

{"id":56475,"date":"2020-10-23T05:11:21","date_gmt":"2020-10-23T05:11:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=56475"},"modified":"2023-02-04T06:50:45","modified_gmt":"2023-02-04T06:50:45","slug":"marriage-and-relationship-goals","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/marriage-and-relationship-goals\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Basic Fundamental Marriage and Relationship Goals"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56478\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/basic-fundamental-marriage-and-relationship-goals.jpg\" alt=\"Middle-aged Couple On Beach Sitting Together And Smiling Happy Love Couple On Holiday\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Happy relationships do not just happen because of some magical &ldquo;fairy dust&rdquo; that appears on the day you decide to commit to each other. The truth is that a happy relationship requires some effort to build and maintain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/realistic-relationship-goals\/\">realistic relationship goals<\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to help marriage and relationships survive challenges that are part of our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The article highlights 6 powerful goals for your marriage that can help you both live a better, more loving relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Don%E2%80%99t-fall-into-a-routine-rut\"><\/span>1. Don&rsquo;t fall into a routine rut<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sharing rituals, such as lazing in bed on a Sunday morning or eating at a favorite restaurant, are great things to do, but once they become too comfortable, they can feel dull and put a strain on the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One relationship goal every married couple should have is to break routines regularly, because trying out new things creates <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\">happiness in the relationship<\/a>, with emotions close to those we had when we fell in love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The<\/span><b> marriage and relationship goal<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is to create a list of new places and activities that you would like to experience together and try and do one of these each week.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Show-gratitude\"><\/span>2. Show gratitude<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is often the case that once a couple is married, that certain roles are assumed to be the responsibility of one partner. This is a mistake because acknowledging and thanking our loved ones each day for their help makes relationships much happier.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eternityrose.ca\/anniversary-gifts-by-year\" rel=\"sponsored\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anniversary gifts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are a perfect way to show your gratitude to them for being by your side for the last year as you look forward to another year together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the healthy relationship goals for couples is to write a gratitude journal, listing one time in the day that you were grateful to your partner. It will have a powerful effect on your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Laughter-is-the-best-medicine\"><\/span>3. Laughter is the best medicine<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56479\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Couple Laughing Out Loud\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\">health, and a happy relationship<\/a>, laughter restores positive emotional energy and a sense of connection between the two of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This doesn&rsquo;t mean that you have to go to a comedy open mic night at your local pub, though if there is one close by, it might be fun.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But it does mean that you have to learn to be less rigid to find humor in the small things, when perhaps when you thought an exhibition about fans would be about electrical cooling machines, rather than the exquisitely hand-decorated fans from the 18th to the 20th centuries.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <\/span><b>marriage and relationship goals<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are to be open to having fun and laughing at yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Do-you-want-to-be-right-or-happy\"><\/span>4. Do you want to be right or happy?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fighting to win every argument will lead to a less happy relationship in the future. The challenge when couples disagree is to focus on trying to understand the other person&rsquo;s point of view, rather than enforce your own opinion as the only one there should be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being open to having the empathy to another viewpoint, means that there can be an open, flexible and compassionate way to deal with disagreements so that you can reach an understanding in a mutually acceptable way with no &ldquo;winner&rdquo; or &ldquo;loser.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Change-only-yourself-not-your-partner\"><\/span>5. Change only yourself, not your partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Change can only come from within, so we cannot demand that our partner change in a way that we would like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we place <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-you-shouldnt-try-to-change-your-partner\/\">demands on our partner to be different<\/a>, this will only lead to resentment since there is non-acceptance of who they are today, and at the same time, this behavior is a controlling action that gives the other no motivation at all to change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling loved, accepted, and safe is the cornerstone of every relationship, trying to control another goes entirely against those principles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the same one, this<\/span><b> marriage and relationship goal <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">urges us to apologize each day for any wrongdoing, without excuses to trivialize the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Celebrate-good-news\"><\/span>6. Celebrate good news<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is not just big wins that deserve a celebration; small successes should also be acknowledged, to confirm that your partner supports you in the good times as well as the not so good times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nurturing this sense of security enhances <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/repairing-emotional-intimacy\/\">emotional intimacy<\/a>, trust, and happiness in a relationship. Instead of ignoring positive news, be enthusiastic, focus your listening to what is being said, and take an interest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This marriage and relationship goal will not only help your partner feel appreciated and committed but means you can expect the same when you have good news.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Happy relationships do not just happen because of some magical &ldquo;fairy dust&rdquo; that appears on the day you decide to commit to each other. The truth is that a happy relationship requires some effort to build and maintain. There are realistic relationship goals to help marriage and relationships survive challenges that are part of our lives. The article highlights 6 powerful goals for your marriage that can help you both live a better, more loving relationship. 1. Don&rsquo;t fall into a routine rut Sharing rituals, such as lazing in bed on a Sunday morning or eating at a favorite restaurant, <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":752,"featured_media":56478,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9],"tags":[2568],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56475"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/752"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=56475"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56475\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":56563,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56475\/revisions\/56563"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/56478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=56475"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=56475"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=56475"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}