

{"id":56142,"date":"2020-10-20T10:51:35","date_gmt":"2020-10-20T10:51:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=56142"},"modified":"2025-02-06T08:05:33","modified_gmt":"2025-02-06T08:05:33","slug":"lazy-husband","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/lazy-husband\/","title":{"rendered":"9 Ways to Deal With a Lazy Husband and Bring Balance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56146\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/signs-of-a-lazy-husband-and-how-to-deal-with-him.jpg\" alt=\"Angry Women Cleaning Floor By Vaccum Cleaner And Husband Lying Behind On Couch Lazy Peoples Concept\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you do when things start to feel a little one-sided at home?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chores piling up, responsibilities falling on just one set of shoulders, and the frustration that comes with it&hellip; It can leave anyone feeling overwhelmed. A lazy husband can turn even simple tasks into sources of tension, no matter how much you try to keep the peace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But sometimes, laziness is not about unwillingness&mdash;it is about habits, unspoken expectations, or even a lack of awareness. It is not easy to figure out how to handle it without causing resentment on either side.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That balance between patience and practicality, between understanding and accountability, can feel like walking a tightrope. Yet, addressing it does not have to mean endless arguments or ultimatums&mdash;it is about finding small shifts that can bring the harmony you are craving.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-do-husbands-act-lazy-in-a-marriage\"><\/span><b>Why do husbands act lazy in a marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, it can feel like everything is falling on your shoulders while your partner seems to take a step back. If you find yourself thinking, &ldquo;My husband is lazy and unmotivated,&rdquo; it might not be as simple as it seems.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Laziness in a marriage can stem from many things&mdash;stress, burnout, or even feeling disconnected from the relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It might also be a sign of deeper issues, like a lack of motivation or feeling unsupported.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At times, husbands may not even realize the impact of their actions, or lack thereof, on their partner. Understanding the root cause is the first step toward addressing it with empathy and care.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-signs-of-a-lazy-husband-and-its-possible-causes\"><\/span><b>7 signs of a lazy husband and its possible causes<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gLeK7dGpXyg?si=D-ox4OHPSkuXzZZu\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, it can feel like the effort in a marriage is not evenly shared. A lazy husband might not even realize how his behavior is affecting the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding the signs can help make sense of the situation and shed light on the possible reasons behind it. Here are 7 key signs of a lazy man in a marriage and what might be causing them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. He avoids household responsibilities<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he consistently finds excuses to skip chores or tasks around the house, it can leave one partner feeling burdened. This might happen because he assumes those responsibilities are not his or because he feels overwhelmed and unsure of where to start.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Sometimes, it stems from upbringing, where traditional roles were emphasized, or from a lack of confidence in completing tasks properly<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p>A study explores the link between unequal<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/journals\/psychology\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2018.01330\/full\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">household chore involvement<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and work-family conflict (WFC) among couples. Results reveal traditional gender roles persist, with unequal chore involvement affecting WFC for both genders, particularly through marital conflict.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication gaps can also play a role, with expectations left unclear. Over time, this avoidance can strain the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/how-to-divide-household-chores-fairly\/\" title=\"How to Divide Household Chores Fairly in Marriage\">How to Divide Household Chores Fairly in Marriage<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>2. He does not contribute emotionally<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lazy husband might struggle to offer emotional support when it is needed. He may seem detached during difficult conversations or avoid discussions about feelings altogether.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>This could be because he feels uncomfortable expressing his own emotions or because he does not understand how important emotional connection is.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Past experiences or stress might also leave him feeling emotionally unavailable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Without effort to engage on this level, the relationship may feel one-sided, leaving one partner longing for deeper understanding and connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. He prioritizes relaxation over productive activities<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-107189\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/2523808793.jpg\" alt=\"Wife asking her lazy husband for clean\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When leisure activities like watching TV or playing games always come first, it may be a sign of laziness. While everyone needs downtime, excessive prioritization of relaxation can show a lack of motivation. <\/span><b>This could happen due to burnout, stress, or simply getting too comfortable in routines<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For some, it might even be a way to escape from other responsibilities. Addressing this behavior gently can help uncover whether he feels overwhelmed or needs guidance on balancing relaxation with productivity.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. He resists initiating plans or decisions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he leaves all the planning, whether for errands or date nights, to his partner, it might indicate a lack of initiative. This could come from feeling unsure about his choices or a fear of making mistakes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>In some cases, he might not realize how much work goes into organizing things until it is brought up<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Over time, this passive approach can create frustration as one partner feels the weight of decision-making alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. He neglects his personal growth<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he shows little interest in improving himself&mdash;whether through work, hobbies, or personal goals&mdash;it can reflect a sense of stagnation. This might be due to a lack of confidence, fear of failure, or even not knowing where to begin.