

{"id":57906,"date":"2018-12-14T11:25:40","date_gmt":"2018-12-14T11:25:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/first-two-years-marriage-important\/"},"modified":"2023-06-29T17:44:02","modified_gmt":"2023-06-29T17:44:02","slug":"first-two-years-marriage-important","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/first-two-years-marriage-important\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Are the First Two Years of Marriage so Crucial?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10234 size-full\" title=\"Why Are the First Two Years of Marriage so Important\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Why-Are-the-First-Two-Years-of-Marriage-so-Important-1605701005.jpg\" alt=\"Why Are the First Two Years of Marriage so Important\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first two years of marriage hold immense significance, serving as a crucial foundation for a lifelong partnership.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This period sets the tone for communication, understanding, and shared growth between spouses. It is a time of adjustment, where couples navigate the intricacies of merging lives, expectations, and aspirations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exploring why these initial years matter greatly, this article delves into common obstacles newly-married couples face in their matrimony and offers valuable insights for building a strong and fulfilling journey ahead.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-do-the-first-two-years-of-marriage-mean-for-a-couple\"><\/span><b>What do the first two years of marriage mean for a couple?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>The first two years of marriage mark a transformative period for couples<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, where they embark on a journey of exploration and deepening connection. It is a time of discovery, as partners navigate the intricacies of merging their lives, dreams, and aspirations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During this crucial phase, <\/span><b>couples lay the foundation for communication, trust, and mutual understanding, shaping the dynamics of their relationship for years to come<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It is an opportunity to build a strong and resilient bond, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.behaviortherapist.com\/2019\/05\/09\/5-ways-to-foster-a-happy-and-healthy-marriage\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fostering love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, growth, and shared goals.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-are-the-first-two-years-of-marriage-so-important-in-a-couple%E2%80%99s-life\"><\/span><b>Why are the first two years of marriage so important in a couple&rsquo;s life?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage experiences vary for each individual, and despite the anticipation of pure happiness, <\/span><b>the initial two years often encompass both joys and challenges. This period serves as a valuable learning curve<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, allowing couples to navigate their new life and roles.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Through managing finances, dividing chores, embracing differences, resolving conflicts, setting boundaries, and managing expectations, spouses gain profound insights about themselves and each other. <\/span><b>The first two years become a significant opportunity for growth and understanding within the marital journey.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-common-problems-married-couples-face-at-the-beginning-of-their-marriage\"><\/span><b>10 common problems married couples face at the beginning of their marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As much as no one likes to admit it, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.markmerrill.com\/dealing-with-disappointment-in-marriage\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disappointments<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> always surface in marriages especially in the early phase when you get to discover things about your partner you didn&rsquo;t know beforehand. What matters isn&rsquo;t the problems but how you react.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most common of these problems include<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Money<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a common problem couples face. Money issues can range from who makes more income, how the incomes are spent, what to buy, when and where, loose spending, and thrifty spending.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All these appear minimal but when both parties have very differing opinions about money issues, it could be a cause for worry.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Sex<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is marriage, not some high school play. You might have had some wild sexual adventures with your partner or others<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-preparation\/important-elements-of-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">before getting married<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This is not likely to be the same after marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The pressure of work and life itself might not leave a chance for such sexual adventures.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might as well be that the partner is not as good in bed as the other expects. This poses a major problem in a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Family planning<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is common with both women and men. It&rsquo;s probably best if you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.themedicalcity.com\/news\/family-planning-basic-human-right\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">plan your family<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> before kick-starting the marriage. If this is not well planned, it might become an issue if there&rsquo;s a baby too soon or no baby at all after certain years of marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It becomes a serious problem if one partner is ready and the other isn&rsquo;t.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-10235 size-full\" title=\"Common problems married couples face at the beginning\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Common-problems-married-couples-face-at-the-beginning-1605701005.jpg\" alt=\"Common problems married couples face at the beginning\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Resolving disputes<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a very important part of any marriage, especially a new one. How you resolve your disputes in the early days\/years of your marriage goes a long way in determining<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/readiness\/married-life-predictions-that-tell-if-your-marriage-will-last\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how long the marriage will last<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If having a conflict results in physical or emotional abuse, that&rsquo;s a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/red-flags-to-take-immediate-note-of\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">red flag in any relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first two years of a marriage are usually the formative years. You can decide how you choose to end your disputes.