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Money is great when you have it and scary when you don’t. When you’re ready to tie the knot, you’re not only melding hearts and lifestyles but also melding finances.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you’re in love and planning a future with your beloved, discussing finances before marriage may not be the first topic of conversation that comes to mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, talking about finances before marriage is vital to ensure a long-lasting commitment.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to a <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> by Ramsey Solutions, a financial education company, finances are the second leading cause of divorce, just after infidelity.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you’re looking for the best outcome in love, you must address these nitty-gritty details.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, how to talk about finances before marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n

The article articulates 6 tips on how to have the money talk before marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. Don’t hold back<\/span><\/h2>\n

Money talk before marriage isn’t an easy topic, especially if you have excessive debt or less-than-responsible <\/span>spending habits<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, when you’re ready for a lifelong commitment, these are the pieces of your life that need to be shared with your partner. They’re not only signing up for you, but they’re also signing up for your financial situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Share your income and debts with your partner. List your assets and savings. <\/b>When you’re married, you each take on the other’s liabilities and assets.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is beauty in this process; perhaps you can help your partner pay down debts more quickly or vice versa.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, even if that’s not the case, it’s better to be upfront and not blindside one another with hidden debts that impact your overall quality of life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Recommended<\/strong> – Pre Marriage Course<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. Budget, budget, budget<\/span><\/h2>\n

During your money talk before marriage, discuss expense management with your partner, from the most minimal purchases to those bigger ones, like vehicles and mortgages.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you and your partner are both actively working, assess who has the higher income and what that means for the relationship. If you are making more money than your partner, you may need to contribute more to living costs or use the extra income to save for your retirement.<\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/b>joint bank account<\/b><\/a> makes finances transparent, giving you both an opportunity to see where improvement may be required.<\/b><\/p>\n

However, many couples opt to keep individual bank accounts and <\/span>use a joint bank account<\/span><\/a> solely for mutual purchases and expenses. This is an agreement you must reach with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

This conversation is about making sure you are each comfortable with the financial arrangement you agree upon.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>3. Spender or saver<\/span><\/h2>\n

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Even if you and your partner are entering marriage with zero debts, personality determines who is the one who loves to splurge and who is the one who loves to tuck money away for a rainy day.<\/span><\/p>\n

Either way, have the money talk before marriage and determine who’s who.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is especially important if you both love to splurge, as you’ll need to set some boundaries and be realistic about your regular spending.<\/span><\/p>\n

A better route to take is to invest in mutual funds, create a plan for your combined future, and pour into that regularly.<\/b><\/p>\n

Bad spending habits are very much a reality, but when you address them up front, you’ll each know what to look out for in the future. This<\/span> transparency allows you to focus on your relationship<\/span><\/a> and less on the financial details that could otherwise weigh you down.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>4. Keep the balance<\/span><\/h2>\n

If you or your partner is the primary breadwinner while the other keeps care of the home, there could be silent resentments brewing just beneath the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having a financial discussion before marriage will help you set clear expectations, honor the person who is bringing the bacon home, and be sure to make teamwork your priority.<\/span><\/p>\n

An imbalanced money dynamic can be damaging to a relationship, so be sure each of you feels acknowledged and valued to keep the love connection alive and resolve any <\/span>arguments about money<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>5. Consider the future<\/span><\/h2>\n

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While some couples opt out of parenthood, it is common for newlyweds to <\/span>start planning for children<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bassinets, baby showers, and newborn outfits are fun considerations, but food, diapers, and doctor visits can throw off your budget. This is not even considering the rest of a child’s life; think sports, outings, and college funds.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you and your partner plan to have children, it’s important to discuss career changes for childcare, babysitting costs, and lifestyle changes.<\/b><\/p>\n

For example, retirement funds may take a backseat, and working hours may need to lessen for the primary caretaker. Although children eventually leave home, they may require financial assistance into adulthood.<\/span><\/p>\n

Some children return home after a failed business venture or illness.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to have a financial conversation before marriage about these possibilities with your partner; this way, you can create a plan to tackle any possible scenario.<\/span><\/p>\n

Also watch: How to manage your money.