

{"id":55650,"date":"2020-10-08T14:01:01","date_gmt":"2020-10-08T14:01:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=55650"},"modified":"2024-01-30T14:50:52","modified_gmt":"2024-01-30T14:50:52","slug":"how-to-find-a-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-find-a-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Find a Wife: 11 Ways to Find the Ideal Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-55654\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/ways-to-find-the-ideal-partner.jpg\" alt=\"Man Holding Woman Hand And Running In The Ground Express Happiness Freedom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you single and looking for love? Are you wondering how to find a wife? Life as a single person has many advantages, but when you are ready to share your life with someone, that life can become frustrating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moments of solitude can become moments of loneliness when you are finally ready to join lives with your future wife, and it eludes you. You start wondering how to find a wife, and you are not sure where to start.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nowadays, we have many ways of connecting, meeting people across the globe and, yet, we still battle with the dilemma of how to meet a wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before we address ways of overcoming how and where to find a wife, it is important to address why it feels so complicated.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Does searching for a wife feel like a mammoth task?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people seem to have no problem dating and finding someone to build a home with, sometimes more than once.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, why is this a challenge for so many people? Especially when &ldquo;there is plenty of fish in the sea&rdquo; has never been so true as it is in today&rsquo;s digital world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>In the following video, relationship therapist Esther Perel speaks about people today and our sense of entitlement.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We feel it is our right to be happy, and hence it is hard to tie ourselves to a particular partner until we are certain they will make us happier than the next person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear of missing out on someone better could be one of the reasons why we keep searching and missing out on giving a real shot to someone we already met.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She suggests that instead of focusing on searching for certainty, that life never really offers, we should adopt a curiosity mindset in a relationship with a person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3356784\/#:~:text=Studies%202%20and%203%20showed,situation%20offered%20relationship%2Dbuilding%20exercises.&amp;text=Collectively%2C%20results%20suggest%20that%20positive,an%20open%20and%20curious%20mindset.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Studies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> examining whether, when, and how curiosity contributes to positive social outcomes between unacquainted strangers suggested that curious people expect to generate closeness during intimate conversations and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/intimate-conversation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feel closer to partners during intimate and small-talk conversations<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That means allowing ourselves to enter a relationship with a person we feel attracted to and stay long enough to investigate if we are a good match.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of asking, &ldquo;how do I know for sure that this person is right for me&rdquo; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/questions-to-ask-girlfriend\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">asking questions to get to know them<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, sharing experiences, and trying to see what life with that person will be like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This leads us to the next point focusing on what would be a good match instead of a perfect match.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/maggie-martinez\">Maggie Martinez<\/a>, LCSW, says<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Equating a person with perfection can be a slippery slope. No one is perfect and having this standard in the beginning can cause the relationship to fail later on.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many of us are focusing on how to find a wife, and missing out on asking another crucial question. What are the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/5-traits-of-a-long-lasting-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> key features I need in my long-term partne<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">r?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is hard to find something when we are not fairly cognizant of what we are searching for.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To aid you in answering the question of &ldquo;who will be my future wife,&rdquo; we direct you to a few questions you can use for self-exploration:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What kind of person can I NEVER imagine myself with?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What would an ideal partner be for me at this stage of my life?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What compromises would I be willing to make (where would I be willing to settle for the dimension between never-in-my-life and the ideal partner)?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do I find attractive in a person?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">his, and why?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the 3 most important things for me to have in the relationship?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What values about relationships and life do we need to have in common if I am to be with them?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How can I check if they are willing to work on issues that arise in our relationship?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the values and life choices they need to simply respect that are of utmost importance to me?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do I need to feel in the relationship for this person to be &ldquo;the one&rdquo;?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I want to have kids? Is it important for me that my future wife thinks the same, or am I willing to make compromises? How similar do our approaches in raising them have to be?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do we need to share a similar sense of humor? Is fun an important aspect of a relationship?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is my, and what would I need their perspective to be, on material things and success?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does being faithful mean to me?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do I need to be loved, and are they willing and able to provide that?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t forget to include body intelligence &ndash; What does my gut say &ndash; can I see myself with this person for the rest of my life? Why?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this seems like a lot to process, remember you don&rsquo;t have to do it alone. Some professionals can help you with this exploratory journey. It is okay if all you know is &ldquo;I need a wife&rdquo;, and not sure how to proceed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although it can be tough at times to take the self-examination journey, it can be immensely helpful on the &ldquo;how to find a wife&rdquo; quest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you know what you are looking for, you can approach creating a strategy of how to find a wife:<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Use-daily-encounters-to-meet-new-people\"><\/span>1. Use daily encounters to meet new people<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every day we interact with many people, but we don&rsquo;t really take time to actually enter a conversation with them. Use everyday contacts with people to talk to them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">New acquaintances can lead you to expand your social circle. This can bring you a bit closer to solving the equation of how to find a wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Online-dating\"><\/span>2. Online dating<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-55655\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/online-dating.jpg\" alt=\"Young Indian Woman Holding Her Phone With Photo Of Her Beloved One\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might be reluctant to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/best-dating-apps\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">try dating apps<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to find a wife online. Perhaps it could help you if you knew that one-third of marriages started through online dating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.technologyreview.com\/2017\/10\/10\/148701\/first-evidence-that-online-dating-is-changing-the-nature-of-society\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> shows that the increase of online dating services could is behind stronger marriages, a rise in interracial partnerships, and an increase in social connections that lie outside of our social circle.