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Recently I was asked to write an article for marriage.com. The ironic part is that I have never been married.<\/span><\/p>\n However, I have listened to many clients over the years who were facing a conflict in marriage that could be traced back to communication issues in relationships, or rather a lack of communication.<\/span><\/p>\n The two most common <\/span>relationship communication problems<\/span><\/a> I have seen with individuals and couples have to do with one partner assuming or expecting their mind to be read.<\/span><\/p>\n The other relationship conflict is simply not taking responsibility for a mistake of any kind, such as saying and meaning “I’m sorry” or “I messed up.”<\/span><\/p>\n When you expect a certain result without clearly communicating your intentions, this can cause consequences going as far as resenting the other person.<\/span><\/p>\n Poor communication as a cause<\/a> of conflict is very common in relationships.<\/b><\/p>\n Research<\/span><\/a> has even suggested that the effectiveness of communication in marriage is a predictor for <\/span>martial satisfaction<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n One client I met had a particular desire to be appreciated. Who doesn’t?<\/span><\/p>\n This client has made the assumption that if he provides a certain level of care, this exact act should be reciprocated. When this does not happen, he will get very angry.<\/span><\/p>\n This person is essentially assuming, “since I do this, then I should get this back in return.<\/span><\/p>\n With no communication in marriage, when the person is not getting back what they assume they should, not only is this person angry, but the other party may very well feel <\/span>taken for granted<\/span><\/a>, causing resentment.<\/span><\/p>\n Mind reading thoughts usually begin with “should statements” such as “you should act this way when this happens” or “you should feel a certain level of gratitude each time I do this.”<\/span><\/p>\n Even if an event or the same situation has been repeated over a number of years, still it never hurts to fully clarify their intentions and desires for the other person.<\/span><\/p>\n Should statements come off as the other person invalidating your feelings?<\/span><\/p>\n “You don’t feel like that” or “you’re just too sensitive” is not only hurtful but can cause repercussions for the person as time passes, thinking their way of thinking is wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch:<\/strong> What Is a Relationship Conflict?<\/span><\/p>\nMiscommunication in marriage<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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