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They&rsquo;ll come intermittently but you must be able to sit down and talk things out afterward. Your ability to handle disputes amicably as a couple is a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/5-traits-of-a-long-lasting-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sign of a long-lasting marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Adjusting to new roles<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Each partner brings their own expectations and assumptions about marital roles. Adjusting to shared responsibilities and finding a balance can be overwhelming.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Intimacy challenges<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The initial phase of marriage may bring changes in intimacy levels. Adjusting to physical and emotional intimacy can require open communication, patience, and understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Family interference<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Interactions with in-laws and extended family members can create stress and strain on the relationship. Boundaries need to be established and maintained to avoid conflicts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Expectations with the in-laws can go completely opposite if their interference starts creating a rift in your marriage<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Balancing personal space and togetherness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Adjusting to a shared living space while maintaining individuality and personal space can be challenging. Finding a healthy balance is crucial for a harmonious relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s why giving your partner space is important for a relationship:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br><\/span><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/maX4JY1yb6I\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Differences in expectations<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unrealistic expectations about marriage and each other can lead to disappointment and frustration. Openly discussing and aligning expectations is vital for a fulfilling partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Dealing with stress<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The pressures of daily life, work, and external stressors can take a toll on a marriage. Learning to cope with stress together and supporting each other is essential for maintaining a strong bond.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stress is already hard to deal with and when you have additional sources adding to it, it can be a lot to manage<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-keep-the-marriage-going\"><\/span><b>How to keep the marriage going<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We have discussed how to survive the first two years of marriage but what about years after that? Things can still be a lot difficult after two years of marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not an easy thing to keep the love for one person over a long time. You can get bored as soon as you get used to the person. It becomes very pertinent to take deliberate actions to keep the love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Take each other out on a date, you can go to the movies, just try something outside the normal daily routine.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure you create time when you can be together alone. Wake up to each other&rsquo;s kisses. Bring each other breakfast on the bed. This works more when the man does it. A break from the normal daily routine helps to keep the fire burning.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Common-questions\"><\/span><b>Common questions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still curious about the common challenges faced in the first two years of marriage? This section addresses some frequently asked questions surrounding the hurdles couples encounter during this transformative phase.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Are the first two years of marriage the hardest?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&rsquo;s no data to prove that the first two years of marriage are the hardest by rule.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, the first two years of marriage can be challenging, as couples navigate the adjustments and complexities of merging lives. However, every marriage is unique, and difficulties can vary in intensity and duration.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seeking guidance from relationship experts or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can provide valuable support and guidance during this transformative period.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How many marriages fail in the first two years?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it is difficult to provide an exact figure, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/ourworldindata.org\/marriages-and-divorces\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> suggests that the divorce rate during the first two years of marriage is relatively higher compared to later years, although specific data may vary across different studies and regions.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Building-the-base-of-a-strong-marriage\"><\/span><b>Building the base of a strong marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The bedrock of any long-lasting relationship is love, trust, and commitment. One isn&rsquo;t enough, these three factors work together for the best of any relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No feeling is as sweet as having a good and trusting relationship with your spouse. Therefore, you should start nurturing your marriage right from the early years.&nbsp; <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The first two years of marriage hold immense significance, serving as a crucial foundation for a lifelong partnership.&nbsp; This period sets the tone for communication, understanding, and shared growth between spouses. It is a time of adjustment, where couples navigate the intricacies of merging lives, expectations, and aspirations.&nbsp; Exploring why these initial years matter greatly, this article delves into common obstacles newly-married couples face in their matrimony and offers valuable insights for building a strong and fulfilling journey ahead. 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