

{"id":51575,"date":"2020-06-12T04:27:55","date_gmt":"2020-06-12T04:27:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=51575"},"modified":"2026-03-17T11:26:14","modified_gmt":"2026-03-17T11:26:14","slug":"what-boys-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-boys-want\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 7 Things Boys Want in a Meaningful Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-51580\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/things-boys-want-in-a-meaningful-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Happy Young Couple In Love\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication is the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/5-key-principles-of-a-successful-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">key to any successful relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, many men tend to shy away from sharing what they are looking for in a relationship. So if you are wondering what boys want from their partner, you are not the only one.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>For a relationship to survive and thrive, knowing &lsquo;what things guys want in a relationship&rsquo; can be useful.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To help you form better relationships, here are the top 7 things guys want in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Acceptance-and-praise\"><\/span><strong>1. Acceptance and praise<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men like compliments as much as anyone. What things do guys want to hear? It depends on what they appreciate most about themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you praise him about something, notice his reaction, and take note when he flashed his biggest smile.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try different things such as their looks, their effort around you or the house, their humor, or accomplishments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, how you see him will affect how he sees himself, so praise often and well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What boys want is for you to recognize the things they like about themselves the most that maybe no one else can see.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Stand out by giving unique compliments.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Support-for-their-dreams\"><\/span>2. Support for their dreams<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We are all afraid of failure, and it can prevent us from taking action. Dreaming and following our dreams becomes easier when we have support from people important to us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hence, this is one of the things a man wants in a relationship that is going to last.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What boys want in a true partnership is believing in each other and supporting each other&rsquo;s hopes and dreams.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you know what they wanted to be when they were kids? &lsquo;&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you asked what they want to achieve in life if they are to be truly accomplished? &lsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is on their bucket list?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are not sure where your guy wants your support, take time to inquire about his dreams. Believing in their dream and in their capacity to achieve it is what boys want in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Respect\"><\/span>3. Respect<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-51581\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/respect.jpg\" alt=\"Loving Couple Embracing, Lying On The Sofa, Looking At Each Other. Young Woman Touches Guy's Face. The Warm Relationship\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What boys want above all? Among the many things guys want, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/trust-in-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">respect holds a special place<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Feeling respected by you can significantly affect their self-confidence and perception of you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. We like people who like us. In the same way, we tend to respect and honor people who respect us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be careful, though; what men find respectful and disrespectful varies, and this is an important conversation to have. Knowing what they deem disrespectful can help you avoid those landmines.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Time-for-friends-and-hobbies\"><\/span>4. Time for friends and hobbies<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/let-there-be-some-space-in-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">need space in relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for our hobbies, our friends, and to be with ourselves alone. How much time and what for is different for everyone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This depends on the relationship as well. If we feel we don&rsquo;t have enough space in a relationship, we want it even more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be that as it may, men need space and time to commit to things that are only theirs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they have this, they look forward to coming back to you so much more. How you balance that space will have an immense impact on their satisfaction with the relationship and desire to stay in it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What boys want to stay with you is the option to choose separateness when they need it. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They can&rsquo;t look forward to closeness if they don&rsquo;t feel it is their choice.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Emotional-nurturing-connection\"><\/span>5. Emotional nurturing connection<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do guys like to talk about? It is hard to say. Some say that they are not as talkative as girls, and they tend to share less with their friends compared to their female counterparts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They are taught from a young age, not to show weakness or vulnerability. Stanford professor Judy Chu writes in her book <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/When-Boys-Become-Development-Relationships\/dp\/0814764800\/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1417043548&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=when+boys+become+boys\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When Boys Become Boys<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that it is indeed culture rather than nature which is responsible for this.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling safe and vulnerable doesn&rsquo;t come easy to them, although they crave emotional connection too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-to-connect-with-a-man-on-an-emotional-level\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional intimacy is important to men<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, just as much as to women. Perhaps, if possible, even more. Girls have their friends they talk to about almost anything, while men tend to do this more with their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For this to happen, you need to be careful about how you approach sensitive topics and to be patient when he is opening up emotionally.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he shows emotional vulnerability, check what he would need most at that time. How you react at that moment will be crucial if you want him to open up more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Being nurturing and patient will improve the trust he has in you and become more willing to open up and share.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to know what boys want from a relationship coach and dating expert:<\/span><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/fzAjvKwH79s\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Passion-and-physical-intimacy\"><\/span>6. Passion and physical intimacy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-51582\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/passion-and-physical-intimacy.jpg\" alt=\"Mature Couple Having Romance Together In Bedroom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can you imagine being in a relationship in which there is no attraction or passion? You might start questioning if you are sexy or pretty enough. The same goes for men.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They enjoy being with someone who is playful and who invests in sexual intimacy. At the beginning of the relationship, this comes more naturally and easily, but over time you need to put some effort into it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk to him about it and understand what he would like and appreciate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4852543\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has suggested that the level of communication among couples affect the link between relationship and sexual satisfaction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Furthermore, physical intimacy is more than just sexual attractiveness. Men want hugs, cuddles, and kisses too. Through the day approach him and find a physical way of showing you care for him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As humans, we <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/nonverbal-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate nonverbally too<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/1088868316650307\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">by Syracuse University showed that with more physical affection, conflict resolution was easier.<\/span> <b>Find your unique language of love that includes the body aspect too.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Partnership-and-security\"><\/span>7. Partnership and security<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does partnership mean for you? Do you know what it means for him? When considering someone for their partner, men need someone who will be able to stand by them in hardships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>This doesn&rsquo;t mean someone strong all the time, rather someone who can pick up when they are tired and exhausted. Taking turns in being the pillar, you might say.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having a partner means being able to lean on them for understanding and support. If you are mindful, you will be able to recognize when he needs this and take over the wheel.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He will be infinitely grateful, feel understood, and safe with you and return the favor too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What do guys really want in a woman or a man for that matter?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although there isn&rsquo;t a single answer to what boys want, you could say they look for someone who can be a true partner to them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What boys want is an independent partner who could be happy being single, but chooses the relationship with him.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They look for someone who can take care of themselves, who is playful, fun, warm and nurturing, and strong when needed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They don&rsquo;t mind if you are vulnerable at times or sad and withdrawn, as long as there is strength and fun in the package too. They will give you space if you provide the same to them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What boys want is to connect with someone emotionally, physically, and intellectually.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Communication is the key to any successful relationship. However, many men tend to shy away from sharing what they are looking for in a relationship. So if you are wondering what boys want from their partner, you are not the only one. For a relationship to survive and thrive, knowing &lsquo;what things guys want in a relationship&rsquo; can be useful. To help you form better relationships, here are the top 7 things guys want in a relationship. 1. Acceptance and praise Men like compliments as much as anyone. What things do guys want to hear? 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