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Spend-time-with-friends-and-their-friends\"><\/span>3. Spend time with friends and their friends<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We choose to spend time with people who are similar to us. Therefore, when you are hanging out with friends of your friends, you could end up finding someone alike. Also, you are at your best when you are with people you enjoy spending time with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a perfect time to meet someone and have them notice you. After all, if it doesn&rsquo;t pan out, you will at least have spent time with friends and had fun.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Workplace-as-a-dating-pool\"><\/span>4. Workplace as a dating pool<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you thoroughly check your company&rsquo;s policy on dating and exclude people you directly manage, ask yourself, &ldquo;who could be interesting to get a cup of coffee with.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t immediately go for, &ldquo;could this person be my future wife.&rdquo; Perhaps they won&rsquo;t be the ones you end up with, rather the missing link to your future spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Reconnect-with-old-friends\"><\/span>5. Reconnect with old friends<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Any strategy that helps you expand your social circle is desirable. Therefore, reconnect with friends from childhood, former neighbors, co-workers from your previous company, or anyone you haven&rsquo;t seen in a while whose company you enjoy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Volunteer-and-attend-community-events\"><\/span>6. Volunteer and attend community events<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What cause are you passionate about? Find a volunteering event or organization that is dedicated to it. You will meet like-minded people and potentially your wife there too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Go-to-church-or-religious-gatherings\"><\/span>7. Go to church or religious gatherings<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are a religious man looking for a wife, the best place to find a person of faith is the church. If you already know everyone in your church, expand the circle by visiting other cities or states.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-Start-new-hobby-or-activity\"><\/span>8. Start new hobby or activity<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-55656\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/start-new-hobby-or-activity.jpg\" alt=\"Pretty Young Man Playing Guitar While Sitting On Sofa In Light Living Room\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to find a bride? Have you tried joining a book club, community center, or a fun class? How to find a wife? Explore new hobbies and activities like cooking, creative writing, dancing, photography, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-Accept-invitations-to-weddings\"><\/span>9. Accept invitations to weddings<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you need a wife, don&rsquo;t miss out on a chance to go to a wedding. Other single people in attendance are probably pondering their own relationship status too. Ask them to dance or<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/intimate-conversation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> start up a conversation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and allow it to grow from there.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-Go-back-to-school\"><\/span>10. Go back to school<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/notes\/facebook-data-science\/from-classmates-to-soulmates\/10151779448773859\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by Facebook shows that 28% of married Facebook users found their spouses while attending college. If you were planning to go back to school, there is another reason to do it now.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11-Expand-your-dating-criteria\"><\/span>11. Expand your dating criteria<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finally, no matter how much you expand your social circle and how many dates you go to, if you are not giving people a chance, it will be all for nothing. If you are asking yourself &ldquo;how to find the perfect wife,&rdquo; you should replace it with &ldquo;how to find a good wife.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your criteria or expectations of future partners are too high, no one will ever get through, and it will seem like the dating pool is actually out of &ldquo;fish.&rdquo; Therefore, when you begin wondering how to find a wife, add the question of how not to miss out on giving her an actual chance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you recognize you are ready to give up the single life and find a person to marry, you could be confused as to where to start and how to find a wife material.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many steps to take between realizing and admitting to yourself, &ldquo;I want a wife&rdquo; and actually marrying.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Maggie Martinez further says<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Find enjoyment in your single life and in your independence. Frequently, a partner comes when we are least expecting it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before diving into how to find a wife, we recommend you address &ldquo;how to choose a wife.&rdquo; Once you know what you are looking for, what are deal-breakers, and compromises you are willing to make, it becomes easier to spot that person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From there, focus on expanding your social circle to increase your odds of meeting &ldquo;the one.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Attend weddings, community events, volunteer, go to church gatherings, seize and create any and all opportunities to meet new people. Explore each door that manifests, because behind them might be the person you will spend your life with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Also watch:<br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VKd2ARCyqCs\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you single and looking for love? Are you wondering how to find a wife? Life as a single person has many advantages, but when you are ready to share your life with someone, that life can become frustrating. Moments of solitude can become moments of loneliness when you are finally ready to join lives with your future wife, and it eludes you. You start wondering how to find a wife, and you are not sure where to start. Nowadays, we have many ways of connecting, meeting people across the globe and, yet, we still battle with the dilemma of <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":55654,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2498],"tags":[2578],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55650"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55650"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55650\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":94855,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55650\/revisions\/94855"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55654"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55650"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55650"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55650"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}