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I have no sex drive, and it’s ruining my relationship. I have often heard men complaining about reduced libido or loss of sex drive.<\/span><\/p>\n Why do <\/span>men lose interest in sex<\/span><\/a>? What is the cause of decreased sexual desire?<\/span><\/p>\n You’ve seen the ads on TV, you’ve seen the billboards, you’ve seen the ads in magazines telling us that loss of sex drive in men is probably due to <\/span>low testosterone<\/span><\/a>. It is commonly known as “low T.”<\/span><\/p>\n But is that the only major reason that men struggle with sexual drive, sexual desire?<\/span><\/p>\n For the past 30 years, number one bestselling author, counselor, and Minister David Essel has been helping millions of men to help them overcome the loss of sex drive back, to reclaim their mojo, but the challenges aren’t always physical.<\/span><\/p>\n Below, David talks about his own struggle with the loss of sex drive, the cause, and what he did about it.<\/b><\/p>\n “Several years ago, I suffered a major loss in my life. Someone who I thought would be with me until I left this planet was taken away from me way too early.<\/span><\/p>\n I was stunned. Absolutely stunned! If someone had told me a year before this would’ve happened, I never would’ve believed them.<\/span><\/p>\n Because the loss was so deep, so intense, my body reacted in the most bizarre way I could ever imagine.<\/span><\/p>\n And even though this person I lost had nothing to do with my sexuality or my sexual drive, my mind and body completely shut down. We were best friends, and that’s all!<\/span><\/p>\n Now, because I’ve worked in the health field for 40 years, I knew that even though I was 61 years old, my sex drive should not disappear overnight, for God’s sake!<\/p>\n I couldn’t figure it out. I had no clue what was going on. And it wasn’t just about getting on Viagra or something like that. I had <\/span>no interest in sex at all<\/span><\/a>!<\/span><\/p>\n So not only did my desire die, but my sexual drive died. I couldn’t even get an erection if someone paid me $1 million. And that’s the truth!<\/span><\/p>\n “In doing some self-introspection, I found the answer!”<\/span><\/p>\n “I needed to <\/span>grieve the loss<\/span><\/a> of my friend, I needed to grieve the loss of this friendship, I needed to forgive this person, forgive the family, and forgive myself for anything I may have done that created this upheaval.<\/span><\/p>\n I spent the next eight months journaling, writing, forgiving, letting go, and then <\/span>loving myself<\/span><\/a> and others once again.<\/span><\/p>\n The end result?<\/span><\/p>\n My sexual drive is back and over the top! My sexual ability to function is the highest it’s been in years!<\/span><\/p>\n And this is how I try to help men with no sex drive or loss of interest in sex. <\/span>A loss of sex drive may not always be physically related.<\/b><\/p>\n Mine was 100% emotional!<\/span><\/p>\n If you’re <\/span>struggling with your own sexual drive<\/span><\/a> or sexual desire, definitely check with your doctor what might be going on.<\/span><\/p>\n They will probably recommend a <\/span>change in diet<\/span><\/a>, exercise, getting rid of alcohol and nicotine, which can absolutely destroy our sexual function, and they may recommend something like Viagra, which is fine as long as we take away the potential emotional components that could be eliminating our sexual drive and desire.”<\/span><\/p>\n Also Watch:<\/b><\/span>My struggle with the loss of sex drive<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>How I got my sexual drive back<\/span><\/h2>\n
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