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Some people grow complacent over time, feeling comfortable in their current routines<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Encouragement and open discussions about his passions can help rekindle his motivation and sense of purpose.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/balancing-personal-growth-and-relationship-needs\/\" title=\"10 Tips for Balancing Needs &#038; Personal Growth in a Relationship\">10 Tips for Balancing Needs &#038; Personal Growth in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>6. He relies heavily on you for problem-solving<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he consistently turns to you to fix problems, it can feel like the mental load is entirely on your shoulders. <\/span><b>This might happen because he genuinely trusts your judgment, but it could also stem from a lack of confidence in his ability to handle challenges<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For some, it might be a learned behavior from always relying on others. Encouraging him to take ownership of certain responsibilities can help restore balance and show him that his contributions are valuable.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. He shows little interest in shared goals<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he seems disengaged from building a future together&mdash;whether it is financial planning, parenting, or long-term goals&mdash;it can create feelings of disconnection. <\/span><b>This could be because he feels overwhelmed by the idea of responsibility or does not fully understand how his actions impact the partnership<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, it is simply a matter of needing clarity about what those goals are. By involving him in discussions and showing how his input matters, you can encourage a stronger sense of teamwork.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/smart-goals-examples-to-improve-your-relationship\/\" title=\"10 Smart Goals Examples to Improve Your Relationship\">10 Smart Goals Examples to Improve Your Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-deal-with-a-lazy-husband-9-effective-tips\"><\/span><b>How to deal with a lazy husband: 9 effective tips<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When responsibilities start feeling one-sided, it is easy to feel frustrated and overwhelmed. A lazy husband might not even realize how much his inaction is affecting the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to deal with a lazy husband and why he behaves this way can help shift the dynamic and bring balance back to your partnership. Here are 9 tips to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Open up about your feelings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start by sharing how you feel, but do it gently. Avoid blaming or accusing him of being irresponsible, as this can make him defensive. <\/span><b>Instead, explain how his actions&mdash;or lack of action&mdash;affect you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p>Research finds that using I-language and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC5961625\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicating perspective<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in conflict discussions reduces defensiveness. Statements expressing both self and other perspectives were rated as most effective, highlighting how language can prevent hostility and improve conflict resolution outcomes.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, you could say, &ldquo;I feel really overwhelmed when I handle everything on my own.&rdquo; Clear, honest communication can encourage understanding and a willingness to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express appreciation when he listens and acknowledges your feelings. Use &ldquo;we&rdquo; statements to emphasize teamwork, like &ldquo;How can we manage things better together?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This approach makes the conversation feel less like a criticism and more like a partnership, motivating him to take initiative without feeling pressured.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Set clear expectations<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, laziness comes from unclear boundaries. If responsibilities have never been discussed, he might not know what is expected of him. <\/span><b>Talk about what needs to be done and divide tasks in a way that feels fair<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/sharing-the-same-expectations-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being specific<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&mdash;like asking him to handle the dishes or take care of laundry&mdash;can make it easier for him to step up without confusion.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Break tasks into smaller, manageable steps to avoid overwhelming him. For instance, if cleaning the entire house feels daunting, ask him to focus on one room or task.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Highlight the positive impact his efforts will have on your<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/259554673_Date_nights_take_two_The_maintenance_function_of_shared_relationship_activities\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">shared life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, which can inspire him to take more ownership of his responsibilities.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Focus on positive reinforcement<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he takes the initiative, no matter how small, show appreciation! Compliments and recognition can encourage more effort in the future. <\/span><b>Everyone likes feeling valued, and your support might be what he needs to stay motivated<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, this positive approach can reduce the frustration of dealing with a lazy husband and build a stronger partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Celebrate his contributions, even if they seem minor. A simple &ldquo;Thank you for doing that!&rdquo; can go a long way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Positive reinforcement builds confidence, showing him that his efforts are noticed and valued. This can motivate him to take on more responsibilities willingly over time.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Avoid doing everything for him<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-107188\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/1727478481.jpg\" alt=\"Woman expressing dissatisfaction to lazy husband \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is tempting to take over when your husband does not step up, but this can lead to resentment and reinforce his laziness. <\/span><b>If he has gotten used to you handling everything, he may not see the need to change<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Letting him take responsibility for certain tasks, even if it is uncomfortable at first, is a crucial step toward balance.