{"id":58063,"date":"2020-01-13T05:43:14","date_gmt":"2020-01-13T05:43:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/things-you-learn-in-the-first-year-of-marriage\/"},"modified":"2023-02-18T11:01:30","modified_gmt":"2023-02-18T11:01:30","slug":"things-you-learn-in-the-first-year-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/things-you-learn-in-the-first-year-of-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"12 Things We Only Discover in the First Year of Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-15498 size-full\" title=\"12 Things We Only Discover in the First Year of Marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/12-Things-We-Only-Discover-in-the-First-Year-of-Marriage-1605789995.jpg\" alt=\"12 Things We Only Discover in the First Year of Marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No doubt it&rsquo;s a very special year in the couple&rsquo;s life, after all the planning, it&rsquo;s time to enjoy life for two. But no matter how long couples have been together, some things will only be discovered in the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/manage-anxiety-in-the-first-year-of-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">first year of marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Want to know <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/first-year-of-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what happens in the first year of marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and the things you learn in the first year of marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if the couple has been dating for years, many habits or fads will only surface when they live under one roof. <\/span><b>The routine of everyday life will be different<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from the weekend trips of the dating phase, and some customs can be noticed only when they begin to live together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many couples already live together before deciding to marry, already know each other enough. But many go through the period of adaptation together, and that requires patience, respect, and a lot of dialogue.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They have had a great deal of experience when planning wedding decoration spending or dealing with divergences in defining how wedding invitations would look.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, besides carrying a bouquet from time to time for the wife, or to prepare the favorite dish for the husband, they <\/span><b>might have to make adjustments<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when they realize certain things in this first year of marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are 12 things you learn after your marriage that might help you in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-for-adjusting-to-the-first-year-of-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">adjusting to married life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/LpDyb7C0Z48\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Both-must-choose-the-decor-of-the-house\"><\/span>1. Both must choose the decor of the house<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As much as one of you has been right with choosing the blue decoration at the wedding; it does not mean that you should direct the decor yourself. Both need to put their energy into the soul of the house to have their face.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Manage-money-together\"><\/span>2. Manage money together<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you did not have to account for your salary before, <\/span><b>you now have to prioritize household bills. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The personal expenses are important but will stay in the background. You may not be able to buy an imported party dress every time you receive an invitation as you used to.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Cleaning-is-part-of-everyday-life\"><\/span>3. Cleaning is part of everyday life<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After opening all the presents and organizing the new home comes the least exciting part: cleaning the house.<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/are-you-negotiating-chores-with-your-spouse\"><b>How will you divide the tasks?<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless of whether you do not like to wash the dishes or are disgusted with cleaning the toilet, you need to learn how to manage the house.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Sharing-the-bathroom\"><\/span>4. Sharing the bathroom<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re used to taking hours to do makeup and straighten your hair, keep in mind that this isn&rsquo;t about testing the best wedding hairstyle in front of the mirror, y<\/span><b>our husband also needs adequate time to use the bathroom.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Learn-to-share-space\"><\/span>5. Learn to share space<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The &ldquo;I adapt&rdquo; game will be a constant at home and in the relationship. You will learn to give in to some of each other&rsquo;s crazes and, over time, will take over and accept some little things that will never change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/254349435_The_Effect_of_the_Marital_Relationship_on_Personal_Space_Orientation_in_Married_Couples\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning to share space<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is fundamental to evolve in the relationship and live a happy marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-A-bigger-bed-is-a-better-bed\"><\/span>6. A bigger bed is a better bed<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-15499 size-full\" title=\"A bigger bed is a better bed\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/A-bigger-bed-is-a-better-bed-1605789995.jpg\" alt=\"A bigger bed is a better bed\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sure, at first, it&rsquo;s all wonderful when you always want to sleep cuddling together, but <\/span><b>over time you both need room to sleep<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and one of you finds that your space is quite limited.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Everyone-needs-time-alone\"><\/span>7. Everyone needs time alone<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/dating\/alone-time-key-lasting-relationship\/1686279\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why should couples have individual alone time?&nbsp;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is not only because you are married and living in the same space that you need to do everything together. Learning to respect each other&rsquo;s space is critical so that you do not lose the dimension of who you are as an individual.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A moment alone to read a book or watch a series that the other doesn&rsquo;t follow, hanging out with friends, is critical and should be viewed in a relaxed and positive way for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-Every-day-will-bring-discoveries\"><\/span>8. Every day will bring discoveries<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One day you find out that your husband doesn&rsquo;t like this dish you love so much, or you find that he scratches his chin when he&rsquo;s very worried! Yes, <\/span><b>every day will be a discovery<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and you will know all its strengths and weaknesses. Attention, he has his eye on you too!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-You-can-always-count-on-each-other\"><\/span>9. You can always count on each other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In both good and bad times, you will find that just one hug will be enough to calm down. You will support each other in everything, learn to live with each other&rsquo;s defeats and victories, and that will <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make the relationship even stronger<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-One-look-will-suffice\"><\/span>10. One look will suffice<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>You may not have understood the moment he looked at you puzzled when you set the square wedding cake, but there will come a time when you won&rsquo;t have to say anything because you already know each other so well you won&rsquo;t have to talk at the moment, just one look will suffice.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11-Now-%E2%80%9CI%E2%80%9D-has-become-%E2%80%9Cwe%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>11. Now &ldquo;I&rdquo; has become &ldquo;we.&rdquo;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This does not mean that personal projects should be forgotten. But for the relationship to work, before making a decision or planning something that can change their lives, they must think about the &ldquo;we.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Openly debating aspirations and listening to what the other has to say is critical to strengthening the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12-Worth-of-the-effort\"><\/span>12. Worth of the effort<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you look back, you will see how much you grew up in that first year of marriage. The effort to have the wedding decoration they wanted so much and all the sacrifice to buy the apartment was well worth it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although it is a period of love and you won&rsquo;t always be sure about what to expect in the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/253373128_Susceptibility_to_Infidelity_in_the_First_Year_of_Marriage\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">first year of marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, just remember that it is a time of total learning to know each other&rsquo;s little details better to make them even happier.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So each time you hear the music of the wedding entrance, <\/span><b>the memory of such joy will be remembered.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And whenever you look at the photos of the first kiss of the married couple or the toast under the wedding cake, you will be sure how you made the right choice. After all, as the old saying goes, &ldquo;only love builds.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>No doubt it&rsquo;s a very special year in the couple&rsquo;s life, after all the planning, it&rsquo;s time to enjoy life for two. But no matter how long couples have been together, some things will only be discovered in the first year of marriage. Want to know what happens in the first year of marriage and the things you learn in the first year of marriage? Even if the couple has been dating for years, many habits or fads will only surface when they live under one roof. 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