

{"id":50161,"date":"2020-05-06T09:07:44","date_gmt":"2020-05-06T09:07:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=50161"},"modified":"2026-03-31T06:39:59","modified_gmt":"2026-03-31T06:39:59","slug":"support-a-partner-who-has-bipolar-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/support-a-partner-who-has-bipolar-disorder\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Tips to Support A Partner Who Has Bipolar Disorder"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-50166 size-full\" title=\"5 Tips to Support A Partner Who Has Bipolar Disorder\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/tips-to-support-a-partner-who-has-bipolar-disorder.jpg\" alt=\"Psychologist Working With Married Couple In Office\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bipolar disorder is a psychiatric condition <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nimh.nih.gov\/health\/statistics\/bipolar-disorder\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that affects over <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4.4% of U.S. adults<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> experience bipolar disorder at some time in their lives<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living with bipolar disorder<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be an indescribably difficult experience that varies with every individual.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Proper diagnosis can be tricky because many people only seek treatment for the depressive side of the experience. The &ldquo;up&rdquo; side can sometimes be quite pleasant and even desired for some people.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That being said, the wrong diagnosis and treatment can be deeply disruptive to care and can even make symptoms worse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can lead to frustration and isolation and, at times, dangerous symptoms that cause a great deal of suffering to the person experiencing the symptoms &ndash; as well as the people around them who are also impacted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Being in a relationship with someone who is bipolar <\/b><b>can be difficult, it can also be just as rewarding as any other relationship with a fellow human.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This article will provide some tips on how to best support a partner who has bipolar disorder.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First of all, to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">deal with a bipolar person <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">it&rsquo;s important to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">develop open communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with supportive and trustworthy family members and friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Often, those who are in love with and are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nami.org\/personal-stories\/living-with-someone-with-bipolar-disorder\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">living with someone with bipolar disorder<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can feel helpless or scared to say the wrong thing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Developing open positive communication about your family&rsquo;s needs can help empower others to be helpful when you need them the most.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes just having a friend you can call to bring over a meal and chat during difficult times can make a world of difference.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/reasons-why-bipolar-relationships-fail\/\">bipolar relationships<\/a>, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">it&rsquo;s important to be patient and avoid the temptation to dive too deeply into research and clinical information as it can be overwhelming.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is potentially much to unlearn about bipolar disorder from what you have seen in the media before you can start learning about your partner&rsquo;s <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nimh.nih.gov\/health\/topics\/bipolar-disorder\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bipolar behavior<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Also watch:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/MdMSmHYXkds\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watching your partner have an episode can be unsettling and even triggering.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When symptomatic, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">people with bipolar disorder<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can have alarming symptoms and may say and do very uncharacteristic things. It can be hard to depersonalize when interactions feel tense or unpredictable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not everyone needs the same kind of support, so it can be helpful to develop a &ldquo;support toolkit&rdquo; during times of balance to help guide the couple through the rougher times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This toolkit should be continually evolving &ndash; updated as you discover new things that are helpful (or editing out things that aren&rsquo;t) so you can fine-tune it to be the most helpful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some tips that other couples have identified as helpful to get you started.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember &ndash; just because a tip is on this list doesn&rsquo;t mean it will be helpful to you and your situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>I recommend you look at these tips as menu options to discuss with your partner and potentially include in your toolkit.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Be-objective-and-patient\"><\/span>1. Be objective and patient<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-50167 size-full\" title=\"Be objective and patient\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/be-objective-and-patient.jpg\" alt=\"African And American Couple Promising In Resturant\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your partner&rsquo;s mood starts to shift, it can be helpful to reflect what you are seeing and hearing as objectively and patiently as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ideally, you will communicate about this when you are not feeling triggered. It can be helpful to root this conversation in a sense of love for your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Examples of this could be &ldquo;I&rsquo;ve noticed you seem more stressed than usual lately. You have been speaking a bit lower and faster than usual and a few of your facial expressions are ones I don&rsquo;t normally see you use&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or &ldquo;I&rsquo;ve noticed you have been staying up later and waking up before your alarm. You&rsquo;ve also taken on a lot of new projects this week and seem really energized. How are you feeling?