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step back and let him experience the natural consequences of not fulfilling certain responsibilities. For example, if he forgets to do the laundry, let him realize the inconvenience himself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This approach<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/accountability-in-relationships\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">encourages accountability<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and shows him the importance of contributing without constantly stepping in.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Encourage shared goals<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk about what you both want to achieve as a couple. W<\/span><b>hether it is saving money, planning a trip, or improving your home, working toward shared goals can reignite motivation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lazy husband might feel disconnected from these plans, so involving him and showing how his role matters can inspire him to participate more actively.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Involve him in discussions about goals and make them exciting! Use visuals like a savings tracker or a vision board to make progress more tangible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he sees the value of his contributions toward these shared aspirations, he is more likely to stay engaged and responsible.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Understand the root cause<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself, &ldquo;Why is my husband acting this way?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stress, burnout, or even low self-esteem can sometimes be behind his behavior. <\/span><b>If he seems unmotivated, take the time to explore whether something deeper is affecting him<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding the &ldquo;why&rdquo; can help you figure out how to deal with a lazy and irresponsible husband without jumping to conclusions.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Show empathy by asking how he is feeling and offering support if he seems stressed or overwhelmed. Help him brainstorm ways to manage his responsibilities without feeling burdened.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing that you are there to support him can boost his confidence and motivation to make positive changes.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Set routines together<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he struggles to stay productive, creating routines as a team can help. <\/span><b>Whether it is deciding on chore schedules or setting specific times for tasks, having a plan can make it easier for him to follow through.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Routines also bring structure, which can reduce feelings of being overwhelmed or lost when responsibilities pile up.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Work together to create a routine that includes things he enjoys alongside necessary responsibilities. For example, pair a chore like folding laundry with his favorite TV show.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This balance makes routines feel less like a chore and more like a shared effort, encouraging consistency.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video where Dr. Lindsay, a psychologist, talks about how to divide household chores between partners:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jSS0rXiDD54?si=aEnkYtMPpD10R3BP\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Be patient but firm<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Change does not happen overnight. While it is important to stay patient, do not shy away from standing your ground. <\/span><b>Consistently reminding him about shared responsibilities shows that you are serious about creating balance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Patience, when combined with firm boundaries, can encourage him to take more accountability without making him feel pressured.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use gentle but consistent reminders to reinforce expectations. For example, instead of nagging, say, &ldquo;I know you are busy, but could you handle this by tomorrow?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A firm yet understanding approach shows that you respect his time but still expect follow-through, encouraging responsibility without creating tension.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Seek help if needed<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If nothing seems to work, consider seeking guidance together. A counselor or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can help both of you handle the situation and improve communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>They can also help uncover underlying issues that might be contributing to his behavior<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Knowing how to deal with a lazy husband sometimes means recognizing when outside support is the best solution.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h4><b>How to motivate him to be responsible<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Encourage counseling as a way to strengthen your relationship rather than focusing solely on his behavior. Present it as an opportunity for both of you to grow and improve together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he sees it as a joint effort, he is more likely to embrace the idea and take steps toward change.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Building-a-collaborative-partnership\"><\/span><b>Building a collaborative partnership<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A healthy marriage thrives on teamwork, understanding, and shared effort. Dealing with a lazy husband can feel overwhelming at times, but patience, clear communication, and mutual respect can make a world of difference.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Focus on building a partnership where both of you feel valued and supported&mdash;no one should carry all the weight alone<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Celebrate small wins together, encourage each other&rsquo;s growth, and remember that change takes time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By approaching the situation with empathy and a shared vision, you can create a more balanced, collaborative dynamic that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-strengthen-your-relationship-connection\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">strengthens your bond<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and brings harmony back into your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What do you do when things start to feel a little one-sided at home? Chores piling up, responsibilities falling on just one set of shoulders, and the frustration that comes with it&hellip; It can leave anyone feeling overwhelmed. A lazy husband can turn even simple tasks into sources of tension, no matter how much you try to keep the peace. But sometimes, laziness is not about unwillingness&mdash;it is about habits, unspoken expectations, or even a lack of awareness. It is not easy to figure out how to handle it without causing resentment on either side. 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