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Are you a man looking for love?<\/span><\/p>\n Millions of men right now, all over the world are searching for love.<\/span><\/p>\n They are looking for that “perfect partner, “some even would call that their “soulmate. “<\/span><\/p>\n But 90% of us are making the wrong move when it comes to finding the right girl.<\/span><\/p>\n So what do we do, how do we choose a life partner who is right for us?<\/span><\/p>\n For the past 30 years, number one best-selling author, counselor, and minister <\/span>David Essel<\/span><\/a> have been helping men understand love, the power of love, and how to search for the right partner.<\/span><\/p>\n Below, David talks about the need to slow down and follow his pathway and teachings so that men can finally create the type of love they desire.<\/span><\/p>\n “Because men are so visual in nature, we often continue to focus on the physical aspects of a potential partner versus anything else.<\/span><\/p>\n We make the same mistakes over and over again in our quest for choosing the right one.<\/b><\/p>\n As a matter of fact, as a counselor, I have my male clients that are <\/span>looking for love<\/span><\/a> to create an exercise that we call a pattern of past relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n It’s pretty simple; all they do is write about every person they’ve been in a relationship with, what the challenges were in the relationship, and what their responsibilities were in the dysfunction of that attempt at law.<\/span><\/p>\n I’m 99% of the time; what my clients find is that they’ve been chasing the wrong thing all along.<\/span><\/p>\n They haven’t gone deep enough, or maybe they haven’t taken enough <\/span>time off between relationships<\/span><\/a>, or perhaps they still live in a fantasy world that the perfect person is going to pop into their existence and make everything OK.<\/span><\/p>\n Many of my male clients never realize that they were the savior, the <\/span>white knight on the horse, looking for women to rescue<\/span><\/a>, looking for women who need help either financially or with raising children or with their career.<\/span><\/p>\n And so many men get sucked into the same vortex, different faces, and different names but the same insane dysfunctional relationship filled with chaos and drama that they’ve had their whole life.<\/span><\/p>\n So how to choose a partner wisely?<\/span><\/p>\n The following are some tips to help you avoid the mistakes men make in relationships and choose a life partner<\/a> who is right for you.<\/span><\/p>\n At the end of a relationship, plan on taking a minimum of six months off.<\/b><\/p>\n That means no dating; if you’re serious about deep love, it means working with a professional counselor, minister, or relationship coach, to figure out what I’m sharing in this article.<\/span><\/p>\n What is our role in the ongoing dysfunction of love relationships?<\/span><\/p>\n After figuring out what your role is that you continue to carry forward.<\/span><\/p>\n Are you passive-aggressive, are you dominating in nature, are you wishy-washy and you go with whatever direction your partner wants to go in.<\/span><\/p>\n After figuring all that out, <\/span>we have to <\/b>forgive every partner<\/b><\/a> we’ve been with in the past if it ended poorly.<\/b><\/p>\n This is crucial! If you don’t go through the forgiveness process (nothing to do with you getting together with former partners ) and release any resentments you have, you’re going to carry a jaded mindset into your next relationship, which never works very well.<\/span><\/p>\n Watch this powerful speech on How to move on, let go & leave your past in the past.<\/span><\/span>Take some time off between relationships<\/span><\/h2>\n
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