo;t love find a way in the end? In theory, yes, but in practice, it&rsquo;s rarely so simple as that in inter-ethnic relationships. Keep reading to understand some of the unique and persistent challenges that many mixed couples and cross-cultural marriage face in achieving lasting happiness. The growth of intercultural marriage Unquestionably, inter-ethnic marriages are growing in number. Currently, about 1 in 6 (or 17%) of all marriages feature spouses with different cultural backgrounds. That&rsquo;s up from just 3% in 1967 and 7% in 1980. 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