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“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were” ~ <\/span><\/i>Richard Bach<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n If you’ve ever been in a relationship, chances are you’ve also experienced a breakup. No matter the reason, letting go of a relationship is tough. You’ve invested time, energy, and emotions into another person, and it can seem like you’ve wasted your time or made a mistake. It’s one thing to say that if you love someone let them go and if they come back, they’re yours but if they don’t then healing from that can be difficult.<\/span><\/p>\n Letting go of a relationship can be really painful. Losing anything you love hurts, and a partner is no exception. You might feel a little lost, lonely, and afraid of trying to love again.<\/span><\/p>\n But, the pain of a breakup doesn’t need to last forever, and you can absolutely get back out there and <\/span>find love again<\/span><\/a> even if that doesn’t feel true right now.<\/span><\/p>\n A lot of the prolonged pain we feel following a breakup is driven by 2 things:<\/span><\/p>\n Although the memories and thoughts will always be with you, the way you view them can change. Letting go of a relationship is something you can do!<\/span><\/p>\n So, now you’re probably wondering <\/span>how to let go and how to move on<\/b> or wishing that you knew <\/span>how to stop loving someone<\/b> so you can feel better.<\/span><\/p>\n Here are ten ways to help you learn how to get over someone you love and <\/span>move on with your life<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n This may seem counterintuitive, but trying to avoid feeling the emotions that come with a <\/span>painful breakup<\/span><\/a> can actually have the opposite effect and deepen and extend the pain.<\/span><\/p>\n Instead of distracting yourself from your feelings or <\/b>thoughts about the breakup<\/b><\/a>, allow yourself to sit with them<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n We have emotions for a reason, even if they’re painful to experience sometimes. Journal about them, cry it out, talk to a friend.<\/span><\/p>\n So, if you want to express the emotion, do it so that you can move on.<\/span><\/p>\n Being sad and upset is OK, but <\/span>after a while, start showing up for yourself <\/b>and your life.<\/span><\/p>\n You can be sad and still go to work, and you can be in pain and still choose to find fun and joy in your activities.<\/span><\/p>\n The more aspects of your individual life that you show up to, the faster you’ll build new habits that support letting go of a relationship and moving on.<\/span><\/p>\n It feels so important after a breakup to analyze and understand why the relationship didn’t work.<\/span><\/p>\n Even if you’ve been given a simple answer from our partner like “I’m not in love,” you will still replay the relationship over and over again, looking for more answers while getting over someone you loved.<\/span><\/p>\n Your brain is addicted to this cycle and thinks your breakup is a problem to solve. But it isn’t! <\/b>Part of letting go of a relationship is knowing there isn’t an answer or solution that will satiate the pain.<\/span><\/p>\n Stop texting them, stalking them on social media, or looking through your phone at old photos and messages.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>1. Allow yourself to grieve the loss<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>2. Fight the urge to withdraw or stay in bed<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>3. Stop looking for answers<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n<\/span>4. Break up with your ex, completely<\/span><\/h2>\n
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