{"id":57948,"date":"2019-03-05T12:11:27","date_gmt":"2019-03-05T12:11:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/why-you-need-sexual-bonding\/"},"modified":"2024-12-09T14:41:19","modified_gmt":"2024-12-09T14:41:19","slug":"why-you-need-sexual-bonding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/why-you-need-sexual-bonding\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Tips to Build Sexual Bond with Your Spouse"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Woman<\/p>\n

It’s probably a common perception to believe that our sexual life enhances our married life and sense of intimacy. And it’s also a common assumption that without such a sexual bond, our marriage could be in trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what is sexual bonding really, and how can we build more of it into our lives? Dive into this article to discover this and more.<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading<\/i><\/b>: <\/span><\/i>How to Establish Emotional Connection During Sex: 10 Tips<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>What is sexual bonding?<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
The definition of sexual bonding would be a close bond formed as a result of sexual acts. It doesn’t just <\/span>bring a couple closer together<\/span><\/a> because of the physical intimacy involved but also because of the chemistry that pops off because of the bonding experience. <\/span><\/p>\n
It’s a positive circle. <\/span><\/p>\n
For example, when a couple gets together sexually, this creates a chemical reaction for both parties that <\/span>encourages more sexual bonding<\/span><\/a> and also enhances both partners’ health and well being. <\/span><\/p>\n
The feeling is so good that such chemically bonded couples want to keep on enjoying each other and as a couple continues their bonding. They continue to reap the rewards that sexual bonding brings and become more and more in tune and connected with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n
Sometimes though, life gets in the way, and as a couple settles down into the routine of life, their sex life descends on the priority list. The motivation, benefit, and desire to continue the sexual bonding wanes. <\/span><\/p>\n
In many cases, as the bonding declines, a distance or disconnect begins to form between two lovers, which can be difficult to come back from.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
So what’s the moral of the story?<\/span><\/p>\n
Sexual bonding invigorates a relationship. <\/b><\/p>\n
It keeps you healthy, bonded, and connected with each other and also gives you the opportunity to love and be loved in all expressions of the act.<\/span><\/p>\n
But it needs to be treasured and prioritized. If you can <\/span>treat your sexual bonding as a sacred act,<\/b> it will make it much easier to appreciate, enjoy, maintain and explore. <\/span><\/p>\n
<\/span>Are you sexually bonded to your partner: How to recognize<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
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1. You can’t get enough of them<\/b><\/h3>\n
Even though you won’t actually be addicted to your partner, it might feel that way. Does sex create a bond? Yes, to the extent that your intimacy levels heighten following the act. <\/span><\/p>\n
It spurs you to know more about them and feel like you should be with them more often.<\/span><\/p>\n
2. You might act irrationally around them <\/b><\/h3>\n
Have you heard the phrase ‘drunk on love’? <\/span><\/p>\n
Perhaps you’ve witnessed somebody close to you making crazy decisions or seeming to think or behave irrationally or out of character. That’s part of the chemical bonding that you’ll experience from sexual bonding.<\/span><\/p>\n
3. You adore cuddling with your partner before, during, or after sex<\/b><\/h3>\n
Once again, it’s the chemistry that makes <\/span>cuddling your partner so much more desirable<\/span><\/a>. And when you cuddle, you release <\/span>Oxytocin<\/span><\/a>, a hormone that encourages love and bonding. <\/span><\/p>\n
4. <\/b>You can feel the pain your partner experiences<\/b><\/h3>\n
According to <\/span>studies<\/span><\/a>, we are hardwired to feel another person’s pain. So if you are sexually bonded to your lover, you can feel their pain. <\/span><\/p>\n
5. <\/b>You get transference from your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n
We all get transference from those around us. When it comes to sexual bonding, this means that when your partner is on a high, you’ll be on a high, and vice versa.<\/span><\/p>\n
Good luck for the days when the mood is bad, though! <\/span><\/p>\n
Kissing your partner is the best thing. It does the same kind of thing chemically as cuddling during sex – <\/span>kissing is intoxicating when you are sexually bonded with your partner.<\/b><\/p>\n
<\/span>How to maintain a strong sexual bond in a relationship: 10 tips<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
\"Woman<\/p>\n
Bonding in marriage involves a strong sexual bond in most cases. It takes simple gestures to make your partner feel special and connected. Discover these below:<\/span><\/p>\n
1. Discuss your limitations and boundaries together<\/b><\/h3>\n
When you are open about the things you can’t deal with or struggle to deal with. When you <\/span>lay down your vulnerabilities<\/b> to your partner and <\/span>negotiate boundaries to assist each other<\/b> in feeling supported and respected, the trust builds, conversations flow, some topics may be explored together, and you grow together. <\/span><\/p>\n
All of these situations lead to stronger sexual bonding. <\/span><\/p>\n
Related  Reading:<\/i><\/b> 6 Types of Boundaries in Relationships & How to Maintain Them<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. Touch each other<\/b><\/h3>\n
Non-sexual touching<\/span><\/a> is also very good for increasing the sexual bonding between you. It shows affection, connects your energy, and reminds you to continue to be invested in each other. <\/span><\/p>\n
If you wish to form a strong sex bond with your partner, <\/span>try touching your partner in different ways<\/b> like caressing, scratching, tickling, and more.<\/span><\/p>\n
3. Listen to each other<\/b><\/h3>\n
The same goes for listening. So often, we make the <\/span>mistake of hearing<\/span><\/a> but not listening to the people around us. <\/span><\/p>\n
Which means we forget to listen to those closest to us. When we are not heard, we feel distant and disconnected. That sensation doesn’t equate to a strong sexual bond.<\/span><\/p>\n
To see how this works, check out relationship coach Bruce Muzik’s advice on listening skills for couples:<\/span><\/p>\n