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Get-professional-help\"><\/span>2. Get professional help<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making sure you are getting enough professional support is also really important in <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bipolar disorder relationships<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both you and your partner need support to help you navigate the emotional roller coaster that can often come with bipolar disorder.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Additionally, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/learn-how-couples-counseling-can-be-used-as-preventative-maintenance\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">couples&rsquo; therapy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can relieve the stress on both of you to solve the problems within the relationship yourself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Don&rsquo;t wait until there is a crisis to assemble a team of professionals you trust.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You want the team in place so they can help you navigate the whole process as skillfully as you can.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ideally, you will all work together as a team when things get difficult. For most people with bipolar disorder, this also involves a medication plan.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Plan-for-the-worst\"><\/span>3. Plan for the worst<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes bipolar disorder symptoms can rapidly go from minor to major. <\/span><b>It&rsquo;s important that your plan includes what to do when things escalate quickly.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may want to work with your prescribing provider to identify medication changes to put in place when your partner is feeling hypomanic or depressed, as well as a plan for if and when it becomes a bigger issue potentially needing hospitalization.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people keep a dose or two of a strong sedating medication on hand to use if they become severely symptomatic or too paranoid, for example, to trust the plan or the loved ones trying to help with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your plan should include information about the nearest emergency room and how to contact your doctor on off-hours.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Indulge-in-self-care\"><\/span>4. Indulge in self-care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-50168 size-full\" title=\"Indulge in self-care\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/indulge-in-self-care.jpg\" alt=\"Women Doing Push-Ups At Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-care is more important than it might seem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be exhausting to support a partner through bipolar disorder, and it&rsquo;s important to know where to set limits and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">take breaks for self-care<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Disregarding your own needs, while easy to do in the face of crisis, ultimately leads to burnout and potentially resentment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A plan should include tending to the needs of both partners &ndash; don&rsquo;t leave yourself out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Exercise, mediation, crafts, and sometimes just taking breaks can be essential ways to keep your fuel tank from hitting empty.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/how-to-find-the-best-therapist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">finding a good therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for yourself can be one of the most useful steps you can take.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Understand-your-partner%E2%80%99s-disorder\"><\/span>5. Understand your partner&rsquo;s disorder<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s also important to not frame everything about bipolar disorder as negative or &ldquo;symptoms.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To the person experiencing a hypomanic episode, things can feel great and productive. Many great creative works have emerged from hypomanic episodes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You wouldn&rsquo;t expect Vincent Van Gogh&rsquo;s girlfriend to say &ldquo;Oh no! You are painting <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">again<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?!&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>As a couple, it&rsquo;s important to <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/how-to-be-a-team-player-to-your-spouse\/\"><b>work together<\/b><\/a><b> to pick apart the good parts from the more dangerous parts and to develop language that feels helpful to everyone involved.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultimately, it&rsquo;s important that you and your partner keep your connection and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/taking-care-of-each-other\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">care for each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> at the center of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are feeling connected and balanced, it&rsquo;s important to take that opportunity to be present and open-hearted with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The trust and connection you develop when they are not symptomatic will help get you through some of the harder times down the road.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bipolar disorder is a psychiatric condition that affects over 4.4% of U.S. adults experience bipolar disorder at some time in their lives. Living with bipolar disorder can be an indescribably difficult experience that varies with every individual. Proper diagnosis can be tricky because many people only seek treatment for the depressive side of the experience. The &ldquo;up&rdquo; side can sometimes be quite pleasant and even desired for some people. That being said, the wrong diagnosis and treatment can be deeply disruptive to care and can even make symptoms worse. 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