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“When you are unhappy, I am unhappy.”<\/span><\/p>\n Does this phrase sound familiar? Unfortunately, many couples in a codependent marriage relate to each other from this assumption or even promise.<\/span><\/p>\n Are you in a codependent marriage or relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n In a codependent marriage it is not uncommon to have unhealthy, addictive codependent behavior prevalent in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Is this a problem?<\/span><\/p>\n Are mutual happiness and shared suffering not the very <\/span>core of true love<\/span><\/a>?<\/span><\/p>\n Apparently, many people believe that they are. Consequently, their way to show love is to<\/span><\/p>\n take on their partner’s feelings, especially the partner’s bad feelings. <\/span>Often, these feelings are in the range of stress, anxiety and depression.<\/span><\/p>\n The math of this is clear: <\/span>if both parties take on their partner’s bad feeling, both partners are unhappy most of the time<\/b>, or at least more time than they would be on their own.<\/span><\/p>\n