{"id":50623,"date":"2020-05-18T05:54:19","date_gmt":"2020-05-18T05:54:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=50623"},"modified":"2023-05-18T05:54:19","modified_gmt":"2023-05-18T05:54:19","slug":"how-intimate-relationships-help-us-be-our-true-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-intimate-relationships-help-us-be-our-true-self\/","title":{"rendered":"How Intimate Relationships Help Us Be Our True Self"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Beautiful<\/p>\n

“A true healer finds joy in each client’s recovery.” <\/span><\/i>Marvin L. Wilkerson, CH.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Who are we<\/span><\/h2>\n

 <\/span>The prime directive of the human being is a clarification of who we are.<\/b><\/p>\n

From the time of birth, we begin our programming. Programming comes from parents, teachers, siblings (first personal relationships), friends & peers, society, and whoever we hold a pedestal.<\/span><\/p>\n

This programming becomes our dominant language to use to describe our reality. Along the way to adulthood, we pick-up emotional experiences which connect to our feelings and emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

By the early age of twenty as adults ready to take on the world and our dreams. We are fully programmed.<\/span><\/p>\n

The beautiful part of our abilities as a human being is that of being a creator. How?<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever we think we create. The more focused our thinking, the more real that thought becomes. We have all learned from many masters; we are the creators of our life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being such a powerful being producing our realities brings responsibility.<\/span><\/p>\n

Since our thinking or programming, along with experience manifests, we then are the projector of our life.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, problems arise because of the difference between <\/span>the conscious and subconscious mind<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reality is C, and the subconscious mind is where the actual memory and higher ideals are stored.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>The conflict – Conscious vs. subconscious mind<\/span><\/h2>\n

 The two minds differ in their jobs as well. The conscious mind is where our ego\/personality drives us toward pleasure and gain.<\/span><\/p>\n

The subconscious mind is the more powerful mind as our protector, keeping our bodies operating, and identifying threats to our existence. But it doesn’t stop there.<\/span><\/p>\n

The subconscious is where our visualization conveys a message to other parts of the brain that ultimately bring the form to our desires.<\/b><\/p>\n

In the subconscious, the soul powers are at work, giving subtle messages of guidance called intuition.<\/span><\/p>\n

These two minds communicate back and forth using programming, experiences, feelings, emotions, and intuition, or guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Does the question then become to whom do we respond?<\/span><\/p>\n

More often than not, we react to what we think, which is more comfortable since it’s known. Tying this all together is our ego\/personality desiring the pleasure and gain of our programming and experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

The conflict with this is the response to our decisions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Society certainly has something to say about our perspective of things. Of course, it gets sticky when we form personal relationships and become intimate, divulging all our programming of life along with our experiences that may hold fear, guilt, doubt, shame, and judgment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Also watch: Conscious vs. subconscious thinking<\/b>