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Many people have asked themselves the infamous question, “why does my wife hate me” at some point during their married life. However, when a woman says she hates you, it does not necessarily mean the hate is deep or permanent.<\/span><\/p>\n Rather this can be a temporary sentiment that is driven by disappointment, anger, or being hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n To delve deeper, read our selection of 15 possible reasons why your wife hates you and what you can do to get her love back.<\/span><\/p>\n A <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> assessing the gender inequality in household chores revealed that in the 60s, women put around 30 hours a week doing the house chores, whereas the modern times are different and have brought equilibrium to splitting the household work between men and women.<\/span><\/p>\n However, when the balance is not maintained, your partner can end up feeling overwhelmed, and if this goes on for long enough, it might lead to pent up emotions, resentment, and hate. This is true even for same-sex couples who end up with a gap of inequality, especially after becoming parents, <\/span>research<\/span><\/a> shows.<\/span><\/p>\n The best <\/span>way to keep your woman happy<\/span><\/a> is to encourage her to communicate with you where she needs more help and then follow through.<\/span><\/p>\n Do not make a promise which you will not keep. Commit to one chore, if she’s handling others.<\/b><\/p>\n Such as taking the garbage out while she is ironing, washing the dishes if she prepared the meal. Whatever you can contribute will surely be appreciated.<\/span><\/p>\n Arguments are unavoidable, and this is true for any relationship. You are two different individuals, and <\/span>you are bound to disagree with each other<\/span><\/a>. However, this is not a cause for concern.<\/span><\/p>\n The hate usually develops when an argument is left unresolved, which in turn leads resentments caused by accumulated frustration due to continuous discussions and disagreements.<\/b><\/p>\n Make the initiative and arrange a different setting for the discussions. Arguments do not have to be aggressive and furious.<\/span><\/p>\n Open a bottle of wine, sit on a porch or a balcony with no kids around or any distractions, and start talking about the things you want to be resolved.<\/span><\/p>\n Taking action to talk about things that lead to fights will be appreciated. Furthermore, in this calm setting, there is a higher chance you will reach an agreement that works for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n Money has always been the most pervasive, problematic, and recurrent <\/span>cause of marital conflict.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n A man once said – ‘What I’m terrified the most after I’m gone is that my wife will sell my tools for the price I’ve told her I bought it for”.<\/span><\/p>\n The take away from this statement is — do not let the credit card statements come as a surprise to your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n Even though your heart might be in the right place when you buy a home cinema for the whole family to enjoy, you should consult with your spouse beforehand.<\/span><\/p>\n Talk about setting some ground rules around expenses, such as agreeing to discuss any expenses over $100.<\/b><\/p>\n So you’ve been thinking – my wife hates me but I am so caring and she never has any major complaints, yet I feel this way.<\/span><\/p>\n Well, sometimes it’s the little things.<\/span><\/p>\n It is hard to believe that such a small and insignificant part of our life can cause your wife to actually despise you.<\/span><\/p>\n Even though snoring is not easy to control, it does not make it any less irritating.<\/b><\/p>\n Especially for women who are sleep deprived due to children, insomnia, or household chores, constant snoring will build up a serious case of anger. Who is not edgy when they are tired.<\/span><\/p>\n There are ways you can <\/span>resolve your obstructive sleep apnea<\/span><\/a>. Try humidifiers, nasal strips, and if ready for a more resolute step, CPAP machine or surgery.<\/span><\/p>\n Stonewalling can make the other person feel rejected and hurt. On the other hand, being unaware of your actions you might start to wonder, “my wife hates me, but I love her, how does she not see that?”<\/span><\/p>\n Truth be told, perhaps your silence means something different to her than it does to you. Perhaps for you stonewalling is a way to end a discussion when exhausted, while she might interpret it as a sign of <\/span>giving up on the relationship<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n In the long run, a better strategy can be more helpful.<\/span><\/p>\n Your wife will become resentful and keep the frustration in, piling it up. Before that happens, make sure to open the discussion on how you want to <\/span>have arguments as a couple<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Set some ground rules you want to follow so your discussions are helpful and make the relationship go forward.<\/b><\/p>\n Also, watch the video for some additional questions to ask yourself and guidance on how to resolve this:<\/b><\/span>1. Not sharing the household workload<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/span>5. Shutting off during an argument<\/span><\/h2>\n