

{"id":51492,"date":"2020-06-11T08:26:51","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T08:26:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=51492"},"modified":"2023-06-11T08:26:51","modified_gmt":"2023-06-11T08:26:51","slug":"story-about-loving-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/story-about-loving-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"The Albino Deer- A Fascinating Story About Loving Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-51496\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/the-albino-deer-a-fascinating-story-about-loving-yourself.jpg\" alt=\"Love Yourself Be You Self Esteem Confidence Encourage Concept\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In ancient times there was a legend of the Albino Deer. It&rsquo;s a story about loving yourself and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">accepting yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was said that any hunter who could touch the doe would be blessed for life and always have successful hunting, his family would never go hungry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But try as they might, no hunter could ever touch the deer. In fact, they could scarcely get near her.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She could sense them as they even<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> thought<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to approach her. To them, she appeared to be almost a ghost.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-story-of-Albino-Deer\"><\/span>The story of Albino Deer<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One day a wise young hunter came. He intended to touch the deer. He came to her forest, and in his pocket, he had lumps of sugar.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He searched for the place where his heart told him to wait for her. He found a clearing. A large circle where the trees were well back, and he sat in the middle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He took out the sugar and held it in his palm. And there he sat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For three days, he waited. On the third day, he saw a faint white wisp behind the trees, just like a ghost. His heart leaped, but he asked himself to be calm.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Albino Deer had appeared and, hidden behind the trees, she circled him and observed him for three days more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, on the third day, she came out from behind the trees into the clearing and circled him from a distance for three more days, sometimes closer and sometimes farther.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still, the young hunter did not stir. He watched her like he had watched the moon, with a loving gaze, ever offering his sugar.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He could feel her move nearer and farther, like the tide of an ocean. He could feel himself fatigue, withdraw, and then regain himself anew.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There was a draw, a pulsation, an invisible motion between them, and an expanse that was a part of something vast and new and very old.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Finally-the-day-arrived\"><\/span>Finally, the day arrived!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the third day then, she approached him. Inches away, she was close enough to touch. He did not stir but watched her openly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She sniffed him, circled him, and, for three more days, they read each other&rsquo;s energy and made a silent dance, together and apart. They stared into each other&rsquo;s eyes. They saw love and fear there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, on the third day, the Albino Deer bent down her head and took the sugar from his palm. When she did, her soft nose touched his hand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He was blessed, he knew, at that moment, not only with bountiful hunting but, blessed by his trust in the invisible realm, which bestowed upon him the wealth of her trust. He knew he had stepped through a door and found his own greatness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-transformation\"><\/span><strong>The transformation<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He rose and walked into the wood, and she was by his side. He hunted like he had never done before.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He knew right where the game was, and when he loosed his arrow, it hit true, and the prey fell, instantly dead. From that day on, she would appear, the Albino Deer, right by his side and run with him while he hunted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they were looking eye to eye, they saw fear and love. When love arises, it shines its light on anything that is unlike it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"It%E2%80%99s-all-about-loving-yourself\"><\/span>It&rsquo;s all about loving yourself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-51497\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/it%E2%80%99s-all-about-loving-yourself.jpg\" alt=\"Beautiful Young African American Woman Over Isolated Background Hugging Oneself Happy And Positive Self Love Concept\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the marriage of opposites, in order to love&hellip; the &ldquo;higher&rdquo; love&hellip; we must agree to the beauty of our dark side, our unlovable side.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love, and agree to be loved ugly.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As soon as we make that leap, we are freed into the infinite expanse. However, when you begin loving yourself, and accepting yourself as you are, your ego and personality will fight you on this point.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your agenda to get what you want, fulfill your &ldquo;picture,&rdquo; creates the experience of chasing the leaf through the water&hellip;it just keeps moving away from you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To see another&hellip;really <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">see<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> them (not your picture of what &ldquo;should&rdquo; be). It is the most profound experience ordinary people can have.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>When you &lsquo;see one&rsquo;, they are healed and they will bond to you.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most basic need for human beings is to be witnessed. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/developingchild.harvard.edu\/science\/deep-dives\/neglect\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Scientific studies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> have found that children who were ignored growing up fare far worse than those who were beaten.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You will have <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reasons<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> not to trust or love. You will have logic to protect you from pain. You will have an aversion to the ugliness. You will want to run or become <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.uk\/explore-mental-health\/publications\/how-overcome-fear-and-anxiety\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">paralyzed in fear<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It will be uncomfortable and scary to hang out in the unknown&hellip;the expanse. This means you will never touch the Albino Deer.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You cannot agree to the bliss and light of love if you cannot agree to the darkness of pain and fear.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The deal is we must agree to both sides of the pendulum before we get to transcend. So, embrace your dark side, and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/surprising-secret-to-self-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">practice self-love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">expanse<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is not a place that many humans get to see. Our brain and heart will scare us away from the edge of that abyss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trust and intuition will guide you toward or away from any circumstance that requires a linear determination. Most of the time you will simply spend your time &lsquo;seeing&rsquo; yourself and others&hellip;really seeing!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take the chance that getting quiet will create a space for the Albino Deer to come to you and kiss your palm. You will be blessed with finding your greatness, and will <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.medicalnewstoday.com\/articles\/321309\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">genuinely start loving yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also watch:<\/span><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ZQNk7KVU_6A\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In ancient times there was a legend of the Albino Deer. It&rsquo;s a story about loving yourself and accepting yourself as you are. It was said that any hunter who could touch the doe would be blessed for life and always have successful hunting, his family would never go hungry. But try as they might, no hunter could ever touch the deer. In fact, they could scarcely get near her. She could sense them as they even thought to approach her. To them, she appeared to be almost a ghost. 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