{"id":50484,"date":"2020-05-13T09:51:39","date_gmt":"2020-05-13T09:51:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=50484"},"modified":"2023-05-05T05:59:32","modified_gmt":"2023-05-05T05:59:32","slug":"how-to-overcome-relationship-addiction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-overcome-relationship-addiction\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Overcome Relationship Addiction and Emotional Dependency"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Are you dependent on being in a relationship, in order to be happy in life?<\/span><\/p>\n

Love is amazing. Sex is awesome. Having someone to turn to during difficult periods is a godsend.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yet, <\/span>millions of people are struggling with relationship addiction<\/span><\/a>, every day across the world they are clamoring for a love relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Love and relationship addiction<\/span><\/h2>\n

Addictive relationships or unhealthy emotionally dependent relationships is the last thing in the world people should be looking for.<\/span><\/p>\n

For the last 28 years, number one best-selling author, counselor and life coach David Essel has been helping to shatter the myth of love, <\/span>the myth of relationships<\/span><\/a>, and the reality of inner peace in life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Below, David talks about<\/span> the power, and the high self-esteem and confidence that comes when you shatter your compulsive need to be in a love relationship<\/b> and overcome emotional dependency or relationship addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n

“A very successful attorney from the East Coast contacted me, because he was <\/span>craving a love relationship<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I asked him what it was about love that he wanted so badly, his answer surprised me, but it surprised him even more.<\/span><\/p>\n

“<\/span>I hate to be alone, I hate to feel lonely, I feel really needy but I want to be with a woman right now<\/b>.“<\/span><\/p>\n

So I asked him, if he met the greatest woman in the world, and he told her that he was looking for love because he was lonely, needy and had to have a woman by his side. I asked him what that woman would probably say or do?<\/span><\/p>\n

He laughed, mumbled a few words and then told me that she would probably run for the restaurant door.<\/span><\/p>\n

He was right. Or if she didn’t run, she was extremely <\/span>codependent in love<\/span><\/a> just like he was. Clearly he was oblivious to the fact that he had signs of relationship addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>The psychology of relationship addiction<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Love addicts may have the best intentions, but addicted to being in love does not make life any worthier.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Just 30 days ago I started working with a woman via Skype who had almost the identical response to the guy above who had a covert struggle with relationship addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n

She was lonely on weekends, and she knew <\/span>the answer to her loneliness was to get involved with a great guy.<\/b><\/p>\n

After asking her the same question, what would a great guy think about the fact that she wanted to date him because she was lonely on weekends, she laughed as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

“David, I think I’ve got it all wrong. But I feel caught up in the vicious cycle of love and relationship addiction.”<\/span><\/p>\n

And she is. And the guy above is too.<\/span><\/p>\n

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